a mistake repeated more than once is a decision

I am actually glad that you posted this because it showed me my own lack of patience at times.

Now I see when someone is going to battle they are in fact battling for their beliefs misguided or not, those who fight the hardest to hold onto misguided beliefs perhaps are the people who need the most help, the most understanding, not less, but more. And when I know they need therapy I suggest that too.

I havn’t been active on here for a couple weeks so I don’t know what has happened but I’ve seen it before, it’s a fine line sometimes.

Oh Ivy…how I’m am trying to learn more patience and empathy. I constantly do remind myself of it…even though it might not seem like it.

Hence…I do not reply to so many posts and then lose the plot with directness.

but…If I wasn’t learning everyday..I’d be 6 foot under.

but yes
..Note to self…more patience and tolerance.

And awesome post Phillygirl.

re:Thankful
I have not contributed on this site for quite some time (and hardly visit anymore). It appears to be kismet that I happened to peek today and saw your post. I am so glad this helped you. I chose to withdraw from this page many months ago, as I believed my usefulness and ability to offer helpful advice had reached it’s expiration date. We never know how our advice affects another, but it’s heartening to know that (at least this one time) someone benefited. Thank you so much for sharing! Hugs xo

Hi Khadija! That is so sweet of you to say. I’m so glad to see you are still here providing your level headed advice. All is well with me! xo

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Hey Gem ! All us old crew stay in touch.

Good old Lane and RCS represent the old gang of us on here.

We miss you and Kimf and Khadija.

Wow, heated discussion and very interesting too. Phillygirl welcome back! This is my first time meeting you but glad to do so. I know it can be difficult to be patient sometimes. May I ask what you were referring to as the nonsense? I may have missed it. Of course there is always nonsense on every forum and people that will not listen to any honest and good intentioned advice but I more than likely missed the particular case even though I am here a lot lately. Stay on here if you feel like it too. I am sure many of us could benefit.

I’ll email her so I can get everyone’s contact information:)
Love you too <3

And raven, haven’t seen you in a while.

Oh, this makes me miss the old times with the other familiar faces on here. Miss you all!

No Gem….Most of us won’t be back to the mindless shite on here. I’ll pop in now and then to say Hi. My life is too precious and full these days to come back to here.

@ Gemini I agree. I welcome the new women but, I still miss the other regulars.
There was some truly sound advice and knowledge that helped me grow.
I’m glad you have stuck around because the things you say makes a difference.

P.S For anyone who wants to find me, I don’t have any social media but, if you go on Yelp and type in Khadija C. from Long Beach you can find me there:)

Yeah Philly I’m not sure where Marias attack came from, I always thought you’ve been helpful and very insightful. Glad to hear things are going well for you!

And Khadijah yes, I do miss the regulars but am used to the new people now and we’ve had some great additions such as redcurlysue and xyz most recently. I’m sad to see some of the changes that have taken place here and how some people were forced out of this forum but I still enjoy taking part and helping when I can. It feels good to help others with their situations and give them guidance and clarity.

Maria….such a pretty name for such an ugly person! We’re here so support, teach, & encourage each other to grow. Don’t be a heifer.