It’s time to have a frank discussion about lying and deceit. I see a lot of fears floating around in the the dating world and it can be disheartening.
In order to have a truly fulfilling relationship (or even start a healthy relationship) with a great guy, you need to come from a place of strength, confidence, and fulfillment.
Whenever a relationship goes sour (or fails to launch), it’s almost always caused by some tiny fear, doubt, worry or insecurity that grows and festers until you feel overwhelmed by the whole ordeal.
And what happens? Your fears and worries compel you to confirm whether they’re real or imaginary. You stop enjoying the relationship for what it is and start craving validation and confirmation that it’s “the real deal.”
And there’s only one thing that manifests from that place… neediness.
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These days, people are quick to throw the concept of neediness around without actually looking at what it is. I’ve had some of my female readers complain that the term neediness makes it sound like I’m framing women as weak, fragile, insecure creatures that just cling to men (and stress them out).
Nothing could be further from the truth. I think women bring a tremendous strength and power to the table in relationships… when they have access to it and are free of their own fears.
Men and women have fears. Those fears are greater now more than ever really since there’s an entire industry devoted to making sure men and women are wrought with insecurities so they buy products (sowing in and agitating tiny insecurities is the bread and butter of the marketing world).
A major fear is being lied to deceived which brings me to the main question of this article: Why do men lie?
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