I live in a college dorm and have added all sorts of people from my dorm and classes.
This afternoon, this really cute guy from one of my classes poked me on Facebook. We’ve never talked before, although I do recognize him from class.
What does it mean when a guy pokes you on Facebook? Does he like me? How should I respond?
In this case, I would say he does.
I have a few general rules when it comes to dating advice for women determining if a guy is interested or not (or when a girl asks, “does he like me” in general).
1) Did they need to do it? Generally speaking, if a guy initiates some form of contact with you that he didn’t need to, then he’s most likely interested and this is his approach to get his foot in the door.
So if he poked you, yes, he’s trying to get your attention – he’s interested in you.
2) Did you notice him beforehand? In this case, yes.
Oftentimes, we notice people in the environment that are noticing us. It’s a sort of subconscious survival mechanism, I guess. But chances are if you noticed him in the environment, he was checking you out and that’s another one of those signs that he’s interested in you.
Now, in terms of what you say as a response, you really could do or say anything just about. He’d be happy that you responded.
You could just start talking to him in class – if he’s poking you on Facebook, he’s not going to have a problem with that.
You might think that sounds weird to start talking with someone you’ve never spoken to in real life, but it’s only weird if you make it weird. If you just talk to him like it’s a normal thing, like you’re already comfortable with each other, it will feel totally comfortable to both of you.
Of course, the “flirting tips for shy girls” approach to handling this would be to send him a casual message on Facebook and just talk about the common ground you have: class. If you just strike up a little open-ended conversation with him, he’ll probably end up asking you out after a message or two.
Either way, he’s interested so if you want it, go for it.
Hope it helps,
– eric charles
Written by Eric Charles
