After three great dates, I haven't heard from him. Should I text first?

I’d text him a neutral message “Had fun the other night. Hope your week is going well.”. Don’t ask him out again on a date. If he has done all the initiating to this point, he might be waiting on you for a clue. It’s a long shot, but I have heard enough from guys that they were hoping the girl would follow up.

But it’s sort of spark from you. If it doesn’t take, and he doesn’t move forward with another date, its done.

Don’t text him. He could have gotten busy, be evaulating his feelings, or even (believe me this happens!) testing you before he gets deeper. If he pulls back a bit, do you blow up his phone and freak out? Many women will, and he may have been burned by needy controlling women in the past. So what you do now is really important.!

Leave it a few more days and come back and let us know what happened. He knows where to find you!!!

Text him! Just a simple “hi how’s things” or something.

You know men need encouragement too. They will lose heart if they don’t think the woman is interested. He’s made all the effort so far and sending one text isn’t chasing him.

If he doesn’t reply, at least you know he’s not interested instead of worrying about it as well.

eh i’d say this – the ball is in his court. three dates is hardly any time. i wholeheartedly believe that a man goes after what he wants. you give radio silence and see if you hear from him at all. trust me, if a guy is dying to see you and hang out w/ you, he will know where to find you.

don’t overthink this one. and don’t send a bunch of small talk texts. at this point, you should be dating and chatting w/ other guys. don’t fixate on one guy who didn’t call you back after 2 days. in my experience, they’ll know where to find you if they ever wanna meet up again. and quite honestly, yes – men are in the moment people and whatever they do or say only means for that moment. that’s why you need to assess a man overtime. should you ever be so inclined to hang out w/ him again – send ONE simple text asking if he wants to join you for X Y Z. up to you. choose the activity to have him join you at. if no answer – your inkling was correct.

Wow!

Thank you, everyone, for the amazing and thoughtful advice. What an awesome community of wonderful women.

Writing this helped me a lot. I did some journaling this morning, went to a kickboxing class and had some great news at my job. I also have an appointment for getting my nails done after work. I already feel much much much better.

Yeah, I thanked him for dinner and drinks, and he responded saying that he had a great time too and that was it.I’m also dating other people, is just this was the guy that had caught my attention. I actually have a date tonight.

I think what I’ll do is focus on myself, give my self some extra love and maybe if I still feel like text him, send him something along the lines of: “Hey! How is your week going?” and see how it goes, but I guess I’ll go with how I feel.

Buy yeah, I agree with you all. Sending him a text is not being desperate/blowing up his phone at all.

Agree with @Peggy. You did enough.

All this technology has made dating so darn hard!!! I still go with the ‘old school’ method— if a man’s really interested enough he’ll let you know and make darn sure you don’t forget about him; if he doesn’t…next! I know it sucks when you feel that strong chemistry with someone especially if you’ve met a lot of duds but you can’t make people feel something they don’t, so its best to walk away quickly and keep yourself open and available to a man who will feel the same way you do—their pretty obvious :o)