after how many dates does a guy decide to have a serious relationshp?

Depends on the guy, some after a few dates, usually around 2-3 months time. Some never ask… Whatever you do, do not pressure him. Did you ever ask what he’s looking for?

Then you are on the right path.

I’d just wait and see where things go as the man usually has to take the lead into a relationship. If he’s doing what he’s supposed to do, calling, texting, asking you out on dates then you’re good.

This is where your age comes into play
Younger guys, not trying to generalize but usually <25, are pretty quick to ask a girl to become a girlfriend. However, the older you get more pressure comes on you as now your not just looking for a girlfriend but a potential wife/ life partner.

Since he’s already specified his intent and you guys seem to be headed on the right track I’d give him at least 6 months if not more

I agree with Rose completely – you should not put any pressure on him as that tends to scare a guy away
If you must though I’d casually ask during a conversation if he’s dating or still intends to date other women. If he says yes but makes it clear that he really likes you, personally I would choose to stick around for another 1-2 before walking away. In the meantime I’d also start dating other guys

if he hasn’t already made it clear to you that he wants to lock you down, then do not pressure him!! Don’t even hint the pressure, because the second you do, is the second he will begin to pull back and you’ll feel it and most likely will not like it.

He’s probably talking your guys “relationship” slow, he’s prob still figuring out if you’re the one he can see himself with for awhile, he’s enjoying the moment…that’s what you need to do!!

Are you in a rush to be in a seriously committed relationship? Are u needing to be married soon? Have babies soon?…if not, then just enjoy the time with him. Enjoy the dates, the sleep overs. It’s good that you two haven’t had sex yet, as the relationship isn’t yet defined. I wouldn’t have sex with him until you two are exclusive. Do you guys talk about sex? Because if you do, then that’s when you can slip the question in there by saying “I don’t have sex unless I’m in an exclusive relationship” then see what he says.

Too many women get so caught up and obsessed with the outcome of their relationship. They are living waaaaay to far into the future and missing out on the entire relationship. I was guilty of this and it broke up my relationship. I regretted it big time. Just enjoy what you have with him right now, stop stressing over when he’s going to want or see a future with you. Be thankful for today and yesterday and just look forward to as far as tomorrow. Nothing in life is ever guaranteed, so enjoy the moments while you have them. :)

He mayb thinks it is serious. If you are having fun and hes treating you well then just keep doing what youre doing and the topic will come up soon im sure. x

I typically follow a 90 day rule when it comes to exclusivity. In those 90 days, I also make sure that I have a full life (hobbies, career, friends et al) and continue to meet other people. Additionally, use that time to get to know a person to the best you can as that’s very important in determining whether you want to be with him too. Meet his friends, family (If you can), go on several dates in different settings (Dinner dates to lunches, quick coffees, a drive, a party, shopping) and if possible try to not have sex for those 90 dayes (60-90 typically for me). If you’ll both are on the same page, things will automatically progress to the next level. In case it does not organically happen, you can always have the talk. Good luck!

My guy never asked me to be his girlfriend. He just started referring to me as his girlfriend day, and talking about how he is a “one women man”. So before you give up on him if he hasn’t asked, talk to him about it. He might consider you his girlfriend and not even think he has to ask. As for a time frame, I think a 4 month deadline is about right.

I think it depends on which country you’re in too. I’m in the uk, and I’ve just turned 40. I was married from 21-36 then started dating aged 37, scary stuff as everything had changed! Anyway after a few dud dates and a ‘relationship’ for 6 months, I met my now fiance. We went on about 6 dates over 2 months (he lives 90 miles away and we both have children). After date number 6 he asked if we could both come off the dating site now? I was happy as I knew I liked him and wanted to give it a shot. He’s since said he knew on the 3rd date that he wanted to lock me down but didn’t want to scare me off. Here though I don’t think we multi date yet, not like in the states, and relationships just kind of evolve-certainly at my age anyway!

To me I can’t see anything wrong with carrying out as you are for now, if he’s letting you into his life, involving you in future plans etc then you’re on track

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Well I slept with my guy on the first date as I wasn’t looking for anything serious. Then at around six weeks I met another guy in the bar, I don’t sleep around so I asked my boyfriend if we were dating other people as ive been asked out by someone else. He took my hand and was really serious when he said he wanted to be exclusive with me… having gotten out of a 10yr relationship before hand and not used to the dating scene I was really shocked at how intense he was but agreed to be exclusive. Fast forward 18months and we’ve met families, friends, colleagues, are happier than ever are spending Christmas / New Years together with our respective families and he’s told me he plans to propose with the next six months.. he’s taking me to a tropical island over valentines so I assume he’s planning to propose then… what I’m saying is there is no right or wrong. Just be relaxed, be confident, be yourself and if you really want to know ask him as if he doesn’t want to be exclusive at least you know and can date other people. I don’t think this should be a ‘deep’ and ‘important’ conversation. It just helps to understand where your both at. Good luck!

The original post was over two years ago. But what nonsense about scaring a guy away. That is great advice to have a women get strung along for 6 months.