3rd Date

What do you think the outcome will be?

I met a man several years ago on Match.
We were so crazy about each other, he invited me home for the third date. To watch a football game. He didn’t care if we had sex or not, he just wanted to spend time together.

Point is, I had the opportunity to observe his home and how he operates. I wish I had paid attention to the red flags that day. He turned out to be controlling and cheap.

First of all his house was immaculate. I put my purse and sunglasses on his kitchen counter. Later he moved them to a closet because he can’t stand to see other people’s possessions laying around.

Next he waited until he was hungry, then ordered his favorite fast food. He keeps no food in the house and doesn’t cook because he doesn’t like a mess.

Then he chewed with his mouth open and ate a massive meal. Come to find out, he only eats one huge meal per day, when he gets good and hungry.

Then he lays around and complains about how full he is. He also had very expensive brand new motorcycles and cars and guns and his possessions were so precious yet he wouldn’t spend a penny on me.

When we would go out, he would pretend he wasn’t hungry, then the moment I would order food, he would suddenly decide he wanted food and order himself a huge expensive meal, after I had paid for myself something modest.

So going to his house might be ok, but I advise that you use it as an opportunity to observe him and how he lives. If hes really interested in you and beginning a relationship, he won’t expect sex.

Yes

Wait until you are in a relationship

Only if you feel safe with him. I haven’t been dating in over 20 years but I don’t recall that me cooking dinner for a lady meant I expected sex. I guess times have changed.

And did you know him before the dating phase or is he from online?