… (Previous page – Ask A Guy: Does He Just Want Sex?) if you say to him that he must make you his girlfriend or else you’re going to walk, you will create a battle of wills. You will engage his ego, he will engage your ego, you will dig your feet into the ground and you will both successfully tear your relationship (or any chance of a future relationship) to shreds.
I am not saying, “Don’t stand up for yourself.” Definitely do. But don’t put pressure on the man or put pressure on the relationship.
When you are absolutely clear on what you want, what you really truly need and what you will not stand for, then you will not need words to communicate this. THAT is putting pressure on the relationship… and it starts with you and your relationship to yourself. Start by getting clarity within yourself and seeing all the ways that you need to be fulfilled. Once you have that internal clarity, you will not need to have a battle of wills with the man – what you need will be self-evident and it will be communicated automatically. Focus on what you want and what you need from a relationship. Focus on all the ways in which you are good and deserve what you want and need in a relationship. Once you do that, you will get what you want.
Bottom line: What you think about is what you’ll get in a relationship. Put differently – what we think about is what we’ll get.
Again, these are just my thoughts. Some may disagree, some may have differences of opinion. All I’m saying is that these are my thoughts and I believe they are worth considering.
You may also want to take a look at a previous post for more clarity- When a Guy Won’t Call You His Girlfriend.
– eric charles
Written by Eric Charles
