Advice

Hi guys

Sorry to ask what probably sounds like a stupid question, I think I just need someone to tell me I’m being an idiot.
I started seeing a man ten years older than me about 6 months ago. We got on really well, we can talk for hours about anything and were physically very attracted to each other. He’s 43 and hasn’t had a relationship of more than a few months since his twenties which I guess should have rang alarm bells, reading between the lines I think he often ends things.

We’re both fairly aloof when it comes to electronic communication but we were seeing each other regularly so I didn’t worry too much. Just before the lockdown I got a big promotion which means I’ll be moving a few hours away, he knows that but not that I’ll still be in the area regularly even without an excuse (or that I’d want to see him – we weren’t seeing other people but we’d never agreed to be exclusive) but I figured I would tell him all the finer details in person and at least gauge what his thoughts were, but that never happened because of corona and though we initially kept in touch via text and he did initiate after a couple of weeks he stopped initiating. I gave it a couple of weeks before texting, I had a sudden thought that maybe he might be struggling since he lives alone (though isn’t really the type you’d think would take it that hard) and just checked in, he was pretty chatty and asked questions, followed up the next morning bug then went quiet. I again left him be but checked in again after a few more weeks, he didn’t reply for three days, then did, again chatty, asked questions but didn’t read my reply for three days (which was chatty but didn’t ask any direct questions) and didn’t reply to that.

This is two weeks later. I guess normally I’d be convinced he’s just gone off me for whatever reason (and I know that’s 99% the case now) but I just felt like we had a really good connection and I guess there’s that horrible little voice in the back of my head asking if he’s just thinking it’s not worth pursuing because I’m leaving and he thinks once I’m gone I’ll just meet someone else (though he’s handsome and smart and charismatic there’s been a couple of little hints that he’s not 100% self confident), or if he’s having some sort of lockdown related meltdown where he just doesn’t want to talk to anyone.

I don’t want to text him again an humiliate myself, I wonder if I should find an excuse to say something when this is all over. Mostly I just want someone to tell me 100% there’s no way to salvage this because at the moment I’m kind of heartbroken though aside from sending a couple of texts asking how things were going I haven’t said anything.

Thanks