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Dauny.
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Pink
This might be crazy dumb but I’d like your opinion on something. Maybe a lot of us have had the same question at least once. I already know that it’s probably not to worry about since I’ve done the same. So I’ve been talking to him for over a month now. He’s very nice, respectful and sweet on his emails and now texts, they’re long and playful and very often about two or three times a day. He says he’s not a serial dater and wants to get to know the person he’s going to date. I never initiate contact and he seems to be OK with that, I take some time to reply since I’m busy but once I answer I’m playful and nice as well, most of the time we take from minutes to hours to respond maybe because he’s mirroring my texting style. Anyways, I told him I had to travel for two weeks and my phone was going to be unavailable for text but he could email. He has done that but I realized he just changed his profile picture at the dating website. He said he wanted to see me before my trip but he didn’t have the chance because he was swamped with work, he called me on the phone the night before my trip, it was a short and sweet conversation. He commented on my voice being nice and sexy. Now I don’t know if his profile pic is changed because he wants to move on to other women or I’m just being dumb and has nothing to do with anyone. His emails are playful but really short now. So… What do you women and dudes think?
jane2
Did you ever meet this guy?
If you have not actually met, you are being e-tethered…. look it up/google it. Was an eye opener for me.
Find someone else. He is wasting your time.
Pink
I haven’t seen him in person but I actually thought the slow pace of our banter was a good thing since the last dude I dated went way too fast and ended as fast as it started. Now as I said his texts are long, personal and playful, he doesn’t send one liners or “watchadoing?s” He asks me about my life, talks about his and even makes an effort to send some in Spanish as I speak the language even though he doesn’t. But the fact that he changed his profile picture made me wonder if he’s afraid I might not come back or maybe thinks I’m lying about going abroad to get rid of him or he just did it with no other intentions than trying his luck … I’m wondering if that’s happened to anyone here and if it’s nothing to worry about… If I’m being paranoid or I’m just bored and overthinking??
STefanie
Change of profile pic is meaningless, unless the new pic is someone else entirely.
Otherwise, it’s what Jane2 says. If a guy isn’t asking to meet you and doing it within 1-2 weeks of starting contact, he isn’t for real. Way way too much texting and emailing. Don’t let anyone else get away with this from now on, you and your time are more valuable than this.
Pink
Oh and I didn’t talk to him about my plans to travel until four days before, so he didn’t really have much time to set up a date.
STefanie
No no Pink… this is too much cyber communication to go on for over a month. You shouldn’t allow this much access to you to someone you don’t know. Cyber comms are NOT REAL and too much of it creates false bonding. If he’s sending you multiple and long messages on a daily basis and doesn’t bring up meeting fairly quickly, it’s not a good sign.
Sherri
If u guys are sharing everything over text what’s the reason to meet? U r being e-thethered
Pink
He does share everything, I don’t lol … My messages are short and sweet. And I checked again, will be just one month counting the week I’ve been abroad. I’m probably making a fuss over nothing. If he doesn’t ask me out right after I come back home I’ll stop the texting, that’s for sure.
jane2
Pink
Trust us. Most of us have been there. I have that’s for sure. If you search e-tether on this site, guarantee my posts will come up.
I met a guy on-line. He set up the date pretty quickly. And he texted and called. I was like wow. And we’re both 45+ so I thought cool. He’s serious. NOT.
He became my text BF. Finally I cut him loose. I had one other that was like this. Same thing. This one wouldn’t give up. I finally had to block him on the dating website. He stopped texting me. About a week later I went to unblock him because I don’t really like to do that. His profile was gone…..
Save your time and energy for someone who deserves it. There are real men out there. We just gotta go find them. :)
jane2
PS – make that.. they gotta find us. We just need to be available and let them lead when they do. Cheers!
Pink
Thanks girls. I know, I’ve had a dude or two like that in the past. Same situation I had to even ask one of them to please, please, please stop texting. I feel this one just haven’t had the chance to properly make plans but I could be wrong. I will stop all contact if he doesn’t make plans or follow through. I’ll be very careful with him.
STefanie
Good girl.
Jenny
How did it go?
Dauny
I think there is something wrong with someone who never ends up meeting, or takes too long. I’ve had this happen and have finally said if you don’t see me asap, I’m never talking to you again. That snapped them to attention. When I met them, however, they in one way or another fell short of how they presented themselves. In two cases there were impotency issues. One admitted to me that he was bisexual, which I have no problem with other sexual orientations, but I need the security of complete attraction. I want to only have romantic relationships with straight guys. The other turned into something long term, wasting many years of my young life.
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