How Do I Know If He Really Cares About Me?

“No one ever fell in love without being a little bit brave.” – Mario Tomasello

There’s always that little section in the “falling in love” portion of a relationship where you do a quick gut check. Maybe this guy seems too good to be true. Maybe you’ve had enough heartbreak in the past that you’re hesitant to fully let yourself fall again.

No one could blame you for wanting some certainty before you invest your time, energy, and heart into another person. People can be fickle, dishonest, and confusing. Unfortunately, love is a maddeningly mysterious emotion and state of being. There’s always going to be a certain amount of blind faith and guesswork.

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At the same time, it’s only wise to observe your relationship to the best of your ability. Stay aware of the dynamics of your relationship. Consider the opinions of your loved ones, the people who want what’s best for you.

Look for the signs that he cares about you and sees a future with you. We’ve compiled a list of 16 of those signs below.

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How to Know if a Guy Doesn’t Like You

“Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you.” – Greg Behrendt

Dwelling on all the potential signs that a guy isn’t into you may seem like a bit of a downer. It’s definitely not the filter with which you want to view the person you’re crushing on. We all want to get swept up in the exciting feelings that accompany falling for someone. In that intoxicating rush of emotions, it can be supremely challenging to take a step back.

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As hard as it may be, it’s important that you do try to look at the situation objectively. In the long run, this is the kinder thing to do to yourself. It will save you time, energy, and possible heartbreak. Looking before you leap may not sound romantic, but it’s exactly the step that will steer you towards the right romance.

Before you fall head over heels for that mysterious fella you’ve had your eye on, take a beat and study the situation. Despite the endless, sometimes conflicting, streams of advice regarding how to understand them, guys are not as hard to read as you might expect.

Here’s our list of 31 signs that he’s not interested in you. Apply them to you and your crush and see if they ring any bells.

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We probably all have that one friend who, despite being shown all the right signs a guy likes her, remains uncertain. Maybe you, yourself, are that friend. It’s easy to second-guess yourself. Maybe he’s just really friendly! Maybe he’s flirty with everybody. We’ve all run these scenarios through our minds.

We’re also all likely familiar with the friend who assumes someone is into her, when in reality the evidence isn’t there. This situation is, of course, much worse. Even without a risky assumption like this, the world of romance is ripe with potential embarrassment and heartbreak.

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When considering all of this, it can be tempting to throw your hands in the air and say you give up. You might want to wait until a guy spells his interest out for you before letting yourself get caught up in the wondering.

To help you avoid this defeat, we’ve compiled a list of 16 signs that he’s truly interested in you.

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How Do You Know When Someone Doesn’t Like You?

If you find yourself asking whether or not a guy likes you, you probably do know the answer. Deep down. Annoyingly deep down.

When we meet someone we really like, it can be tough to view the situation objectively. Our friends can be helpful, thus the many conversations we engage in to solve the puzzle. How many times have you and your girlfriends bumped foreheads as you poured over the latest text from a guy? It’s fun to put on your detective hat and figure out if the flutter in your stomach is worth having.

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What’s more painful is when the evidence seems to point in a negative direction. It just sucks, and there’s no way around it. However, the best thing you can do is remain open to that possibility. The sooner you decipher how he feels, the sooner you can move on to bigger and better things.

Save your future self from unnecessary heartache by checking out our list of 12 signs that he’s just not feeling it.

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When a Man Likes a Woman, What Does He Do? Look for These Signs a Man is Interested!

Is it just me or does much of the dating advice online seem to cater towards a teenage audience? Teens today are able to take to the internet with their burning questions, which is great for them. Would anyone else have loved the opportunity to “Google” instructions for your first kiss? It would probably have been a better set-up for success than intently studying Ross and Rachel’s first big smooch on Friends.

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But for those of us not needing Mom to drive us to our movie date, it can be hard to find mature relationship advice. How can you figure out if a guy likes you when there’s zero chance of him leaving a note in your locker? Navigating adult flirtation can be tough.

To make this task a little easier, here’s our list of 26 classic signs a man likes you.

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The Very Best List of Really Random Questions to Ask a Guy

A lot of people get stuck when it comes to face-t0-face conversations .., maybe it’s because it’s not what we’re used to and it just seems way more intimidating than talking through a screen.

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Asking the right questions can open the gates for deeper communication and help you really get to know the other person. We usually categorize our question articles but the following list is pretty random. These unconventional questions are pretty out of the box but can lead to interesting answers … which can lead to interesting conversations.

Try them out with a boyfriend, crush or a guy you’d like to be dating.

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Making Out Tips: How To Make Out With Someone Properly (And Drive Them Crazy With Desire!)

There is nothing like that first kiss with someone you really like to get the tingles flowing. The only thing better is making out with that person for the first time.

It’s exciting and thrilling, but can also be nerve-racking and intimidating. You don’t want all that buildup to fall flat and definitely don’t want the electricity to fizzle out.

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Keeping a make-out session hot and exciting is easy enough when you know what to do. It essentially comes down to making your partner feel amazing physically and also emotionally. It’s about striking that balance between available and just out of reach and mixing it up so things stay fresh and exhilarating. And of course, being confident in whatever you’re doing.

Read on for tips for making out:

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Use These Deep Questions (To Ask a Guy) and Watch Him Get Serious and Personal With You!

If you’re looking for fun, lighthearted conversation topics well … you came to the wrong place. (Go here if you want fun questions to ask.)

If you want to get to know someone on a deep, profound level, then we’ve got exactly what you need.

Most people shy away from the deep stuff and as a result, most connections are surface level and superficial at best. The way to really connect and get to know someone is to go deep.

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These questions range from personal to philosophical. Some may bring up painful memories, others are mind-benders that are just interesting to think about.

Just know your audience. If it’s a guy you have a crush on that you don’t know so well, you may want to go with some of the more neutral questions. If it’s someone you connect with deeply, then these questions can help you take it to the next level.

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Why Men Pull Away After Sex (and What You Can Do About It!)

You’ve been seeing this guy and all is well and you decide it’s time to get between the sheets … and then everything changes. He pulls away after sex and you feel crushed and devastated. What happened? Is this just a thing guys do?

It could be a guy you’ve been seeing, or maybe a friend that you got a little too friendly with one night. No matter what the circumstances, it’s devastating to a woman when a guy withdraws after sex. And she can’t help but take it personally.

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So is it true that all men are after one thing? Do men really lose interest after sex? Are all men scumbags? No, no, and no.

Yes, sometimes men do pull away after sex but it’s not for the reasons you may think. Let’s get to the heart of the matter and look at what’s really going on here.

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This Or That Questions Game

Whether you want to get to know someone better or pass some time, this or that questions are a Loy of fun.

The questions are innocent enough that no one will feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. At the same time, you can learn a lot about someone! You can play it as a game with a group of people, or one on one with a guy you’re into. To play as a group, give everyone a coin (or anything that can be turned upside down) and have everyone put the coin up if they think it’s the first option, and down if they think it’s the second.

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To play one-on-one, just refer to this handy list of the absolute best this or that question and take turns asking each other. You can also try to guess what the other person will say. It’s sure to bring on a lot of laughs, and maybe even steer you into some interesting conversation.

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The Very Best Questions To Ask a Guy You Like

Talking to your crush is scary. You can freeze up and be reduced to a stumbling, bumbling fool and that’s not so sexy. On the one hand, you want to impress him. On the other, you don’t want to come across desperate or awkward.

Knowing the right questions to ask will make you cool confident and seem effortlessly charming. Why? Because people love talking about themselves! You don’t need to tell your crush about all your dazzling accomplishments. What will really win him over is if you ask meaningful questions and really listen to his answers. It’s as easy as that.

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However, you need to take some precaution. You don’t want to seem prying or obtrusive, so I came up with the ultimate list of questions to ask your crush.

These questions are innocent enough, but will still evoke revealing answers that will help you get to know him better, breaking that barrier and forming a deep connection.

It’s best to keep the conversation positive and light. You don’t want to dig too deep into his skeletons and emotional traumas. There is plenty of time to get into all that stuff, but if you’re in the early stages of a relationship, or if this is a guy you’re hoping to be in a relationship with, then keep it fun and upbeat.

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Ever get the tongue-tied feeling when talking to a guy you like? Do you dread those awkward silences that tend to creep in and wish you knew fun, interesting ways to keep the conversation going?

Well, look no further! You’ve come to the right place. When getting to know a guy you like, it’s important and very handy to have an arsenal of interesting questions to ask him, questions that go beyond “So what did you do today?”

A lot of people have a hard time connecting in an authentic way. We hold ourselves back, maybe because we don’t know how to get in there or maybe as a protective measure, and a connection can hit a wall at a certain point as a result.

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To help you break through that barrier and really get to know someone, we’ve come up with the ultimate list of cute questions to ask a guy you like.

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In the age of texting as a main mode of communication and using emojis and memes to express how we feel, it’s getting harder to build a deep connection. A lot of us are afraid of vulnerability and there are certain places we just won’t go … and few realize that this is the reason so many people have a hard time building genuine connections.

Asking the right questions can push past someone’s walls and get them to open up. You can learn a lot about one another and really form a deep bond and really get to know someone.

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The following list includes all types of personal questions. Some are fairly mild and others really get in there. Pick and choose what you feel comfortable with, and what you think your guy will be comfortable with. The most important rule is to not push too hard. Know when to back off and let it go when he doesn’t feel comfortable answering something, even if you might really, really want to know the answer.

And with that, here are 50 personal questions to ask a guy to get him to open up:

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You will find tons of content on how to tell if a guy likes you here on A New Mode. The reason? It’s probably the number 1 question women have when it comes to dating and relationships.

We’ve all been hurt in the past, many of us have experienced the pain of wanting someone who doesn’t like us back. And it hurts. It’s hard not to take it personally.

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Sometimes it’s clear as day when a guy likes you, other times it’s a little hard to tell. He seems like he’s interested, but it’s hard to be totally sure, and you don’t want to come right out and ask him and risk embarrassment or rejection.

That’s why we’ve created this handy list which includes every sign that a guy definitely likes you. You have to take the full picture into account. If he’s showing maybe 1-2 signs then he probably doesn’t have strong feelings for you, he may be somewhat interested. If you find yourself checking yes to most of these, then he definitely likes you.

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Why do men look at other women? It’s a question plaguing countless women.

I understand how hurtful it can be. You’re out with your guy, you’re having a nice time, and suddenly you notice his attention has shifted. You look around and see his eyes are fixed on a gorgeous girl walking nearby. And with that, the entire mood shifts.

You suddenly feel unattractive and low. You’re no longer having an enjoyable time with him, you just want to ring his neck. You may tell him outright that you’re upset, or you may go the passive-aggressive route and insist nothing is wrong when clearly something is. And with that, the evening takes a swift turn downhill.

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So is he just a big jerk who can’t control himself? Is he a sex-crazed deviant? Or maybe you’re just not hot enough for him, is that it?

No. None of these are the case.

Here is the truth about why men look at other women:

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Texting is our main mode of communication these days- it’s just the way it is, so much so that when someone actually calls you think there must be an emergency.

Asking the right questions can really open the gates for a deep, profound connection. But there is a huge difference between talking in person and chatting via text. When texting, you can’t really ask questions where answers will be long detailed stories, or where there are a lot of nuances.

Texting also isn’t the right forum to have a heavy or deep emotional conversation because a lot can get misinterpreted or lost in translation.

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Texting isn’t the time to get someone’s full life story, but you can still learn a lot about another person … when you know the right questions to ask,  questions that are little more creative than:“Hey whats up?” and  “How are you today?”

And with that, here is my compilation of the absolute best questions to ask a guy (or girl) over text.

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Conversations have a way of becoming quite dull- maybe it’s because the art of conversation has mostly been lost in the digital age of hiding behind our screens and communicating via gifs and emojis.

Asking the right questions is a powerful way to galvanize a conversation and create a connection. These fun questions cover a range of topics and are great for asking a guy you like, a guy you’re dating, a friend, a co-worker, anyone really!

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Some questions will reveal shocking information that may surprise you, some will bring out a hilarious story or maybe an embarrassing moment, some may open the door for deeper conversations.

Either way, they will steer you into interesting new directions.

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Love it or hate it,  texting is our main mode of communication these days. Given that, we basically have access to one another at all times, which can be a blessing or a curse.

When it comes to getting your ex-boyfriend back, texting can work to your advantage, making him miss you and want you back, as long as you use it wisely and know what you’re doing.

Of course, there is more to the story. You can’t just text your ex and then poof! He comes crawling back. The perfect text sent at the right time is what will pave the way for success. (If you want your ex back, you should also be sure to read this article on how to get your ex back in five steps when you’re done here.)

Texting your ex does pose a risk. The risk being that he rejects you or just doesn’t answer. You should always be prepared for that possibility and just be OK with it. If you won’t be able to handle things not turning out the way you want, then you aren’t ready to get back together with your ex in the first place and need to spend more time on your own working through things.

So let’s get into it and talk about how to get your ex back with a few simple texts:

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Everyone loves to laugh, that’s just a given. Humor is a great way to connect with anyone- from a guy you’re seeing to a friend to an employer. It is one of the best ways to bond and just let loose and have some fun.

Being funny comes easily to some people, and is not as easy for others. And everyone has a different scene of humor. Some people are silly, some are raw, some have a dry sense of humor, some have a perverted sense of humor, different strokes!

You don’t need to be a natural comedian to be funny. Sometimes asking the right questions can lead to some belly-aching laughter.

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To help you connect with a guy, or anyone really, using a little laughter, we came up with a list of the best funny questions to ask. They’re pretty universal, but you should also use your judgment and tweak as needed based on your relationship and the person’s sense of humor.

These questions are open-ended enough to spark some great conversation. You can either slip these questions into a conversation or tell him you found an awesome list of funny questions to ask someone online and why don’t you give it a try?
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So you met a great guy, he got your number, you were really excited about all the possibilities … and then you never heard from him. Ouch.

A lot of women make the mistake of blaming themselves. They wonder if they did something wrong, if they turned him off somehow, if they were too desperate or too cold or too aggressive and so on.

I get it. Rejection hurts no matter what your gender or who you are.

I hate to admit it, but I’ve gotten numbers and never called more times than I could even recall. It’s not because I’m a bad guy, it’s because I’m human. I don’t always know how I’m going to feel about something a day from now or even an hour from now. A lot of the time a guy will get your number because he thinks maybe this is something he wants to pursue, but then for whatever reason, he changes his mind, or something comes up. That’s really what’s at the heart of it, not him being a jerk or a player.

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I’ve had girls give me the wrong number (I always like to pretend they did this by accident because self-deception can come in handy when it comes to protecting the old ego!), and yeah it hurts, but you move on.

So let’s take a look at why a guy will get your number, and then never call or text you.

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The 21 Questions game is a fun and easy way to get to know someone. The rules are pretty simple. You just ask someone 21 random questions and enjoy finding out the answers. Then they can follow by asking you 21 random questions.

You can play it in a group, but I personally think it’s much better one on one, or maybe with three people max. If you go beyond that, it can get a bit tedious. The best way to play if you are going to do it as a group is to just go around the circle with each person having to answer one question.

But like I said, that’s not as fun. Games like Truth or Dare or Never Have I Ever or Would You Rather are much better suited for groups.

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21 Questions is the perfect game to play with a guy you like, I think it’s the ideal. It’s a great way to break outside the typical flirty banter and really connect on a deeper level.
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It seems like pulling off the “cute” look comes naturally to some women. For those who have a harder time with that particular look, it can be bewildering trying to figure out how they are doing it.

The reason it’s hard to pinpoint is that it’s not just about finding the perfect shoes or styling your hair a particular way. It’s a vibe you send out, and that begins with your mindset.

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Be yourself, even if there are parts of you that wouldn’t quite fit under the label of “cute.” In fact, some women recoil at the very idea of being “cutesy.”

But some women would love to be perceived as an adorable heart-melter. If this sounds like you, here are some handy tips for upping your “cute factor.”

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So you have been broken up with, which sounds only slightly better than saying you have been “dumped,” and you want to know how much time you have to get your ex back before he/she moves on to a rebound relationship or something more long term.

So often in life, we find ourselves in situations where timing is crucial. To get the best deal we have to be at the store before they sell out of what we want to buy. To be seriously considered for the job, we have to at least be there on time and excuses for being late will get us nowhere but maybe even make us look worse.

We are taught that being “on time” and reaction time are of the utmost importance. So when the person who is now your ex appears to be “moving on” or is spotted with someone else, we fall back on our training and feel that we have to pounce or else risk losing the one we love forever.

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How wrong that line of thinking usually is.

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What does it take to be a good girlfriend?

We all know what a bad girlfriend looks like. She’s the classic needy, clingy demanding, irrational, difficult woman who makes her guy’s life pretty miserable. We’ve seen this portrayed many times over in movies and on TV.

But what does a good girlfriend look like? She brings far less drama than the bad girlfriend, so maybe she doesn’t make for great dramatic TV, but she makes a much better life partner!

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No woman sets out to push a guy away, but a lot do because they let their fears and insecurities wreak havoc on the relationship. I’ve had countless experiences where I dated a woman who seemed amazing at first, but then it was almost like she flipped a switch and became someone else. This is why following rules to get a guy doesn’t work. Sure, you can attract him initially, but you can’t keep him unless you have the right internal foundation.

But enough talk. Let’s look at exactly what it takes to be the best girlfriend he’s ever had:

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Some women naturally attract men, it’s easy and effortless for them. Others don’t no matter how hard they try. So what’s the secret?

It’s not a matter of looks. It’s not always the most traditionally beautiful woman that seems to effortlessly ooze charm. Copying her hairstyle or buying the same brand of mascara isn’t going to do the trick.

In fact, some gorgeous women take great efforts to beautify themselves and still find it difficult to bewitch men in the same way others can. This is because attracting another person goes deeper than that. It goes beyond your physical appearance.

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And the good news there is that it means it’s mostly under your control! The mindset that will enable you to do this filters into various parts of your life. It’s not just a matter of changing your lipstick. It’s about a vibe and energy that is effortlessly transmitted.

To learn how to adopt the persona of an easily magnetic woman, the woman who can attract any man, check out the steps below.

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Flirting is one of those things that seems to be second nature to some, but is an entirely foreign language to others. Unfortunately, like with kissing, if you get too “in your own head” about it, it only becomes harder.

Try to remember that flirting is supposed to be fun. Don’t take it too seriously. If you award it too much weight, it becomes downright scary – so relax. (I know, easier said than done.)

A playful, flirtatious banter is like a tennis match. It can feel exhilarating when you get into a good groove with someone. If you’re interested in a guy who is a little nervous, some mild flirting can be the push he needs to make his move.

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Here are some savvy tips to step up your flirting game.

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The only people in life who don’t have a story about being rejected are unsuccessful, lonely people who have never tried at anything. Anyone who has succeeded in anything has also failed. This is just as true in relationships as it is in business, sports, or any other area where you have to put yourself out there.

Being rejected means you are in excellent company.

Despite knowing that rejection is a part of the human experience, it’s still really tough not to internalize it. It’s hard not to take it personally, even though when we have to reject others in life we hope they don’t take it personally. You can’t help but feel like it’s a reflection of your flaws.

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Rejection can come in small packages or grand lessons. It could be as simple as a guy not messaging you back on a dating app. Other times it’s as awful as a long-term partner telling you he doesn’t love you anymore.

Regardless of the cause of the rejection, you absolutely have to learn how to deal with it. If you don’t, you won’t be able to live the full life that you deserve. Here’s some advice on how to do exactly that.

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“You have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince!”

How many times has that phrase been cheerfully offered after a bad date (or three)? Dating can be so stressful that it sometimes feels like you’re taking a year off of your life every time you put yourself out there. There may be many times when you’re tempted to quit. Times when you want to just call the whole thing off, where you resign yourself to the fact that maybe you’ll just end up alone.

You may commiserate with your single friends by swapping dating horror stories. While these can be comical when told to an audience afterward, living through them is boring, at best. At worst – it’s frightening and sometimes downright torturous.

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We come up with positive clichés to pass around in the hopes of making the exhausting struggle seem commonplace. Sometimes this works, and other times it just feels more depressing.

But the truth is, there is a way to make dating more enjoyable and to gain from the experience, rather than feeling like you’re losing your dignity and your mind. With the right tips and the right things to keep in mind, you can actually learn a lot about yourself, and maybe even find that special someone.

Here are some tips for navigating modern dating.

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“It is the differences between men and women, not the sameness, that creates the tension and the delight.” – Edward Abbey

Men and women are, undeniably, different. While these differences are something to be celebrated, it can make communication a challenge. It takes empathy and a desire for connection to break through these barriers.

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You can’t routinely expect a man to want to hear the same things as you do. What makes you feel happy and loved is not always going to be what does the equivalent for him.

If you’re feeling a little lost about what your man wants to hear, here’s a list of suggestions to get started.

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