This is strange but as I read this article it made me more sure about my relationship than ever. He and I have a not-so-healthy relationship because we’ve only seen each other in person a few times and we’ve been talking over text for more than 2 years. So it’s basically having a long-distance relationship. This can cause many problems to arise about my certainty because it can make me feel nervous and overthink things because I can’t always tell what he means through text. But I do trust him around other girls and I don’t worry about him leaving me. I just take a really long time to get comfortable with someone and I can’t seem to do that yet in person. We’ve only hung together for about an hour at the longest since we started dating. It’s really sad to think about and I just wish I could see him way more often to get rid of this anxiety I seem to have around him. I would love it if others would share their opinion on this and tell me if I should just wait it out until we have seen each other in person and I can finally tell if he’s the right one for me.

I went to a NYE party 1:30 hr away with long distance friends and unintentionally hooked up with the host. There was amazing chemistry, (and I don’t do things like that! I had ten yr relationship that ended last summer and hadn’t dated anyone else. )

It turned into a two night stand. I knew going there he was a very hard worker and alone for a long time. He was a sweetheart. We talked a lot. He’s shy until he drinks. .. it was obviously awkward the next day! But he ended up being just as sweet the next day.

We texted over next few weeks, had text sex… few pictures.
We agree it was too long for me to see him again at super bowl so I came up and spent weekend with just him. He was still a sweet heart. Very attentive, we talked and have so much fun together. He holds my hand and opens the doors. He’s very loving. Holds me all night long. He works a lot and still finds time to text me.

My question is, we were texting about my gf that is interested in having sex with a woman. (He never met her) I had admitted I was with a girl once. But didn’t like it. (First time we hung out)
He asked if I wanted her. I said no. But I said you want a threesome huh? And he said yes.
I’ve been very open with him. After ten year relationship I’m not rushing anything but must say it hurt because I do like him so much. I just said it’s not for me. I don’t want that, I want a best friend and partner. But I could understand the fantasy.

I can see how he might think I’m more open to that kind of thing…we’ve had amazing sex! & I had sex with him right away. But I’m really not into sharing. He’s not my bf but I won’t even consider seeing anyone else. He said he isn’t seeing anyone else either.
He texted me late last night and I was sleeping. He’d been drinking, I knew that.

Didn’t text me today. I know he’s busy but…

I’m so confused. I’m Suppose to spend this coming weekend with him.

Am I over thinking him throwing that out there? I know I rock his world alone, why add someone else in. The way he treats me is so good but the threesome comment made me feel dirty. Help!!!

Hi! I met a guy from a online site since December 2014, we started talking everyday day and night since september 2015. But i was too afraid to commit since we never met. I broke up and dated someone else, but we r still talking everyday even when I had new bf. I broke up with my new bf after 1.5 mos dating, thinking that the prev guy was the one that i really love, but i didnt tel him bc i felt guilty of what ive done. We said i missed u and I love you, till one day he started to text me less, and mentioned a girl name, I knew he has someone. I decided to let him be happy and sit back, since i hurt him first. He lied saying he didnt date the girl, but it was obvious he did. After a month after i stopped chasing him, he texted me he broke up and he still loved me, yet the next day he left me and disappeared, he went back to his gf. I tried dating few guys after that but none worked. One day my friend was talking ab him and i told her i missed him. She told him the message and texted me that day. Turned out he broke up with his gf. He told me the reason he left bc he knew he still had feelings for his gf and he didnt wanna play me. I accepted his apologies bc deep down i know i still care and loved him so much. We talked for few days and now he didnt read my text again but upload something few hours ago. What should I do? Is he playing me?

I need some advice. I met someone on an online dating site that I really like. He has called me every day for the last 10 days. We talk for 30 to 45 minutes, and he often mentions getting together sometime. He lives about 45 minutes away from me, and mentioned meeting me some day at a sports bar about 5 minutes from his house. But he still hasn’t mentioned any specific day. What should I do?

Family is NOT a good determining factor. Families often have other motives than your personal happiness.
. My boyfriend’s family intentionally tries to cause us problems. Not because we aren’t a match. For reasons like, dad being emotionally close to me brings up mourning their mom to the surface. His kids are all adults. As one of his kids says, they’re not here enough to have an opinion. They haven’t bothered to get to know me.
. It’s not me, it’s not him. We are happy together. We are loving, good to each other, respectful, appreciative, enjoy each other, work things out – that’s our relationship.
I definitely don’t cause problems or do anything to make any of this worse. Yet members of his family continue to escalate.
. Being with someone else would not solve this problem for him since it’s centered around them and not truly about me, him, or us. He’s not allowed to be happy because it makes them miss mom. That makes me sick.
. It’s ok to miss mom and mourn her. It’s ok to talk about it. It’s not ok to denigrate an innocent person.
. I have also heard of friends knocking someone else’s relationship for bad reasons. Like I want to hang out with you alone and instead of saying so I’ll make you feel bad about your man. Or I don’t have a romance so I don’t want anyone else to either.
Some people can’t stand other people being happy. Or want to be the only cause of your happiness. It’s not healthy or good. But many people don’t recognize that because they aren’t that way themselves.
If a person is surrounded by people that love them in a healthy way, your advice is good. If someone has family and/or friends that are self centered and/or selfish the advice is bad.
. Given that we don’t pick our family, many people have family that loves them in unhealthy ways.
Please edit the family and friends portion of your advice.