What does it take to get a man to truly commit and want only you? It’s a question I’ve been asked more times than I could count.

What men desire most is a woman who inspires them to be their best self. Being that woman is a much different mindset than what most women typically do these days.

So what’s the major error that trips women up? It’s their focus. Instead of focusing on the feelings and experience they create for the man, the woman fixates on her own wants, her own worries, her own fears.

And amidst this completely self-absorbed mindset consumed by what she wants, it’s no wonder that she’s unable to hook a man’s interest in a significant way, one that goes beyond just hooking up.

Sure, that woman might cook him dinners, perform in bed, and tell him how much she likes him, but none of that stuff penetrates a man’s psychology on a deep and meaningful level.

Forget about just getting commitment. When you understand and master the art of tapping into the deep parts of a man’s psyche, he will want to move mountains to possess you.

MORE: 5 Signs He’ll Never Commit to You

Men don’t start out there when they first meet a woman, though. She needs to reach him at that level by recognizing his ambitions, his fears, his motivations, his “mission” in life and where he ultimately wants to “win.”

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I know I am a woman of high value, worth and integrity. However, I tend to attract emotionally unavailable men and struggling what to do about this issue.

I have been told I am an alpha female and have toned down a bit since re-entering the dating scene. I think men are now attracted to me due to my recent career success, yet I think the right men are intimidated by me. Any insight?

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Dating isn’t always black or white, especially when it comes to exclusivity. Sometimes it can feel like you’re a couple, but you just can’t say for sure.

So how do you know if you’re an official couple yet? Is it something that must be declared on social media? Is it when the other person deletes their dating apps? Sometimes it feels like you’re exclusive, but until you have “the talk,” you can’t know for sure.

Naturally, no one loves being the first one to bring this topic up. You don’t want to come across as clingy or desperate. If things are going really well, it’s tempting to avoid any potential rocking of the boat.

MORE: How to Tell If You’re Exclusive (Without Needing to Ask)

Even with all that said… you want to know! Is he seeing other people or not? If you’re not ready to bring up the subject directly, check out these signs he’s seeing other people.

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It’s a terrible, sinking sensation, one you wish you could ignore … that feeling when you suspect your man wants to break up.

None of us want to experience that. Sometimes, our understandable reluctance ends up blinding us to the reality of a situation. It’s easier to claim you can’t tell if he wants to break up than to admit you just don’t want to see the facts.

We get it! It’s deceptively easy to slip into denial on this one.

MORE: How to Get Over Even The Worst Break Up

But by keeping yourself honest and open to seeing the truth, you do both yourself and your partner a favor. It could be that your relationship is 100% salvageable if you act now. Or maybe it’s time for you to move on to something that’s a better fit. Either way, you deserve the truth.

Here are the top 11 signs he wants to break up:

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A lot of women are afraid to compliment men because they’ve been told that it’s unattractive to show too much interest.

This just isn’t true. If a guy likes a girl and she shows interest, that’s a good thing! That makes him happy and makes him want to take things further. What’s unattractive is a needy woman who bends over backward to please a guy and prove she’s worthy of his attention because she doesn’t feel good about herself and his approval will mean she’s “worthy.”

MORE: What Men Want to Hear From Women (But Would Never Admit) 

If you like a guy and are pretending to not be interested in order to get him to like you that just tells him you’re immature and he’ll probably lose interest real quick. Now at the same time, coming on too strong and not leaving him any room to pursue you can also be a bit much so don’t take things too far.

But compliments are great. They feel great. Just think about the last time someone paid you a genuine compliment. It’s an amazing feeling.

Read on for compliments that will really reach your man and make him feel good.

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What are the signs a man wants to be with you and is serious about you?

We’ve all had this thought — I mean, no one wants to waste their time and end up broken-hearted. There is nothing worse than being blindsided, and this happens all too often. You meet a guy, let yourself be overcome by fluttery feelings and you ride a wave of high hopes for what the future will hold … only to discover he doesn’t feel the same and doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

Discovering a guy you like doesn’t like you back is crushing. Conversely, discovering a guy you like really likes you back and wants to be with you and wants a serious relationship with you is exhilarating and quite possibly one of the most amazing feelings in the world.

MORE: 5 Signs He’s Never Going to Commit 

Fortunately, there are some pretty strong telltale signs that a guy is serious about you, they’re things that pretty much all guys do when they really like a woman.

And here they are…

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Texting is our main mode of communication these days so it makes sense that’s where you would look when trying to figure out how a guy feels about you.

It’s incredibly frustrating to just sit around and wonder how he feels about you. You can see there just might be something between you but don’t quite know where he stands.

MORE: Know For Sure If He Likes You Or Not After Reading This Article

While texting is popular, it is not always clear what is being communicated. You have a disadvantage with texting because you can’t read his body language or hear the tone of his voice. You can’t pick up on subtle nuances as you can in person.

Even still, there are clear signs that he likes you that you can discover through text messages. So let’s dig in and take a closer look at the signs a guy likes you through texting.

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Here’s a common scenario: you have a guy friend who is starting to feel like more than a friend, but you’re not sure if he feels the same. As far as you’re concerned you have great chemistry, really enjoy each other, and get along great … everything just seems to click.

Maybe this is a guy you’ve known for a while, or maybe you just met him. Either way, it feels like more than friendship, at least to you. And you just want to know what’s going on and what his deal is and if he has real feelings for you as well.

You don’t want to come right out and ask because then you risk ruining the friendship and making things awkward. But you can’t quite shake the feeling that your romantic interest isn’t one-sided.

Should you get your hopes up? Here are 21 of the biggest signs that he definitely feels something more:

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In today’s world of endless social media and digital communication, sexting is more relevant than ever, and it’s an important and effective way to seduce a man.

But let’s be real, not everyone is so comfortable sending sexy texts. The big fear is coming across as awkward or desperate.

The most important rule to keep in mind when sending sexy texts is to do what feels comfortable and natural to you. This is about getting in touch with your sensuality, and sharing that with your partner (which, in turn, will get him very much in touch with his sensuality, and from there the flames of passion will really ignite!)

Your vibe is everything. If you send him a text from a place of feeling insecure and trying too hard, then he’ll feel it and will not be turned on. If you text him from a place of genuinely feeling turned on by him, then he’ll feel that too and it will create a whole different reaction!

In this article, I’m sharing specific text messages that will definitely turn your man on. There is a big variety to choose from so you can go with what feels the most natural to you, no feeling awkward or uncomfortable. Use these texts verbatim with a copy-paste job, or put your own spin on them. The most important thing to remember is to always be true to who you are!

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Is he into me? This is a very common question that a lot of women ask themselves. It seems straightforward, but it causes so much confusion.

Breakups can be tough. Whether it is the end of a summer romance or a five-year relationship, a break-up can leave you heartbroken and confused. As much as it hurts to see the one you love walk away, not knowing what comes next can be just as devastating.

There are so many questions you probably want answers to. What went wrong? Does he still love me? Will he ever come back?

It is so easy to get consumed by the need to know where he stands and how he feels about you. And from that place, it’s difficult to move on powerfully. Fear and uncertainty about the future can keep you stuck and prevent you from being truly committed to your quest to find lasting love.

MORE: Hidden Signs Your Ex Still Loves You 

Knowing for sure that the relationship is over can really help to give you peace of mind. Seeing things for exactly what they are can also bring the freedom you need to move on.

To help you gain a sense of clarity, here are 15 undeniable signs that he doesn’t want you back.

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How do you know if a guy is flirting with you? Use these 21 signs!

When flirting goes well, it’s a downright euphoric feeling. It’s like a smooth game of tennis where both parties know exactly how to play in sync with each other. A lingering eye contact here, a gentle tease there. Flirting is just fun!

Before you can slip into that sweet spot, however, you might want some proof that your crush is crushing back. It’s hard to project a cool confidence when you’re desperately wondering what the other person thinks about you … and if they truly are flirting and not just being friendly.

MORE: Is He Flirting With Me? How to Know For Sure

To help you navigate those waters and turn on your most charming self, we’ve compiled a list of 21 signs that he’s flirting with you.

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Physical attraction is a pretty basic concept for both men and women to understand. It’s either there or it isn’t. Falling in lust isn’t hard to do. In fact, you can do it in just a few seconds.

But what about something deeper, something that lives below the surface of chemistry? What about falling in love?

You can’t fake that, either. If you’re not compatible with a man, don’t try and push the square peg into the round hole. It’s not only going to be dissatisfying and exhausting, but you deserve better. You deserve the real thing.

MORE: 8 Scientifically Proven Ways to Make Him Fall in Love With You

Love can’t be manipulated, but there are certainly a few things you can do to help move things in the right direction. We’ve made a list of 13 of those tips below.

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Signs Of A Cheater … And How To Tell If He’s Cheating On You

“It might sound ordinary for a woman to find out her husband’s cheating on her, but not if you’re the woman and it’s your husband.” – Melissa Bank

Wondering whether or not your guy is cheating is a terrible position to be in. If you are questioning him, there’s probably a good reason for it. Women tend to have a powerful gut instinct in this area, even before they consciously acknowledge it. Don’t let anyone convince you that you’re “crazy” for having suspicions.

At the same time, previous bad experiences or stories can sway your judgment. Also, if the man you’re with has cheated in the past, you won’t be able to help being on high alert.

MORE: Is He a Cheater? 15 Definite Signs He’s Cheating

It’s challenging to be objective when looking at your own situation. If you’re struggling to see things from an outside perspective, check out our list of ten of the top signs he’s cheating.

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You’re on a date, everything is going great, but then the conversation just stops and an awkward silence ensues. One of you sheepishly says: “So, anyway…” but you’re just kind of stuck and a painful silence lingers in the air.

You may get inundated with the following questions, either on the date or after:

“Should I have said something different?”

“I wonder what he thought about the story I told.”

“I have to keep talking he’s being so quiet this is horrible.”

“What if I made him uncomfortable when I said I don’t like XYZ?”

“What if I scared him away because of that awkward pause?”

“Wait, is it bad if I text him? Was I boring? Did he think I was funny and exciting?”

“Oh man, this is not good. This conversation is actually painfully boring and impossible to continue.”

This is a common experience. Awkward silences can be brutal. We’ve all dealt with an anxiety-inducing awkward silence at one point in our lives. Even worse, they seem to happen more with people we just meet and more so with someone we want to make a good impression on.

MORE:  225 Amazing Questions to Ask a Guy

Don’t worry… I’m giving you specific strategies you can use so that you never have to worry about running out of things to say on a date.

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Is it really over with your ex… or is there still a chance you can get him back?

When things go bad in a relationship there might be a chance it can be worked out, but this requires you both to work together. When that isn’t going to happen because one or both of you isn’t sufficiently invested, you need to accept that it’s over, it can’t be fixed, and you have to move on.

Breakups are almost always incredibly painful, but they can be especially painful if you keep hanging on and hoping he’ll change his mind. When this happens you don’t get the closure you need.

Sometimes the best way to free yourself and move on is knowing with 100% clarity that he’s moved on and it’s truly over.

MORE: Hidden Signs Your Ex Still Loves You 

If there’s no chance and no hope of you getting back together, this mentally frees you to move on and eventually find someone new, someone better suited for you.

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How Do You Get Someone To Like You?

“A great figure or physique is nice, but it’s self-confidence that makes someone really sexy.” – Vivica A. Fox

There is no greater high than being liked by someone you like. This is why it can be so scary to have feelings for someone. The stakes are high and the fear of them not feeling the same way is downright terrifying.

The truth is, we can’t ever fully control how someone feels about us. There are just so many variables that go into what draws someone to you. It doesn’t only apply to romantic relationships, this is true of friendships as well. Think about all the people you’ve met throughout your life. Of those people, a few become your friends, and a very select few become your best friends.

MORE: How to Know if a Guy Likes You For Sure 

There isn’t much that you do, it just evolves. You can’t force friendships and you can’t force romantic relationships. However, you can do certain things to be more likable in general, which can help get you the outcome you want. If you master the techniques in this article and your love remains unrequited, then at least you know there was nothing else you could have done.

Here’s a list of 26 of the ways to make someone like you.

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How can you know if the guy you’re with is never going to settle down with you?

You don’t want to rush him, but you don’t want to waste your time, either. It’s a scary concept because if you’re impatient you could lose a guy who might be “the one,” but if you’re too patient you could lose years of your life with someone who might be everything you’ve ever wanted, but he doesn’t want you back.

If he’s showing several of the following signs, he may settle down one day, but it probably won’t be with you.

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Looking for the perfect cute things to say to your boyfriend? Here’s the best list of questions you can ask your bf to melt his heart!

What’s in a question?

A lot actually! The right questions can really help you get to know someone in a fun, invigorating way. It can take your conversations to a new level and breathe new life into your relationship by giving you something else to talk about aside from how your day was.

We have all sorts of great questions articles on ANM, and this time we’re focusing on couples and cute questions to ask your guy enhance those lovey feelings that make everything worth it.

MORE: 225+ Amazing Questions to Ask a Guy: The Ultimate List

And with that, here is our list of the best “cute” questions to ask your boyfriend.

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Signs He Loves You Secretly

We’ve probably all heard the philosophy that when a guy is into you, he’ll make sure you know it. While that idea is floating around out there for good reason, it’s not always as black and white as you’d think. Even when a guy is clear about his intentions, if you’re lacking self-esteem yourself, you might subconsciously label it as something different.

Revealing romantic feelings for another person requires a level of vulnerability that’s always going to be hard – no matter your gender. Just because men are traditionally more upfront about their feelings than some women doesn’t mean that all guys are pros at showing their hand.

MORE: 11 Undeniable Signs He’s In Love With You

Some guys take the slow play approach, not doing anything too bold but consistently nosing into your orbit. Others prefer moves that are pretty much undeniable, regardless of your confidence.

If you’re in the unenviable position of trying to decide how much a guy cares about you, we’re here to help.

Here are 26 of the signs a guy is confessing his love:

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So you want to know how to make your ‘bf’ miss you? Use this simple guide with a guy and you’ll have him missing you like crazy (and loving you all the more).

Who doesn’t want to feel missed by a man? Whether you’re crushing on a new guy, in a relationship with one, or considering getting back together with an ex, it’s always preferable to have him miss you.

There’s a fine line between being your most charming self and getting lost in mind-games. One way to help distinguish which side of that line you’re on is whether or not you feel like you’re being yourself. If you find yourself resorting to methods that don’t feel true to you, that’s a red flag. Even if you do manage to snag the object of your affection, are you really going to want to keep up these tricks during the relationship?

MORE: How to Make Him Chase You Without Playing Games

Just like we don’t want guys to manipulate us into feeling or behaving a certain way, we should aim to avoid scheming. No guy is worth you warping your personality into someone he might like.

Having said all of that, there’s nothing wrong with working your best angles and acting with a goal in mind. There are some tips and tools you can try out in order to be the most winning version of yourself. Fortunately, most of these steps will lead to you thriving in a fulfilling life – whether you end up with your current crush or not.

Here’s our handy list of 16 ways to make him miss you.

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If he hasn’t said it, how do I know if he loves me (without asking him)? Look for these 32 signs and let them tell you the full story: here are all the subtle ways a guy will show he loves you without ever saying a word.

No one needs help interpreting the grand romantic gestures. Whether it’s a boombox held high over a lovestruck teen’s head or an impromptu make-out session during a well-timed thunderstorm, we always recognize the flashy declarations of love.

Much of life, however, is lived in subtler shades. You may be wondering if a certain guy is falling for you. Maybe he hasn’t said it out loud just yet. Maybe he has told you, but you know that actions speak louder than words.

MORE: Undeniable Signs He’s In Love With You

Fortunately, there are dozens of ways a man can show you he loves you without actually uttering the words.

We’ve put together a list of 32 of those ways below.

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Is he cheating on me? How do you know if your man is cheating? If you notice your boyfriend or husband showing any of these signs, you should be very suspicious!

If you’re reading this article, there must be some doubt in your mind about your man’s fidelity. Before we delve deeper into this topic, take a moment to acknowledge that you have this funny feeling. A woman’s intuition is a powerful thing. Your feelings are valid so don’t dismiss them. Much of the time when a man is caught cheating, the woman has somewhat suspected it for a while – even if she didn’t want to admit it to herself.

MORE: 15 Definite Signs He’s Cheating On You

While you should lean towards trusting your gut, by no means is it going to be 100% right all of the time. Nobody’s perfect and we’re all susceptible to making mistakes, particularly if you’ve been cheated on before. If you have a history with infidelity, be aware of the fact that you could be looking at things from a slightly warped perspective. That’s only natural when you’ve been hurt before or are prone to insecurity.

Be as objective as you can as you look at your relationship. Considering how you would advise a friend in your position can be a helpful exercise in setting aside your own bias and tendencies.

And to help you gain more clarity, here’s a list of 14 things pretty much all men do if they’re cheating.

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Are men flirting with you without you even realizing it? How do men flirt? Here’s 21 giveaway signs that women often miss for when a guy is trying to get your attention and impress you.

Is there any feeling more intoxicating than when you’re flirting with a man and he actively flirts back? It’s one of the best parts of being a single woman. Whether it’s across the table on a first date or with the mysterious guy next to you at the bar, flirting is just fun.

Where it gets less enjoyable and more stressful is when you can’t tell if the guy is reciprocating. Most guys are not particularly coy about their feelings, so this doesn’t end up being a common problem.

MORE: Is He Flirting With Me? How to Know For Sure

For those men who are a little on the shy side, or just more reserved about their intentions, it can take a smidge of investigative work.

If you’re feeling up to the task, check out our list of 21 ways that men flirt.

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When a guy says, “I miss you,” does he really mean it? Check for these 15 signs and if you notice several of these are true for you, you can be sure he really means it!

You’d think that we would just know when a guy misses us. It seems like something that should be straightforward.

Honestly, in most cases, it is. If you catch yourself desperately studying a text for signs that he misses you, take a step back. You’re undeniably miss-able, and if someone makes you doubt that, he may not be the right one.

But there are certainly grey areas. Thanks to technology, we’re able to stay “connected” to each other through many different avenues. Do you have people you “talk” to regularly – say by sending an adorable weekly snap of your dog snuggled up on the couch – but who you have no real relationship with? Most people do.

It’s very easy for a guy to say he misses you. What may cause you to question his intentions is if he doesn’t act like it and you suspect he’s not being genuine. This is possible … and it’s also possible your insecurities are getting the best of you.

MORE: Unmistakable Signs Your Ex Misses You 

Don’t look at his past behavior. Don’t put too much weight onto his words. You need to take the whole picture into account. And also remember that men communicate through actions more than words.

If your guy says he misses you but you’re not sure he means it, check out our list of signs that indicate he definitely does: 

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How to Tell if Someone is in Love With You

While loving and being loved by someone is about as good as it gets in life, it’s also a risk. How can you fully let your guard down with someone if you’re not absolutely sure they’ll return your feelings? In an ironic twist, if you don’t do that, the other person won’t be able to fall fully for you. Being in love is a give and take in the deepest kind of trust you can have with another person.

MORE: How to Know When Someone Truly Loves You 

It’s not possible to fall in love in an entirely safe way. There’s got to be a sliver of crazy involved when you give someone the power to break your heart. The best you can do is choose your partner wisely.

If you’re struggling to figure out whether or not a guy loves you, chances are he’s not the right one. In reality, the best guy for you won’t make you doubt his feelings. At the same time, there are signs you can look for when deciphering what those feelings are.

Here’s our list of 24 signs that he loves you.

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Signs Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You and Still Cares

Wondering if your ex still loves you is natural after a breakup. Whether you’re dying to get back together or would rather cut off your left thumb than date them again, you can’t help looking for signs as to how they’re feeling.

Since you’re reading this article, chances are you fall into the camp of those who would consider getting back together with their ex. Make sure that you spend ample time doing that considering. Just because your ex might want to get back together doesn’t mean it’s what’s right for either of you.

MORE: Hidden Signs Your Ex Still Loves You (Even if He Denies It) 

It’s easy to romanticize someone once they’re gone. You think back on the sweet moments and forget about the ones that made you wish you were single again. Right now, the world is at your fingertips. Don’t settle for something that doesn’t serve you.

However, not all break-ups should be permanent. If you think you and your ex might have a solid future together, you’ll want to know how he’s feeling. To gain some insight, check out our list of 32 signs that he still loves you.

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How Do You Know When You’re In Love? Here’s Your Best Ways To Know You’re Falling In Love For Sure!

“Isn’t that how falling in love so often works? Some stranger appears out of nowhere and becomes a fixed star in your universe.” – Kate Bolick

Falling in love. It’s the topic that we humans never tire of speculating about. Whether it be philosopher, filmmaker, scientist, or friend-next-door, we all have our strong opinions on the subject.

Everyone has their own unique experiences in this area. The relationships you’ve witnessed since you were a child until now have colored the way you look at love. No one seems to have cracked the code on how to fall in love flawlessly. It’s a subject ripe for animated conversation and lively debate.

MORE: Proven Signs You’re in Love

If you feel like you’re teetering on the edge of falling in love with someone, there are signs that could seal your fate. We’ve made a list of 26 of those clues.

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How Do Guys Flirt? Here’s how to know he’s flirting, things he’ll say and ways to tell if you’re not sure.

“It is the difference between men and women, not the sameness, that creates the tension and the delight.” – Edward Abbey

It’s no shocking revelation that men and women flirt differently. If both genders utilized the same tools of seduction, we wouldn’t so often be scratching our heads trying to understand each other.

The way men and women interact with each other when romantically inclined can be wildly puzzling. If this were a simple subject to tackle, there wouldn’t be thousands of books available on this very topic. We’re thirsty for knowledge when it comes to interpreting the behavior of the opposite sex.

MORE: Is He Flirting With Me? These Signs Say Yes!

Sometimes a man’s efforts to flirt are, thankfully, transparent. Other times you have to immediately phone a friend and try to figure out what his words or actions could possibly mean.

To make that process a little easier, we’ve created a list of 16 signs that a man is flirting with you.

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