How Do Guys Flirt? Here’s how to know he’s flirting, things he’ll say and ways to tell if you’re not sure.

“It is the difference between men and women, not the sameness, that creates the tension and the delight.” – Edward Abbey

It’s no shocking revelation that men and women flirt differently. If both genders utilized the same tools of seduction, we wouldn’t so often be scratching our heads trying to understand each other.

The way men and women interact with each other when romantically inclined can be wildly puzzling. If this were a simple subject to tackle, there wouldn’t be thousands of books available on this very topic. We’re thirsty for knowledge when it comes to interpreting the behavior of the opposite sex.

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Sometimes a man’s efforts to flirt are, thankfully, transparent. Other times you have to immediately phone a friend and try to figure out what his words or actions could possibly mean.

To make that process a little easier, we’ve created a list of 16 signs that a man is flirting with you.

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Want to see how compatible you and your partner are? Whether it’s a new relationship or you’ve been a couple for awhile, consider these great questions your personal “couple compatibility test”!

People underestimate the importance of fundamental compatibility in a relationship. Chemistry can only take you so far … if you’re not compatible, it isn’t going to last. And if it does last, it won’t be a happy relationship.

People place way more value on chemistry because it feels good. Who wants to think about practicalities and logistics? Who wants to listen to their head, aren’t we supposed to follow our hearts?

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Sure, follow your heart … as long as it’s leading you in a good direction! I know so many couples who broke up after many years together because of fundamental differences that should have been discussed way at the beginning.

Maybe it’s not romantic to be practical, but it’s essential if you want to have a lasting love that grows and flourishes over time. To help you get there, I’ve compiled a list of the best questions to ask to see how compatible you and your partner are.

You can bring these up subtly, or sit down one day and just go through the entire list. You’ll learn a lot about him, and also quite a bit about yourself!

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Is He Pulling Away? What Should I Do?

It’s the worst possible feeling.

You try to ignore it. You try to justify. But you know what’s going on … he’s pulling away from you. This on its own isn’t so terrifying. It’s your perceived reason for why he’s doing it that fuels the pit in your stomach. You’re terrified it means that he’s losing interest and he’s going to leave.

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It’s not always easy to put your finger on what’s happening. He may be there physically, but emotionally he seems to be somewhere else. He seems withdrawn and emotionally closed off and the worst part is he won’t talk to you about it. You ask him, but he just brushes you off and makes you feel like a nuisance … which only adds fuel to your panicked heart.

You can’t help but think of the worst case scenario and beat yourself up over what you possibly could have done to push him away.

Well, relax! I promise you it’s not as bad as you think and getting things back on track isn’t that difficult.

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How Do You Know Someone Likes You

If only there was a discrete formula that could decipher whether or not someone likes you. An equation. Two plus two equals four. If a guy says this or does that, you know he’s into you. For sure.

Instead, we have a whole world of unique individuals constantly trying to figure each other out. There’s timid guys, over-confident guys, and everything in between. Relationships evolve from friendship to romance, whether successfully or not. It seems like in the modern dating world, the rules change or blur on a daily basis. Our friends offer occasionally conflicting words of wisdom. Certain magazine columns leave you scratching your head with more questions than answers.

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In spite of all this chaos, there are still some solid signs you can look for to figure out where you stand with a man. We’ve crafted some advice for how to deal with shy guys, flirtatious guys, and the ever-confusing friend zone.

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How Do I Know If He Really Cares About Me?

“No one ever fell in love without being a little bit brave.” – Mario Tomasello

There’s always that little section in the “falling in love” portion of a relationship where you do a quick gut check. Maybe this guy seems too good to be true. Maybe you’ve had enough heartbreak in the past that you’re hesitant to fully let yourself fall again.

No one could blame you for wanting some certainty before you invest your time, energy, and heart into another person. People can be fickle, dishonest, and confusing. Unfortunately, love is a maddeningly mysterious emotion and state of being. There’s always going to be a certain amount of blind faith and guesswork.

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At the same time, it’s only wise to observe your relationship to the best of your ability. Stay aware of the dynamics of your relationship. Consider the opinions of your loved ones, the people who want what’s best for you.

Look for the signs that he cares about you and sees a future with you. We’ve compiled a list of 16 of those signs below.

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How to Know if a Guy Doesn’t Like You

“Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you.” – Greg Behrendt

Dwelling on all the potential signs that a guy isn’t into you may seem like a bit of a downer. It’s definitely not the filter with which you want to view the person you’re crushing on. We all want to get swept up in the exciting feelings that accompany falling for someone. In that intoxicating rush of emotions, it can be supremely challenging to take a step back.

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As hard as it may be, it’s important that you do try to look at the situation objectively. In the long run, this is the kinder thing to do to yourself. It will save you time, energy, and possible heartbreak. Looking before you leap may not sound romantic, but it’s exactly the step that will steer you towards the right romance.

Before you fall head over heels for that mysterious fella you’ve had your eye on, take a beat and study the situation. Despite the endless, sometimes conflicting, streams of advice regarding how to understand them, guys are not as hard to read as you might expect.

Here’s our list of 31 signs that he’s not interested in you. Apply them to you and your crush and see if they ring any bells.

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The Best Questions to Ask People (Whether it’s Someone You Like, People You Know, or Even Your Boyfriend)

Asking the right questions is what opens the gates for a deeper, more meaningful connection. It can deepen a bond with someone you’re romantically involved with, or help you break past those walls we all keep up with a guy you’ve just started dating. The right questions can also help you connect even further with friends and family not to mention, yourself!

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You may not even immediately know the answers to some of these questions so you can use them to get to know yourself even more.

Below is my ultimate list of good questions to ask which can be used to start a conversation, pass the time, or make a date more interesting by giving you something more interesting to talk about aside from where you’re from and what you do for a living.

I’ve divided them up to cover a bunch of ground: fun questions, funny questions, creative questions, and interesting questions.

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We probably all have that one friend who, despite being shown all the right signs a guy likes her, remains uncertain. Maybe you, yourself, are that friend. It’s easy to second-guess yourself. Maybe he’s just really friendly! Maybe he’s flirty with everybody. We’ve all run these scenarios through our minds.

We’re also all likely familiar with the friend who assumes someone is into her, when in reality the evidence isn’t there. This situation is, of course, much worse. Even without a risky assumption like this, the world of romance is ripe with potential embarrassment and heartbreak.

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When considering all of this, it can be tempting to throw your hands in the air and say you give up. You might want to wait until a guy spells his interest out for you before letting yourself get caught up in the wondering.

To help you avoid this defeat, we’ve compiled a list of 16 signs that he’s truly interested in you.

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When He Doesn’t Text Back …

When I tell people I write about relationships for a living, their first question is always: “So, what’s the most common relationship question you get?” The clear winner to that is: “Why do guys take so long to text back?” or why they don’t text back at all or what their texts mean… always something in the realm of texting.

And I totally get it because I asked myself those very same questions in my single days … and it drove me crazy!

Why is he taking so long to write back?… Why haven’t I heard from him today, isn’t he thinking about me?… Why are his answers so short and vague, is he not into me anymore?…. Why did he initiate a conversation and then just disappear?

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Trust me, I’ve asked all the questions and have experienced the roller coaster of emotions that they produce. But why? Why do we get so wound up and stressed and anxious about texting?

There is a lot of bad texting advice out there. You’ll find plenty of scripts on what to say and when to say it, but what happens after? They don’t give you any real insight into how men feel about texting and what inspires (and de-inspires, if that’s a word!) a man to text back.

So here is the truth about why men don’t text back … and what you can do about it!

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How Do You Know When Someone Doesn’t Like You?

If you find yourself asking whether or not a guy likes you, you probably do know the answer. Deep down. Annoyingly deep down.

When we meet someone we really like, it can be tough to view the situation objectively. Our friends can be helpful, thus the many conversations we engage in to solve the puzzle. How many times have you and your girlfriends bumped foreheads as you poured over the latest text from a guy? It’s fun to put on your detective hat and figure out if the flutter in your stomach is worth having.

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What’s more painful is when the evidence seems to point in a negative direction. It just sucks, and there’s no way around it. However, the best thing you can do is remain open to that possibility. The sooner you decipher how he feels, the sooner you can move on to bigger and better things.

Save your future self from unnecessary heartache by checking out our list of 12 signs that he’s just not feeling it.

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How Can You Tell If a Guy Likes You? Use These Signs a Guy is Interested in You To Know For Sure!

Liking a guy can be scary, especially if you don’t know where he stands. You think he’s interested but you aren’t totally sure. The only way to find out for certain is to ask him, but that would just be weird …what if you’re wrong and then can never face him again due to sheer embarrassment?

So how do you know if he likes you? The bottom line is, if you have to ask you already have your answer. When a guy is into you it’s obvious. You won’t question it and neither will anyone else around you. Guys don’t hide it when they like someone.

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But maybe you’re insecure, have been wrong about a guy’s signals before, or are just terrible at getting even the most obvious hints. If that’s the case, here are some clear and proven indications for how to tell if a guy really likes you that should put your mind at ease.

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When a Man Likes a Woman, What Does He Do? Look for These Signs a Man is Interested!

Is it just me or does much of the dating advice online seem to cater towards a teenage audience? Teens today are able to take to the internet with their burning questions, which is great for them. Would anyone else have loved the opportunity to “Google” instructions for your first kiss? It would probably have been a better set-up for success than intently studying Ross and Rachel’s first big smooch on Friends.

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But for those of us not needing Mom to drive us to our movie date, it can be hard to find mature relationship advice. How can you figure out if a guy likes you when there’s zero chance of him leaving a note in your locker? Navigating adult flirtation can be tough.

To make this task a little easier, here’s our list of 26 classic signs a man likes you.

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The Very Best List of Really Random Questions to Ask a Guy

A lot of people get stuck when it comes to face-t0-face conversations .., maybe it’s because it’s not what we’re used to and it just seems way more intimidating than talking through a screen.

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Asking the right questions can open the gates for deeper communication and help you really get to know the other person. We usually categorize our question articles but the following list is pretty random. These unconventional questions are pretty out of the box but can lead to interesting answers … which can lead to interesting conversations.

Try them out with a boyfriend, crush or a guy you’d like to be dating.

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Making Out Tips: How To Make Out With Someone Properly (And Drive Them Crazy With Desire!)

There is nothing like that first kiss with someone you really like to get the tingles flowing. The only thing better is making out with that person for the first time.

It’s exciting and thrilling, but can also be nerve-racking and intimidating. You don’t want all that buildup to fall flat and definitely don’t want the electricity to fizzle out.

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Keeping a make-out session hot and exciting is easy enough when you know what to do. It essentially comes down to making your partner feel amazing physically and also emotionally. It’s about striking that balance between available and just out of reach and mixing it up so things stay fresh and exhilarating. And of course, being confident in whatever you’re doing.

Read on for tips for making out:

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Use These Deep Questions (To Ask a Guy) and Watch Him Get Serious and Personal With You!

If you’re looking for fun, lighthearted conversation topics well … you came to the wrong place. (Go here if you want fun questions to ask.)

If you want to get to know someone on a deep, profound level, then we’ve got exactly what you need.

Most people shy away from the deep stuff and as a result, most connections are surface level and superficial at best. The way to really connect and get to know someone is to go deep.

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These questions range from personal to philosophical. Some may bring up painful memories, others are mind-benders that are just interesting to think about.

Just know your audience. If it’s a guy you have a crush on that you don’t know so well, you may want to go with some of the more neutral questions. If it’s someone you connect with deeply, then these questions can help you take it to the next level.

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Why Men Pull Away After Sex (and What You Can Do About It!)

You’ve been seeing this guy and all is well and you decide it’s time to get between the sheets … and then everything changes. He pulls away after sex and you feel crushed and devastated. What happened? Is this just a thing guys do?

It could be a guy you’ve been seeing, or maybe a friend that you got a little too friendly with one night. No matter what the circumstances, it’s devastating to a woman when a guy withdraws after sex. And she can’t help but take it personally.

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So is it true that all men are after one thing? Do men really lose interest after sex? Are all men scumbags? No, no, and no.

Yes, sometimes men do pull away after sex but it’s not for the reasons you may think. Let’s get to the heart of the matter and look at what’s really going on here.

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How Do You Know He Loves You?

We are saturated with ideas about love everywhere we look, but what does love really look like?

We learn what love is supposed to be first from our families, and if they’re dysfunctional that’s not much help. Then we learn from young relationships with other kids who don’t know what they’re doing, either. Then we learn from movies, which spread a romanticized and unrealistic version of love … and it goes on and on.

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Most of what we see is surface love, not the real deal. So many of us have our guards up high because of bad experiences and we can’t see past our walls. We focus on the bad signs instead of enjoying all the good we have.

At the same time, no one wants to be blindsided or taken advantage of or stay with someone who doesn’t actually love us, so the question is…

How do you know when a man loves you?
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This Or That Questions Game

Whether you want to get to know someone better or pass some time, this or that questions are a Loy of fun.

The questions are innocent enough that no one will feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. At the same time, you can learn a lot about someone! You can play it as a game with a group of people, or one on one with a guy you’re into. To play as a group, give everyone a coin (or anything that can be turned upside down) and have everyone put the coin up if they think it’s the first option, and down if they think it’s the second.

MORE: The Ultimate List of Questions to Ask a Guy to Open Him Up

To play one-on-one, just refer to this handy list of the absolute best this or that question and take turns asking each other. You can also try to guess what the other person will say. It’s sure to bring on a lot of laughs, and maybe even steer you into some interesting conversation.

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The Very Best Questions To Ask a Guy You Like

Talking to your crush is scary. You can freeze up and be reduced to a stumbling, bumbling fool and that’s not so sexy. On the one hand, you want to impress him. On the other, you don’t want to come across desperate or awkward.

Knowing the right questions to ask will make you cool confident and seem effortlessly charming. Why? Because people love talking about themselves! You don’t need to tell your crush about all your dazzling accomplishments. What will really win him over is if you ask meaningful questions and really listen to his answers. It’s as easy as that.

MORE: The Ultimate List of Questions to Ask a Guy to Get Closer

However, you need to take some precaution. You don’t want to seem prying or obtrusive, so I came up with the ultimate list of questions to ask your crush.

These questions are innocent enough, but will still evoke revealing answers that will help you get to know him better, breaking that barrier and forming a deep connection.

It’s best to keep the conversation positive and light. You don’t want to dig too deep into his skeletons and emotional traumas. There is plenty of time to get into all that stuff, but if you’re in the early stages of a relationship, or if this is a guy you’re hoping to be in a relationship with, then keep it fun and upbeat.

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I Like Him, But He Doesn’t Like Me

You like a guy, but he doesn’t feel the same …ouch. It hurts, and you can’t help but take it personally. What’s wrong with you? Are you not pretty enough? Not smart enough? Not charming enough? What’s his deal? Why doesn’t he like me back?!

A guy isn’t usually going to come out and give you a reason why he doesn’t like you. He may not have thought about it much to begin with, or he may just not be able to put it into words. But even if he can give a concrete reason, he most likely won’t because he doesn’t want to hurt your feelings. Instead, he’ll give you some vague excuse and you’ll be left more confused than ever.

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It really doesn’t matter why … it’s more important to just accept what is. However, sometimes you just need to know why. If he doesn’t like you back, then it’s most likely for one of the following reasons:

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Ever get the tongue-tied feeling when talking to a guy you like? Do you dread those awkward silences that tend to creep in and wish you knew fun, interesting ways to keep the conversation going?

Well, look no further! You’ve come to the right place. When getting to know a guy you like, it’s important and very handy to have an arsenal of interesting questions to ask him, questions that go beyond “So what did you do today?”

A lot of people have a hard time connecting in an authentic way. We hold ourselves back, maybe because we don’t know how to get in there or maybe as a protective measure, and a connection can hit a wall at a certain point as a result.

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To help you break through that barrier and really get to know someone, we’ve come up with the ultimate list of cute questions to ask a guy you like.

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Famous, Beautiful and Inspirational Love Quotes, Sayings and Phrases: The Ultimate List

What is love? It’s a concept people have been trying to articulate for centuries through various channels- words, songs, poems, letters, sonnets, etc.

Love is vast. It can bring you to the height of euphoria, making you feel happier and more alive than ever … or to the pit of despair, making you feel empty and broken. Some love is surface-level, other love runs deep.

Love can be expressed through actions, and of course through words, but it has to be the right words.

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I have been collecting quotes about love for most of my life. There’s nothing like finding one of those perfect love phrases that just capture everything and say so much, so succinctly. Truth be told, I get a warm and fuzzy feeling every time I find one of those perfect love sayings that just capture the essence of a thought, idea, or feeling. And the list of “I love you” quotes that I’ve collected over my lifetime is quite bountiful, so I decided to share a few by selecting my absolute best love quotes that perfectly express love and define what love is and how it feels and what it can do to a person.

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In the age of texting as a main mode of communication and using emojis and memes to express how we feel, it’s getting harder to build a deep connection. A lot of us are afraid of vulnerability and there are certain places we just won’t go … and few realize that this is the reason so many people have a hard time building genuine connections.

Asking the right questions can push past someone’s walls and get them to open up. You can learn a lot about one another and really form a deep bond and really get to know someone.

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The following list includes all types of personal questions. Some are fairly mild and others really get in there. Pick and choose what you feel comfortable with, and what you think your guy will be comfortable with. The most important rule is to not push too hard. Know when to back off and let it go when he doesn’t feel comfortable answering something, even if you might really, really want to know the answer.

And with that, here are 50 personal questions to ask a guy to get him to open up:

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You will find tons of content on how to tell if a guy likes you here on A New Mode. The reason? It’s probably the number 1 question women have when it comes to dating and relationships.

We’ve all been hurt in the past, many of us have experienced the pain of wanting someone who doesn’t like us back. And it hurts. It’s hard not to take it personally.

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Sometimes it’s clear as day when a guy likes you, other times it’s a little hard to tell. He seems like he’s interested, but it’s hard to be totally sure, and you don’t want to come right out and ask him and risk embarrassment or rejection.

That’s why we’ve created this handy list which includes every sign that a guy definitely likes you. You have to take the full picture into account. If he’s showing maybe 1-2 signs then he probably doesn’t have strong feelings for you, he may be somewhat interested. If you find yourself checking yes to most of these, then he definitely likes you.

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Why do men look at other women? It’s a question plaguing countless women.

I understand how hurtful it can be. You’re out with your guy, you’re having a nice time, and suddenly you notice his attention has shifted. You look around and see his eyes are fixed on a gorgeous girl walking nearby. And with that, the entire mood shifts.

You suddenly feel unattractive and low. You’re no longer having an enjoyable time with him, you just want to ring his neck. You may tell him outright that you’re upset, or you may go the passive-aggressive route and insist nothing is wrong when clearly something is. And with that, the evening takes a swift turn downhill.

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So is he just a big jerk who can’t control himself? Is he a sex-crazed deviant? Or maybe you’re just not hot enough for him, is that it?

No. None of these are the case.

Here is the truth about why men look at other women:

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Texting is our main mode of communication these days- it’s just the way it is, so much so that when someone actually calls you think there must be an emergency.

Asking the right questions can really open the gates for a deep, profound connection. But there is a huge difference between talking in person and chatting via text. When texting, you can’t really ask questions where answers will be long detailed stories, or where there are a lot of nuances.

Texting also isn’t the right forum to have a heavy or deep emotional conversation because a lot can get misinterpreted or lost in translation.

MORE: 225+ Amazing Questions to Ask a Guy- The Only List You Need

Texting isn’t the time to get someone’s full life story, but you can still learn a lot about another person … when you know the right questions to ask,  questions that are little more creative than:“Hey whats up?” and  “How are you today?”

And with that, here is my compilation of the absolute best questions to ask a guy (or girl) over text.

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One of the biggest phobias women have when it comes to dating and relationships is dating a commitment-phobic man (see what I did there?). The fear is real and is what keeps our guard up and our eyes wide open for anything that looks like a bad sign.

Well here’s the good news. Most men are not commitment-phobes. I would say that term only applies to a teeny tiny portion of the male population and when a guy truly has that phobia, it will be obvious.

So what about the rest? What about the guy you were dating for a while who seemed super into you but just didn’t want to be “official?” What about the guy who is so sweet and attentive and always there for you, but immediately clams up and emotionally withdraws anytime you mention meeting his family or taking the next step in the relationship? What about the guy who always has a reason for not committing … he’s stressed at work … he wants to wait until he’s more financially stable … he’s having family issues … as soon as the busy season is over … as soon as summer is over … etc. etc.

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Well look, some people do have real fears when it comes to commitment. Fears aren’t the same a phobias, fears can be abated with time. A phobia runs much deeper and can’t always be reasoned with.

Almost anyone who has been dating for a while has some level of fear when it comes to relationships. Maybe it’s because we’ve been hurt before, maybe it’s because we’re afraid of going through another breakup because we all know how brutal those can be, or maybe our trust has been battered too many times and we just can’t let our guards all the way down.

This is how to know if your guy truly is a commitment-phobe, or if he just has commitment fears.

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Conversations have a way of becoming quite dull- maybe it’s because the art of conversation has mostly been lost in the digital age of hiding behind our screens and communicating via gifs and emojis.

Asking the right questions is a powerful way to galvanize a conversation and create a connection. These fun questions cover a range of topics and are great for asking a guy you like, a guy you’re dating, a friend, a co-worker, anyone really!

MORE: The Ultimate List of Questions to Ask a Guy to Get Closer

Some questions will reveal shocking information that may surprise you, some will bring out a hilarious story or maybe an embarrassing moment, some may open the door for deeper conversations.

Either way, they will steer you into interesting new directions.

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Love it or hate it,  texting is our main mode of communication these days. Given that, we basically have access to one another at all times, which can be a blessing or a curse.

When it comes to getting your ex-boyfriend back, texting can work to your advantage, making him miss you and want you back, as long as you use it wisely and know what you’re doing.

Of course, there is more to the story. You can’t just text your ex and then poof! He comes crawling back. The perfect text sent at the right time is what will pave the way for success. (If you want your ex back, you should also be sure to read this article on how to get your ex back in five steps when you’re done here.)

Texting your ex does pose a risk. The risk being that he rejects you or just doesn’t answer. You should always be prepared for that possibility and just be OK with it. If you won’t be able to handle things not turning out the way you want, then you aren’t ready to get back together with your ex in the first place and need to spend more time on your own working through things.

So let’s get into it and talk about how to get your ex back with a few simple texts:

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