After date I don't hear from him. Every time!

You just started dating so it appears he’s taking things slow. Two weeks is a long time tho with no contact. Seems like low interest. Or he may be busy dating others? Just keep doing what you’re doing, no need to contact him. After a few months things should be progressing, if not, there’s your answer.

The two weeks was after our first date, since then we have been in touch more constantly between our dates. Usually he texts as soon as we finish our date, but then will take 3 days or so to be in touch. When he was on holiday he texted a few times asking how I was etc. But since Saturday I haven’t heard from him. He is definitely on another planet, very dreamy and like a lone wolf, but seems to enjoy my company and did spend his first day back from holiday with me, invited me out for dinner and stuff. I’m not forward with him either though, and rarely text him.

Olivia,
In this case I’d wait to see if he gets in touch with you this week for another date :)

Continue to lean back and show your positive happy side and allow him to ALWAYS initiate the conversations. Let him make all of the dates and try not to text him first when you don’t hear from him. He honestly doesn’t seem that interested, but it could be that he still needs to get to know you better before he gets more invested emotionally and you need to let him take the lead in order for that to happen. Let him chase you more, and instead of just “being there” start acting a little more unavailable for him. Don’t respond right away to his texts, don’t always be available on his time schedule. Make him go out of his way a bit to see if he even has enough interest to work for it a bit. If not, decide if you really want somebody that is only half-assed interested in you.

Hi. It sounds like yes hes a lone wolf and unavailable emotionally. If i was you i would not go into this expecting much from it. He sounds very happy to be on his own and will only be looking for something very casual from this. Poss all on his terms too so be cautious and absolutely continue to date others. x

I’m sorry but there is too much game playing on here.

Every guy is different and don’t fit a specific mold so to just automatically discard a guy because he isn’t acting a certain way is wrong. Just because he’s not all hot and heavy doesn’t mean he’s not interested! The fact he’s contacting you and taking you out is a sign he likes you, which is a good start toward the potential of something greater.

Love is MUCH CALMER not over the top crazy…that’s LUST and INFATUATION. Consistency is what you want to look for, not texts, but the planning of dates and the quality of time that is spent on them. Here’s the cold hard truth..human’s were dating long before the phone came into existence yet their relationships lasted longer because they relied on IN PERSON COMMUNICATION not some stupid contraption (cell phone) that’s responsible for more ghosts/breakups today than forming relationships.

Just focus on what he IS DOING when your together. Take your time as dating isn’t a race but a journey and you may get off the at the first exit, 6th or 20 years down the road…

I caved and said hi how are you. He saw it that night but answered first thing in the morning, answering and asking how I was. I said good just went swimming, he asked me where Do I go swimming and I answered, and now nothing. Bleh, so disillusioned but onto the next guy. I’m pretty sure if he was interested he would not be so distant. I’m luckily dating others, but just tired of going on so many dead end dates. Was fun for a while, not anymore.

Thank you Khadija.
I’ve just been single for two years now and have been on countless dates in that time, some I dated several weeks. I’m pretty, and have read so much about understanding men and how to be high value. I’ve canceled three dates this week because I’m burned out, it’s not working.
I feel I have changed though this year, I have a glow now according to people and am much happier, lost some weight and have better fashion sense, and more confident in myself and know my worth. But still, no boy I can say is my boyfriend.

I know women in the city for in 6-10 years nobody friend and few dates in between.

Don’t count the years that you are not in relationship. Just count the years how wisely that you have used your time while you are not in relationship.

Have you heard a man said why is he not in relationship and disheartened. Try not to think that way … You can be as happy as man. Seek out the guy who only wants long term relationship that leads to something greater.

I empathize with you Olivia. I just deleted Tinder since I was frustrated that I was getting very little dates, and the few I had were disappointing. I like what Options2 said about how you never hear a man complain about being single (sexless maybe but never about being single).

I am a single mom to 2 young kids and do not have the freedom others have in terms of getting hobbies, going out more, etc. So, I’m kinda stuck. I told myself I would take this time and focus on me and my past mistakes with men. Not dwell on them, but try to learn from them and figure out why I’m still nursing a broken heart for the last 9 months from someone who I obviously meant nothing to. I have abandonment issues that I need to address. If I want to attract a quality man, I need to become a quality woman. So, I’ve started journaling again and slowly reading (both fiction and non-fiction). The reading part is going slower than I like but I’ll get there eventually. Hell, I have a TON of time :)

I know it sucks being single when you clearly don’t want to be, but I keep telling myself that it’s this way for a reason. But dear God, I hope I’m not single for too many years. The sound of that makes me sad. I don’t need a man, but I want one when the time’s right.