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ellie
So I’m currently seeing a guy who is 7 years older than me.. He’s kind generous and funny and up till now has been great, on our first date he took me for a meal on a river boat ( very romantic) and was asking straight away while on the date to see me again.. The next night he cooked me dinner at his house and we watched movies ( we didn’t have sex only made out ) and then the evening after he asked me to go cinema and we had dinner, this was on Sunday.. He then said the next date we go on your planning, and I have done it’s tonight (Wednesday) but since then he’s not been texting as much or seeming to be that interested, I have to initiate convo.. Do you think I’m starting to bore him? Don’t know what to do!
Rebecca
Hi,
I thought this all the time when I started dating my guy. For the first week or two he was so into me, texting all the time. But we spaced our dates out to once a week. Maybe he’s just so busy at work and whatever else he has going on (that was the case with my guy). I dont really think its anything to worry about especially since you have plans to meet him tonight. Maybe since he said you are now taking control….hes waiting on you to text him….Im not sure.
But honestly you’ll know tonight if he was being standoff-ish for any reason. Make sure your not the one to ask for or plan the next date, its his turn to bring that up again. Have you told him what you’ve planned for your date?Harley
Read a million threads on here about a guy not tecting back. half the time it’s because he is busy and texting is no big deal, half the time because he’s pulling away.
Pull WAY back and STOP initiating. let him chase. IF you don’t hear from him by 5pm , make other plans to go out. If he calls.. tell him since you didn’t hear from him.. you made other plans.. he’ll learn to text in future.
ANd.. if you are worrying straight away in a relationship.. you need to get a grip and control yourself. datig IS MEANT to befun.. NOT for worrying/boring.
Lane
Hi ellie.
This is a critical juncture where you need to pull back when he pulls back. Men need more SPACE than ladies do, and if you can give him that GIFT he will be very appreciative of it! DO NOT START INITIATING! When you start reversing roles and become the pursuer it turns men off quick. Stay busy doing your normal day-to-day activities, and when he contacts you just respond nicely. Do not allow him to consume your thoughts or keep looking at your phone waiting for him to contact you or you will fall into the insecure and needy mode and guys can totally pick up on this vibe. He’s testing you still, so don’t blow it.
Just sit back and allow him to lead the pace. You’re still in the ‘honeymoon phase’ where he’s trying to get to know more about you and you should be doing that too. Never latch onto a guy who’s giving you attention, need to watch him carefully to see if his words mesh up with his actions, how he interacts around other people, what his life goals are, is he honest and trustworthy? Need to make sure you’re a good match or resentment will quickly build in if you chose the wrong man because you’re on two very different paths.
Relax, be calm, stay cool, and have fun while also getting to know him better :-)
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