Ask a Guy: When a Guy is Jealous…

Hi I’m asking this question to see if I’m just being overly sensitive or if my boyfriend was really trying to make me jealous for some strange reason. Ever see the commercial, the Axe commercial where the guy is chocolate after he sprays on the Axe Cologne and all the women are taking a piece of him and wanting him? …well he sent me link that out of the blue and said he just thought it was a funny commercial. I didn’t exactly see it that way and didn’t exactly understand why he would even send that to me. All it did was stir up questions in my head. Am I being too sensitive or was he insensitive to send this to me?
When I asked him how he would feel if I would have sent him if it were a woman in the commercial instead of a guy, he said it would be totally wrong as guys shouldn’t be grabbing women although that’s exactly what the women are doing to the ‘chocoate man’ in this commercial. Maybe I’m working, maybe I’m being too sensitive but I never would have sent something like this to him to give him any kind of a message.
Thank you for your input. I know this is petty but he does this things like this a lot and keeps telling me it’s all in my head and I’m starting to think that maybe is just him being very insensitive.

I was obsessed with a woman that sent mixed signals. She was on and off again with a (ex)husband. She tried to be near me all the time when she was off her relationship but never indicated she was wanting something. Then she would get back with her on and off partner and rub him in my face. I ignored her and this made her crazy but never openly indicated what she wanted or did not want. Finally I avoided her all together. This made her more clingy. Then she went to touching my hands, rubbing my back, doing other things. She even had friends tell me how happy she was with her husband; over and over again. She had hurt me so I decided to end it. I told her I did not appreciate it and I wanted her to stay away from me, not to look at me, not to talk to me. When I told her this she whispered “No”. I took this as another twisted mind game. The next time she acted out I verbally attacked her. I told her to crawl back to her husband, that I knew her husband was abusive and I thought she liked that kind of thing, I told her she deserved him, that she deserved his drug use and drunken ways. She was horrified that I told her the truth. I was hurt and I wanted to be rid of her. A week or two later she moved. If she had been open about what she either wanted or not wanted everything would have been fine. I really hate her now and I once really loved her. She has suffered by her own decisions and I kind of like it. She made me hate her.

Eric, no doubt one of the best articles you have written! I learned a lot..