29 years old too late to starting with hook ups and dating?

1) Even some unemployed men have women, that’s enough proof that getting a woman has nothing to do with income.

2) If that’s the case we wouldn’t have starving children anymore.

3) Yes don’t be a doormat. And that alpha/beta is just some bullsh!t, we are humans not wolves.

4) Yes, some people met their partner online, but be careful of catfish, don’t send money.

5) Act natural, don’t act desperate. Strike up a conversation with no expectation.

guys am I a red flag? or just someone with no confidence would guys and girls look @ me weird and say why would this 29 y/o male NO date that often?

ugh Im no red flag I have Morales and values, god i hate society

I respect people in a relationship because you get to know yourself more and you prob are perfect because you went into a relationship without any issues I have bit of anxiety i wouldnt wanna put that on my partner. do you think me being a bit shy nervous anxiety would be fair to my partner should I go to see a doctor and treat my anxiety before I get into a relationship

a little bit about me

1) Idk man I dont like talking about myself because i dont like it but i’ll give you some more info apparently im a red flag too…

2) Im 29 I work in a hospital as a trades maint guy

3)nervous shy but not a simp i just dont want to be alpha but i just rather be kind to people and respect them I dont like being this big bad alpha im sorry…i dont wanna do that

3)you’re wondering oh why does this 29 y/o not have many relationships i’ll admit I dont lie i wont leave info out I played many video games and ignored social events and i paid the price for it, is it too late for me hopefully not..what do you guys think?

I would post a picture but i dont know how I dont think im too ugly guys I just dont feel attractive lol sometimes I avoid eye contract

First, good for you for asking advice from a site with mostly women lol. It does sound like you’ve been looking for answers online from bad sources. I base that on your terminology: simp, incel, alpha versus beta. Honestly, stay far away from the red pill nonsense, it gives BAD advice that good women will consider misogynist and will make them run away. So it’s good you’re getting other opinions to learn better approaches.

The biggest thing is seeing women as people like anyone else who deserve respect. And then treat them as such. Respect them and respect yourself as well (learning to be vulnerable but honest with yourself about your own needs and have healthy boundaries), and dating becomes easier. You attract kind women who share your values. So one thing you can research is what healthy relationships look like, what healthy boundaries look like, how to learn good communication skills. This is not in a pickup artist way, or from a tough male dating coach telling you how not to be a doormat… it is self-improvement that is not gender based. If you find something that the advice on communication and boundaries would be good for either men or women, that is probably a good start. Men and women may have some different needs, but we’re also all just people who have some of the same needs, too.

The other thing is working on your insecurity, which may require some therapy. It is good to be yourself, because that means no playing mind games and it means matching yourself with more compatible partners who will like you for you. The mental block you have is a real thing which probably comes from major defense mechanisms that are up which may have worked for you before. But now if you want something different, if you’re in a different life stage, then you can take responsibility for it, address it, heal it, and try to change if you so desire. That’s the good thing about being an adult and about human brains, you can change if you really try!

29 is not too old to want new connections and dates, and is not too old to learn to communicate better and to learn good relationship skills. It may take some time, but you can do it with good sources (therapy, better websites and books focused on improving adult connection, communication, and relationship skills instead of pick up artist or red pill advice, etc). And then, yes, you should ask out this woman if you like her and want to get to know her better! To ask her out, you can just say you have noticed her for a while and would like to take her out for (a cup of coffee / a drink / lunch / dinner / whatever is your favorite date idea) if she’d be interested in that. If she says yes, great! Get her number. If she says no, that’s okay too. You continue working on the things I’m suggesting and then you get experience meeting new women until you find those available for and interested in dates!

Good luck!!

Levi,

Here’s another suggestion: Don’t chase, attract.

Improve yourself to a point where women throw themselves at you.