He ended things, and you can’t stop wondering: Is he hurting like you are? Does he feel anything at all?

The days since your breakup have been a rollercoaster of tears, anger, and questioning everything. Meanwhile, your ex seems completely unfazed.

And it hurts like hell.

I see this all the time. You’re lying awake at 2 AM, replaying every moment, wondering: “Was it all fake?” “Did he ever really care?” “How can he just move on while I’m still crying myself to sleep?”

You’ve got two questions burning in your mind: “What’s really going on with him?” and either “How do I get him back?” or “How do I finally move past this pain?”

Let me be straight with you – what you’re seeing on the surface is not the whole story.

Here’s what most women don’t realize: breakups hit guys hard too, even when they’re the ones who end it.

He’s acting cold and distant? That’s often a mask.

In fact, if he’s acting particularly terrible afterward, that might actually show just how much the breakup is messing him up inside.

Some guys lash out or go ice-cold when they’re hurting the most.

What I’m about to share with you are the 7 hidden stages almost every male dumper goes through.

I’ve seen this pattern hundreds of times with women I’ve worked with.

Understanding these stages will give you x-ray vision into his mind, help you make sense of his confusing actions, and most importantly – put you back in control.

Whether you want him back or need to finally heal and move on, this insight changes everything. [continue reading…]

I’ve seen it a thousand times.

That moment right after a breakup when your heart feels like it’s being ripped from your chest. Your mind races with memories. And every cell in your body is screaming at you to call him, text him, do something to stop this pain.

I get it. That urge to reach out feels overwhelming. You just want to get your ex back so things can go back to the way they were.

But here’s what you need to understand: The relationship you had is gone.

Not the guy – the relationship. That specific relationship, with all its patterns and problems, didn’t work. That’s why you broke up.

What you really want isn’t the old relationship that failed. You want something better – a new relationship with the same guy, but built on stronger ground.

And I’m going to show you exactly how to get that in this article.

After helping thousands of women get their ex back, I’ve discovered what actually works versus destroys your chances (but feels right to do in the moment).

This isn’t about tricks or games. It’s a step-by-step method that transforms you into the woman he’ll be desperate to win back – and keeps him this time. [continue reading…]

You’re trying everything to make your relationship work. You text him good morning, you’re always available when he calls, you cook his favorite meals. But something’s off. He’s growing distant, and you can’t figure out why.

I’ve watched this scenario unfold countless times. Women come to me confused and hurt, showing me their text conversations and telling me about all the thoughtful things they’ve done. They’re genuinely baffled when their best efforts seem to push their man further away.

Here’s what most women don’t realize: many of the behaviors you think will bring a man closer often do exactly the opposite. It’s not your fault – nobody sits you down and teaches you how men actually think and respond in relationships.

When I talk about ways women push men away, I’m not playing the blame game. I’m sharing what I’ve learned from years of working with real couples and seeing patterns that repeat over and over. This isn’t about making excuses for men or criticizing women. It’s about showing you what actually works so you can have the relationship you really want.

In this article, I’ll walk you through 15 common mistakes that drive men away. Some might surprise you. Others might hit a little too close to home. But don’t worry – for every problem, I’m giving you a practical solution you can use right away.

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Is he just busy, or is something really wrong?

You’ve probably been asking yourself this question for weeks.

Something feels different, but you can’t quite put your finger on it.

One day he seems engaged, the next day distant. You’re analyzing texts, searching for hidden meanings, wondering if you’re overthinking.

I get it. That uncertainty is exhausting.

Most relationships involve two good people trying to figure things out. He’s not some jerk knowingly stringing you along.

But something’s off, and you just want clarity.

By the end of this article, you’ll know exactly how to tell if he’s no longer interested in you and where you stand.

We’ll look at the biggest signs a guy isn’t interested anymore, what these signs mean and what to do if your guy is losing interest. [continue reading…]

That moment after a breakup hits you like a ton of bricks. Your heart aches. Your mind races. And every part of you wants to reach out to him right now.

I get it. You want to text him, call him, show up at his place – anything to make the pain stop.

But I’m going to tell you something that might surprise you: doing the exact opposite is your best move right now.

The No Contact rule isn’t just some random advice I made up. I’ve seen it work countless times over my 23 years of helping women through breakups. And there are real, practical reasons why it works so well.

Here’s the truth: No Contact is powerful whether you want to learn how to get your ex boyfriend back OR how to get over him. It’s the most effective approach for both outcomes.

And later, I’ll share an industry secret that most “get your ex back” coaches won’t tell you – the paradoxical reason why moving on emotionally is actually your best shot at getting him back (and why No Contact helps with this more than anything else).

But does the no contact rule really work? The answer is a resounding yes – and I’m going to share the 11 specific reasons why the no contact rule always works. This isn’t fluffy advice – I’m going to show you exactly why this approach works at a deep level.

And let me be clear about something: this isn’t just about getting back together. It’s about setting the stage for something better than what you had before – a relationship that actually works this time. Understanding why No Contact works will help you stick with it, even when it feels really hard. [continue reading…]

You send a text and stare at your phone for hours, wondering why he hasn’t replied…

Sound familiar?

Or he disappears for days at a time, then comes back with a message that just melts you, making you think you were crazy to doubt things…

Until he disappears again.

It’s exhausting, isn’t it?

That constant state of wondering where you stand with a guy.

Analyzing every word, every delayed response, trying to figure out if he’s interested or just stringing you along.

I’ve seen it countless times over my many years of writing about relationships – that cycle of analyzing texts, calls, and interactions, looking for hidden meaning behind every word and action.

The phrase “he’s just not that into you” might sound cliché, but there’s a reason it resonated with millions of women – because sometimes, the truth is hiding in plain sight.

This article will cut through the confusion and give you five unmistakable signs that he’s not truly interested, so you can see your situation clearly and know what to do next.

These signs come from real relationship experiences and patterns that show up time and again when a man’s interest level is low. [continue reading…]

OK, so clearly you like this guy, otherwise you wouldn’t be asking about signs he likes you…

Let’s get straight to what you came here for.

You want to know if he’s into you. You’re looking for those clear signs that tell you, “Yes, this guy is interested in me.”

I’ve seen this question pop up more times than I can count. And I get why it’s confusing. Maybe you’ve barely spoken to him, or perhaps you’ve had some interaction but can’t tell if he’s just being friendly. Or maybe you’re somewhere in between.

You don’t want to put yourself out there only to face rejection. I get it. Reading the signs wrong could lead to an awkward situation that you’d rather avoid.

No wonder you’re on an emotional roller coaster.

But here’s something that might surprise you – when a guy likes you, it’s usually pretty obvious. I’ll prove it to you.

In this article, you’ll discover the real signs he’s attracted to you (ones most women completely miss), why you’ve been misreading his signals, and I’ll even share a foolproof way to know if he likes you with 100% certainty – without risking rejection or awkwardness. [continue reading…]

How many times have you found yourself analyzing his messages, overthinking his comments or wondering if that guy you like feels the same way?

I get it. That feeling of uncertainty can drive you crazy, turning what should be exciting into an emotional roller coaster.

The problem is, it’s easy to see what you want to see – or miss what’s right in front of you. I’ve watched this play out hundreds of times, and I’ve noticed something interesting…

When a guy likes you, it’s usually pretty obvious. You just need to know what you’re looking for.

By the time you finish reading, you’ll know exactly which signs matter, and you’ll never have to wonder “does he like me?” again. I’ll share 15 clear signs to watch for, a powerful mindset shift that changes everything or a foolproof way to know for sure if he’s into you. [continue reading…]

You’re staring at your phone, analyzing his latest text for the hundredth time. The butterflies in your stomach are real, but you’re not sure if they’re justified or if you’re just reading too much into his actions.

Is he genuinely falling for you, or are you seeing what you want to see?

I get it. That uncertainty can be overwhelming. One minute he’s attentive and affectionate, the next he seems distant. You find yourself questioning everything – his words, his actions and your own judgment.

How can you really know if he truly loves you?

By the end of this article, you’ll have the clarity you need to see his feelings for what they are. No more guessing games or second-guessing yourself. [continue reading…]

He seemed so into you—texting first, making future plans—and then one day, he vanished.

No explanation, no goodbye. Just radio silence where there was once constant communication.

It hurts. It’s confusing. And it can leave you questioning everything about yourself.

That moment when you realize he’s not just “busy” but has actually disappeared from your life triggers a whirlwind of emotions.

In this article, I’ll walk you through exactly why men disappear and how to handle it so you can find closure and move forward. [continue reading…]

Have you ever experienced this?

Things were going great with a guy. He was attentive, affectionate, and seemed genuinely interested in you. The chemistry was undeniable.

Then suddenly, almost out of nowhere, something changed. His texts became less frequent. He started taking longer to respond.

The passion and enthusiasm he once showed just… vanished.

And you’re left wondering: What happened? What changed?

You know you weren’t imagining his interest. It was real. You could feel it. And you also know something definitely changed between you two.

But what?

One moment, everything is perfect, and the next, he seems to be pulling away. It leaves you confused, hurt, and desperately searching for answers.

In this article, I’m going to tell you exactly why men suddenly lose interest and pull away – and more importantly, what to do about it. [continue reading…]

So you’ve got a guy you’re friends with and somewhere along the line you develop feelings for him. Unfortunately, he only sees you as a friend.

Tough situation. It happens to guys and it happens to girls and oftentimes, it can cause more heartbreak than an actual breakup.

Why?

Well maybe one (or all) of these scenarios apply to your situation. You get along better with him than anyone else. You “get” each other. He’s the only guy that you’ve ever felt truly understands you and with whom you can truly be yourself. He’s cute, he’s funny, and when he’s around you, he completely lets his guard down.  You get to see him as the man he truly is – an unguarded version of himself that he hides from the world and only seems to let you see.

You trust each other.  You might even say that you love each other. And you love every little thing about him… you can talk for hours or even just be with each other in silence… and you know exactly what the other person is thinking.

So why, in the midst of this seemingly perfect situation, aren’t you any more than friends?  Or worse, why (when you told him how you felt about him) does he say, “I really love you. You’re the most important girl in the world to me and I’ll always be there for you but I can’t be in a relationship with you – we need to just be friends.”

Well, I’ll give you a few reasons and I’ll also give you the ultimate pull-no-punches guide to getting out of the friend zone.

If you’re going through a breakup right now, I know exactly what you’re feeling. That burning ache in your chest. The constant thoughts about your ex. The overwhelming urge to pick up your phone and text them.

I’ve been helping women through breakups for over 22 years, and I can tell you something with complete confidence: The No Contact Rule is about to become your best friend.

Let me walk you through exactly what this rule is, why it works so powerfully, and how to use it to not only heal your heart but potentially set the stage for your ex to come crawling back, begging for another chance. [continue reading…]

I’ve been getting mixed signals from a guy I work with.  He’s funny and nice to me… but he’s an easy guy to like.  He flirts with me, but I can’t tell if he’s just charming in general or if it’s because he’s attracted to me and interested…

I’d love to know what you’d consider the biggest, best, most clear signs a guy likes you… I just want to be sure whether or not he’s into me before get too excited…

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Maybe this sounds familiar…

Things start off amazing with this guy. The chemistry is electric.

He’s texting you all the time, making plans, showing up consistently.

You feel that spark of connection that makes you think, “This could really be something special.”

Then suddenly… something changes.

His texts become less frequent. He cancels plans or is vague about making new ones.

That eagerness you felt from him? It’s fading.

And now you’re left wondering what happened and what you might have done wrong.

I’ve spent the last 22 years helping women navigate this exact situation, and I can tell you that when a man pulls away, it’s happening for one of three specific reasons.

And it’s rarely what you think it is.

I’m going to break down exactly what’s really happening when he goes distant, because once you see the full picture, you’ll not only understand why it’s happening but exactly what you can do about it. [continue reading…]

There is this guy who I see often but have never actually spoken to. The only contact has really been him indirectly talking to me. One time he told someone that I was a “good kid”, when I was standing right next to him.

He also stares at me sometimes and then doesn’t look away when I catch his glace. There are other things along those lines as well.

Does he like me or am I overreacting?

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Have you ever wondered why the guy you’re with acts like he loves you one day, but the next day you’re not so sure?

Maybe you’re frustrated because no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to figure out what’s really going on inside his head.

It feels confusing and exhausting—like you’re always guessing, always wondering what he’s actually feeling.

If that sounds familiar, you’re in the right place.

Most love advice articles out there talk about attraction mainly in terms of biology—things like physical features, pheromones or basic instincts.

But what they’re not telling you is what happens psychologically that makes a man genuinely fall in love and choose a woman for a committed relationship.

It’s not just about attraction or chemistry; it’s about certain qualities and behaviors in you that signal to him, deep down, you’d be good for him in the long run.

These are the signals that speak directly to his emotional wiring, making him feel like you’re the woman who brings out his absolute best.

Essentially, he’s subconsciously scanning for these signals to be there and when they are, love happens.

In this article, I’m going to show you exactly why men fall in love, explained in a way that’ll finally make sense.

You’ll see clearly why he does what he does, why he acts the way he acts and most importantly, you’ll understand how to become the woman who naturally brings out his deepest feelings. [continue reading…]

Believe it or not, getting your ex-boyfriend back isn’t that hard.

In fact, getting an ex to come back can actually be really easy with a couple tricks.

If you’re fresh off a breakup this might sound impossible, but it’s true.

I’ve seen it happen thousands of times – a woman follows these specific steps and her ex comes crawling back, sometimes literally begging to get back together.

It happens so predictably that I’m always amazed more women don’t know about this.

The tricky part isn’t getting him back – it’s keeping him once he’s back.

Most women who get back with their ex-boyfriends end up losing him again. I’ve seen this pattern play out over and over.

They’re thrilled when he comes back, but within a few months (sometimes even weeks), they’re dealing with another painful breakup.

Why does this happen?

Because the same problems that destroyed the relationship before are still there. Nothing’s changed.

If you want to get him back and keep him, you need a proven plan that works. And more than that, you need to know the mistakes you must avoid if you want him back.

This is why I’m not just going to show you how to get your ex back – I’m going to show you exactly how to get him back in a way that leads to a stronger, healthier relationship than you had before.

In this article, I’m going to give you a complete 5 step plan that covers everything.

Let’s get into the plan now. [continue reading…]

You’ve noticed it—the texts that once flooded your phone, the excitement in his eyes when he saw you, the spark you felt whenever you were together… It all feels different now. You’re wondering why he stopped chasing you and the uncertainty is driving you crazy.

But before panic sets in, there’s something important you need to know: the end of the chase doesn’t always mean the end of interest. In fact, the shift you’re feeling might actually be a sign of deeper connection, a natural progression into something more real and authentic.

Of course, sometimes the change means trouble—so how do you tell the difference?

That’s exactly what we’re going to talk about here. I’m going to show you exactly why he stopped chasing, what’s really happening in his mind and what you can do right now to regain control of the relationship’s direction. [continue reading…]

There’s a guy who I’m really interested in, but there are all sorts of women throwing themselves at him and I need to stand out from the crowd.

I am not unattractive, but I don’t feel like I’m necessarily the hottest woman in the room either… I think I can look good if I really put in the effort.  I don’t have trouble with guys in general, but I really want this particular guy and since there’s competition, I really want to know how to seduce a man and how to hook a man’s interest.  Can you tell me what works best?

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You sent a text hours ago. No response. You check your phone for the twentieth time. Still nothing. And now you’re wondering: “Why hasn’t he texted back? Is he losing interest? Is something wrong?”

I get it. It’s frustrating. It’s confusing. And it can drive you absolutely crazy.

Why do guys take so long to text back?

The truth is, there’s actually a pattern to how men text that 99% of women don’t know. Once you know it, you’ll always know what he’s really thinking behind his texts to you.

Let’s get into what’s really going on when a guy doesn’t text back and why it can drive you crazy. [continue reading…]

You’ve been seeing this guy for a while now, and things seem to be going well. But there’s a nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach that something’s not quite right.

Maybe you’re wondering if he’s really in it for the long haul or if you’re just spinning your wheels in a relationship that’s going nowhere.

I get it. It’s a tough spot to be in, and it’s totally normal to feel uncertain. But here’s the thing: when a guy is truly committed to you, it shows in his actions, not just his words.

I’m going to break down the seven major signs that he’ll never commit, so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start seeing the situation for what it really is. [continue reading…]

You’ve been feeling it for a while now. He’s been pulling away, and suddenly he drops the bomb: “I need space.”

Your heart sinks, and your mind races. Is this the end? What should you do?

First, take a deep breath.

This situation isn’t as dire as it might seem right now.

In fact, when you handle it right, you can turn things around and come out stronger on the other side. [continue reading…]

You’re stuck. You can’t stop thinking about him. Every notification makes your heart race, hoping it’s him. But deep down, you know the truth: he’s not into you. And it hurts like hell.

I get it. Over the years, I’ve helped thousands of women navigate this exact situation. It’s one of the most common and painful experiences in dating. You’re not alone and you’re not crazy for feeling this way.

Here’s what most people don’t understand: it’s not about rejection. It’s about disappointment. You built up hope, imagined a future with this guy and now that dream feels shattered. But I’ve got good news for you: your dreams aren’t dead. They just need to be replanted.

In this article, I’m going to show you how to do that. I’ll give you practical, actionable steps to not just get over him, but to create a life you love – with or without a man

You might be thinking, “Eric, I’ve tried to move on before. Nothing works.” I hear you. But the strategies I’m about to share aren’t about willpower or just “getting over it.” They’re about rewiring your brain and shifting your focus in a way that makes moving on inevitable.

The best part? As you follow these steps, you’ll become more attractive, confident and ready for a real relationship when the right guy comes along.

Let’s get into it. [continue reading…]

Every day, I hear from women who are frustrated with their love lives. They’re smart, successful, and have so much to offer – yet they struggle to understand the men they’re with.

Why won’t he commit? Why does he need so much space? What’s really going on in his head?

I’ve been a relationship coach for over 2 decades, and I’ve heard these questions countless times.

When I first started coaching, I was surprised by how much women misunderstood about men’s emotional experiences. It wasn’t that women weren’t trying. They just didn’t have the right roadmap.

That’s why I’m writing this article. Most relationship advice is so focused on solving an immediate problem that there isn’t much great content about how to understand men.

The thing is, when you understand men better, you avoid having almost all relationship problems in the first place.

Trust me, once you see these patterns, you’ll never look at your relationships the same way again.

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My ex broke up with me last month after being together for over a year. The last few months were rough because his grandmother passed away after being in the hospital for a few months. I tried to be there for him but he totally withdrew and would reject my advances and we started fighting a lot because of it.

He told me he loves me, but felt like I was smothering him and he needed to find himself. I told him I would give him space while he figured things out but he said he couldn’t ask me to do that. I asked if there was a chance for us once he got things sorted and he said he isn’t sure if he sees a future. He said he worships the ground I walk on and should never change because I was perfect in the relationship and will go far in life whereas he feels like he has nothing to offer since he is grieving and stuck in a job he doesn’t like.

He suggested we stay friends but I told him that would be too hard on me and he said I can contact him anytime. I know I came across needy over the last couple of months and am wondering if there’s anything I can do to get him back. Should I text him? Try to stay friends? Is there any hope of getting him back?

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My ex and I had a perfect nine months: no fights, some arguments of course, but everything was great.

I was always worried a little about this ex girlfriend. She left him for another guy and he never got over it… or over her I guess.

When she became available again, he left me for her!  I don’t understand what happened … I just know I want him back.  What should I do?

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“I’ve been seeing this guy for a little while now and it seems like sometimes he’s interested and sometimes he’s not. I feel like I don’t really have him and I feel like I don’t know how to hold his interest and make him want me more.

I notice this the most when we’re texting. Sometimes he’s there texting back and forth with me, sometimes he disappears for hours or days or doesn’t really seem to engage in the conversation.

MORE: Exactly How to Get a Guy to Text You Back

There are all kinds of videos and articles about text messages that make him want you, but a lot of the advice seems unrealistic or ridiculous. Can you tell me what works to make a man interested over text?”

What does it take to get a man to truly commit and want only you? It’s a question I’ve been asked more times than I could count.

What men desire most is a woman who inspires them to be their best self. Being that woman is a much different mindset than what most women typically do these days.

So what’s the major error that trips women up? It’s their focus. Instead of focusing on the feelings and experience they create for the man, the woman fixates on her own wants, her own worries, her own fears.

And amidst this completely self-absorbed mindset consumed by what she wants, it’s no wonder that she’s unable to hook a man’s interest in a significant way, one that goes beyond just hooking up.

Sure, that woman might cook him dinners, perform in bed, and tell him how much she likes him, but none of that stuff penetrates a man’s psychology on a deep and meaningful level.

Forget about just getting commitment. When you understand and master the art of tapping into the deep parts of a man’s psyche, he will want to move mountains to possess you.

MORE: 5 Signs He’ll Never Commit to You

Men don’t start out there when they first meet a woman, though. She needs to reach him at that level by recognizing his ambitions, his fears, his motivations, his “mission” in life and where he ultimately wants to “win.”

Here are four ways to reach a man deeply and make him want to commit and devote himself fully to you. [continue reading…]