Am I Overthinking This?


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  • #784992 Reply
    ALH

    So I met a guy about a week ago and we’ve been hanging out mostly every day. He even made plans for us to go to a comedy show the other night and he’s taken me out to eat several times. Always holds my hand, kisses me on the forehead in public, and definitely puts in effort. Loves to show me off.

    Before the comedy show, he actually messaged me on Bumble; it was basically a “good bye” message to Bumble, saying that he had found an amazing girl, who is “so pretty that it hurts”, great personality, great sense of humor, and that he wanted to see if things could progress. I told him it was really sweet and asked if he actually deleted app. He said, “not yet, I wanted to send you the message first. But I’m not just gonna delete the app – I’m actually going to deactivate my account.”

    I got on Bumble the next day to screenshot the message but our whole conversation had disappeared. This does not necessarily mean that he deactivated his account. When you deactivate your account on Bumble, the messages stay but it says, “deleted member” and the profile is gone. I was a little curious so I brought it up to him last night. I said, “I got on Bumble to screenshot that last message you sent me because it was cute, but the whole conversation is gone.” He goes, “oh, yeah! That’s because I deleted my profile.” I said, “right, but deleting a profile wouldn’t remove the conversation. So, did you delete the convo first before deactivating your account?” He said, “No. I don’t think so. Pretty sure I just deleted my profile.” I didn’t press but I am a little curious about the whole thing. Obviously things are so fresh and he’s totally allowed to do what he wants but he was ADAMANT about deactivating it…

    I just feel like he removed the convo (or “unmatched” with me which also removes the convo) to make me think that he actually deleted it, when he really didn’t.

    #784993 Reply
    Lane

    This is when woman start shooting themselves in the foot.

    Why the need to confront him? Its your job to just watch and observe, keep mental notes, and see if his words and actions mesh up on a consistent basis over a loooooong period of time, not just a week.

    Stop spending so much time with him. Seriously, you are going to burn this out if you don’t learn how to pace yourself better by reminding yourself that you are still a “free agent”—a woman who is still open to meeting others because you don’t know him at all. Remember, people can be on ‘good behavior’ for a short bit (couple months)…its the long bit that will determine his true character. This could be his MO, so don’t think your’re special until at least 6 months have passed and you know you are special.

    Don’t be Alice and fall down the rabbit hole before you’ve properly vetted him—the hare doesn’t win the race, so best to be a turtle.

    #784995 Reply
    ALH

    Good point, Lane. Thanks for your advice! I’m just eager because the last guy I was seeing refused to see me more than once a week, and if we did meet up, I had to drive an hour to see him; it was never more than a couple of hours of hanging out. So it’s nice having a guy make the plans, pay for everything, WANT to see me, and really pursue. And we have been seeing each other a little extra because this week he will be in another state for work. Maybe the time apart will be a good thing!

    Thanks again!

    #785004 Reply
    Liz Lemon

    Lane is right. No offense intended but you’re coming off a little bit psycho, with obsessing about this Bumble account thing. It doesn’t matter if he deleted the app, deleted his profile, or just unmatched with you. What matters is his behavior over time– is he demonstrating consistent interest over weeks/months? Is he proactive in taking you out on dates? Does he make an effort to see you? Not just for a week, but for months.

    Don’t immediately assume the worst or take a suspicious approach with guys you date. Be generous. By saying that I don’t mean be a pushover, or take a lot of crap from him. I mean, assume his intentions are good and he is honest, until he proves otherwise. I’ve seen so many female friends of mine screw up potentially good situations with new guys, by immediately assuming the worst intentions behind innocent or meaningless actions. This Bumble thing you describe is a perfect example. You’re jumping to the conclusion that he’s lying to you and did not actually delete the app, based on nothing.

    And as Lane also said, you absolutely need too slow this down. There’s no reason to hang out daily with a guy you met a week ago. You’ll burn things out before they even start. There are good articles online about pacing yourself while dating- you should definitely try to pace things, especially when there’s a good connection and things are going well.

    #785005 Reply
    ALH

    Thanks Liz! I appreciate your response. The reason the Bumble thing is big to me is because the last guy I was talking to told me he wasn’t pursing anyone else. But he was active on Bumble, always checking messages on his phone, etc.

    But yes, I totally agree that I need to focus on big picture stuff. So far, he’s far better than any guy I’ve ever met. However, I do have a tendency to be suspicious which in return, creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. I agree with you though, I don’t want to screw this up by being overly suspicious when I don’t really have proof of anything.

    And yes, slowing down would not be a bad idea at all because I don’t want this to burn out.

    #785006 Reply
    Liz Lemon

    I totally understand. It sounds like the other guy you mention was a jerk and dishonest (saying he was not looking to date others when he was still active on dating apps), which sucks and is a crappy thing to do.

    When you’re in the early days of dating someone it’s best not to over-invest in the guy emotionally, which I know can be hard not to do. But you’ll just drive yourself crazy if you worry about whether he’s seeing other women, etc this early on. Until you two agree to be exclusive, you should be keeping your eyes open to other guys and not mentally locking yourself to this one guy.

    And as hard as it is, it really is better to take things slowly in the beginning, no matter how much you’re into the guy. If you two are a good match, a healthy relationship will develop over time. You can’t rush that.

    My advice would be, just take it slow and give it some time. Don’t assume you two are exclusive. When the time comes, have an open, honest, upfront conversation about whether you’re exclusive. Don’t just take deleting a dating app/profile as being exclusive, have a direct conversation about it. But date the guy for a bit before you decide on that. See if you’re compatible and if he’s consistent with his attention.

    #785007 Reply
    ALH

    I really appreciate your response, Liz!

    It is sooo difficult to not be emotionally invested when he’s doing everything I want him to do, without me telling him I want him to do it. Ya know? That being said, I still agree with you. Currently I am starting to freak out, just a little, because he said he was flying out at 10am (in 15 min) and still has not texted me anything this morning. So now I’m wondering if I did something wrong, or if he’s pulling away…any advice on that? Should I just wait for him to reach out?

    I agree. Nothing bad will ever come out of taking something slow. It’ll even be easier in the long run if the two people don’t work out. Great advice, thanks again!

    #785009 Reply
    Liz Lemon

    Don’t freak out. If he’s going away on a work trip he’s undoubtedly focused on that. Rushing to the airport, dealing with TSA, etc. Please don’t interpret his not texting you in this case as not being into you! You’re definitely overthinking it.

    Guys have a tendency to focus on one thing at a time. I’m sure he’s focused on his trip this morning. This is something I had to work on myself, with my boyfriend (we’ve been together almost 2 years now, and met online). He’s more focused and methodical than I am, and can only do one thing at a time. Whereas I’m the queen of multitasking. So when we were first dating, I had to learn to NOT interpret the fact that he didn’t text me when he was busy focusing on something else, as him losing interest in me. I can be doing 500 things at once and manage to juggle texting my friends/boyfriend at the same time :-) But he can’t. I know that about him now and accept that. So I just wait a few hours. And he always texts me eventually and wants to know what I’ve been doing, how I am, etc.

    Just sit tight and wait. Don’t freak out if he doesn’t reach out to you right away. Depending on the nature of the work trip, he might be very focused on that. So who knows, he might not text you for a couple of days. It’s very early days for you to be this invested in him, too, just try to take a step back and breathe. Try to focus on something else for the time being– work, friends, hobbies etc. Easier said than done but try not to think about it. If he’s into you, he’ll reach out eventually.

    #785010 Reply
    ALH

    You have great advice/insight, Liz!

    Yes, I am overthinking it and that’s because the last time he traveled for work (the morning after we met), he texted me 15 minutes before his flight took off. So I was just expecting that again. It’s weird for me to say “in the beginning” he texted more, because the beginning was literally last Tuesday! ;) So now I’m understanding the reason behind taking things slow. Because it appears to already be slowing down and it’s been less than 7 days. However, I totally agree that men are usually just able to focus on one thing at a time when women can focus on lots of things. And I did make the comment to him that I like how we don’t need to constantly text to feel reassured…so, I kind of, maybe, set myself up for this.

    Last night I stayed with him and when I left today, I said “have fun on your work trip! You gonna text me? (jokingly)” He said, “yeah!” And he even made plans for when he gets back on Friday for us to hang out so hopefully this is just me overthinking. But yes, I know I shouldn’t get too invested because it will definitely drive me crazy.

    I guess I’ll just wait and hope that I hear from him eventually.

    Thanks again!

    #785012 Reply
    Liz Lemon

    Here’s a tip- texting means WAY less than actually seeing each other in person. Don’t stress about the texting. Instead pay attention to how often he asks to see you in person. That’s the real indicator of his interest.

    Guys can text women all day that they have no interest in, for the attention and ego boost.

    The fact that he has already asked to see you Friday when he’s back is a very good sign. I would focus on that and not worry about the texting at all.

    And yes, stop overthinking :-) Just focus on other stuff this week and see how things go when you see him in person Friday.

    #785013 Reply
    ALH

    Thanks for the reassurance! It’s much appreciated.

    My mind has just always gone nuts if I go too long without hearing from someone. The story that I’m currently telling myself is that because he hasn’t reached out yet this morning, he doesn’t want to see me anymore on Friday when he’s back…and that I’ll never hear from him again.

    But there’s also another piece to the puzzle that I am just now reflecting on. The other night I had been making flirty comments which led him to believe that I was ready to be more physical. However, when he tried, I said no. He told me that he felt rejected and confused, due to the comments I had been making (totally my fault, I know). Last night when I stayed over, he didn’t try to do anything. All we’ve really done is made out, but he didn’t even try that. I think the reason he didn’t is because he didn’t want to be rejected again, and I get that. This morning I made the comment, “dang, you didn’t try anything last night, that was weird.” So that’s why my mind is freaking out right now. I feel like he’s still a little annoyed by that whole scenario, and since he’s annoyed, he just isn’t going to text me anymore. Even though, as of last night, he mentioned taking me to the mountains when he gets back and asked me to plan some activities while we’re there; and also mentioned hanging out Friday.

    #785014 Reply
    Lala

    I would highly encourage you to relax. You have known this man for a week and have already spent the night with him, questioned him about his texting, the bumble situation, and who knows what else that you haven’t shared with us yet. I do not think its unreasonable for him to have not contacted you before his flight on a monday morning in which you SAW him this morning, and you are NOT his girlfriend. You are coming off as very clingly and will likely push him away if you do not cool it. I would also be questioning if he will contact you again if I were you and i think you know the reason you are feeling insecure is because you have been acting clingy. I would suggest you pull way back here as i think you are in close territory of sabotaging this by your over availability and familiarity with a man you just met. This man has not had to do much of anything to win you over, it has only been A WEEK. Pull back and value yourself and your time a bit more otherwise this man will lose interest as quickly as it began, if not already.

    #785015 Reply
    Liz Lemon

    Lala is totally right! You need to pull waaaaay back. You’ve known the guy a week, have already spent the night with him, and had confusion/mixed signals over physical involvement. And, to top it off, you saw him this morning because you spent the night, but are freaking out that he didn’t text you by 10 am? Girl, chill out!

    A guy needs to earn your time. In fact, he will respect & value you more if he feels he had to work for your time & attention. Like Lala said, it sounds like this guy has had to do nothing to win you over! You’re already making out and spending the night at his place when you’ve known him a week.

    Making him earn your time doesn’t mean playing hard to get, but it means having other things going on in your life. It means not jumping into bed with him immediately.

    Stop being so clingy and obsessive. Step back. Live your life. Being available every single night means you have no life, and that will kill a guy’s interest quickly. Find a hobby, take a yoga class or join a book club or something, just do something else besides obsess over this guy.

    #785016 Reply
    ALH

    Lala, thanks for your response! Regarding being clingy, he has no idea that I’m freaking out right now. I haven’t said a word to him today and I’m never the one to reach out first. I realize we aren’t in a relationship, however, he literally asked me in person what kind of ring I want. I realize it was probably a joke, but he said he was asking because he’s been with a lot of girls and never felt this way about any of them. I actually made a comment about not wanting to put all my eggs in one basket and he said, “No, put all your eggs in my basket!” So that would naturally mess with my mind. But he’s actually done quite a bit for me, which is why I’m so drawn to him. Taking me to see a famous comedian, getting me supper multiple times, taking me out for drinks, picking me up, even offering me his airline miles so I could fly home and visit my family…he’s done more for me in 5 days then most guys have done for me, like, EVER.

    However, I do agree that it may be best to pull back so I don’t seem so available. For sure.

    Liz, thanks! What’s been normal for the past 5 days is for him to reach out in the mornings. So when he doesn’t…I overthink it. But yes, you are both right! I do need to value my time and find some more hobbies. It’s just been working well with my schedule because when I’m done with my second job, I don’t want to go out and find a hobby, ya know? I’m tired. It’s easy to sit on someone’s couch with them and watch a movie while they’re getting you dinner.

    #785054 Reply
    Lala

    I understand the tendancy to get swept up when a man is doing the right things, but once again, it has been 1 week. Anyone can be on their best behavior for a week, and to be honest, i would be weirded out by those things after knowing someone for a week! Why should he be asking you about rings and saying those things? He also doesnt know you! I can see how that would get you excited, but i would really caution you to take a step back even more as this sounds more like love bombing than genuine interest. There is no way this man can mean these things seriously about someone he just met. Generally men who talk like this so quickly, disappear just as quickly and the woman is blindsided bc she didnt see the signs that this is abnormal behavior for someone they have only just met.

    Also, yes he may not see you freaking out, but men can sense things better than we give them credit for. You may think you are playing it cool, but your behavior (taking aside the fact that you posted on here and I know you are concerned about not hearing from him), the other things i mentioned that you HAVE shown him, so i wouldnt assume he has no idea of your insecurities. If he doesnt yet, its only a matter of time before he does if you continue this pattern.

    #785056 Reply
    Tallspicy

    Girl, you sound insane. Seriously. And so does he! I am going to be harsh here so you get it.

    He asked you about rings and told you he is off the app????? THAT IS A RED FLAG. It is called love bombing, and is the sign of someone deeply unhealthy.

    But the other issue: YOU ARE ACTING NEEDY. You asked him about bumble, you asked if he was going to text you, you have stayed the night? AND you are upset you have not heard from him in a few hours???????????????????????????????????????????? I think you should look up anxious attachment, because I am not even sure you should be dating. YOU ARE WAY WAY WAY OVERINVESTED, and you are not paying attention to his red flags.

    You should be available no more than one/two nights a week until you are exclusive. You should not be staying over until you are exclusive. You should not be asking him if he is going to contact. Until you are exclusive you should really not care about him at all.

    I am not sure this is a him thing, most women would be turned off by his wanting so much so fast because it does not bode well.

    #785057 Reply
    Liz Lemon

    Again, I have to agree with Lala completely. Please re-read her post, she is so 100% spot on. The behavior you’re describing from him is a huge red flag. There’s no way a guy you’ve known a week should be talking about rings, offering you airline miles, or saying he’s never met any other girl like you.

    The problem with these types of guys is they rush things, they put you on a pedestal, then in a few weeks or a month everything crashes down because he realizes you’re not the “perfect” girl he imagined you to be, but just a human being like everyone else.

    I’m not trying to freak you out but please do slow your roll. Guard your heart and be really careful about getting swept away by this guy. Guys who are serious about truly getting to know you and developing a bond with you do not try to rush things or talk crazy stuff (like mentioning rings after a week).

    #785058 Reply
    Ss

    Firstly you are correct about bumble – he unmatched you for sure. He might have done so and then deleted his account but no way of knowing that and it makes very little sense. It would be an amber flag for me because he has lied. I wouldn’t have raised it though.

    Secondly- This love bombing. Its insane and ott but being in the midst of it feels amazing when you’ve been treated like crap by other men. The thing is none of it can be genuine; real feelings do not develop like that. I know you are enjoying it but its too much too soon and as tempting as it is not to, you need to step waaaaay back and not be so available and eager… he isnt working for you at all – anyone can splash the cash.

    I get your anxiety about texting. People say on here it doesn’t matter, its new, you’re not his gf etc but i have never once experienced text anxiety where i haven’t heard from a guy for a day or so and its worked out fine. Not once.

    I get that texting *shouldnt mean much but in this day and age of communication it absolutely does! In your case i would not freak out just yet as he is away but if you have not heard from him by Wednesday I’d predict its curtains

    #785066 Reply
    ALH

    Lala, I just looked up love bombing and found surprising similarities. That made me think of how all day and evening before the comedy show he was showering me with compliments, saying he was deactivating his bumble for me, said that we should look for a good church together (we both grew up going to church), said he wanted to take me to the mountains for the weekend, literally whispered in my ear “I’m not going anywhere”, but after I told him I wasn’t ready to be physical, the compliments stopped and things got a little weird. It’s almost like he was saying/doing all that stuff to work towards a goal. Even went as far as to say “sex isn’t important to me. It really isn’t. I just wanna get to know you.”

    Tallspicy, thanks for pointing out those things. I actually do have an anxious attachment style and I’ve definitely been trying to work on it. I went ahead and deactivated my bumble as well just because I agree, I might not ready to date. Also, I’m just following his lead. He said he was DEFINITELY going to deactivate his account, so I felt that I had a right to question it. He also expressed fear that I’d leave him because he has a kid, or that I’d just hook up with him and leave because apparently, other girls have done that to him. So maybe it’s possible that he came on this strong with them too, so they just hooked up with him because he’s nice looking and has a good body, then left. It’s not my style, but he claims it’s been done. I appreciate your opinion!

    Liz, thanks again for your honesty. When he mentioned the ring, I didn’t take it super seriously, however, I did note it in my head. He went on to say that he’s never been engaged or even close, so I was surprised that he felt so comfortable saying something like that to me after a day (yes, he literally mentioned the ring the day after we met). I definitely need to guard my heart though.

    So what should I do for the time being? He said he landed and was at his hotel but that’s all I’ve heard from him and that was a few hours ago. Should I let the whole thing go or wait and see what happens when he gets back? As of last night, he wanted me to come over Friday when he got back after he put his daughter to bed.

    #785068 Reply
    ALH

    Ss, thanks for your response. I definitely found it interesting that he told me he only deactivated his profile…bc clearly the convo isn’t there anymore and that doesn’t happen on its own. I agree, and he was literally saying some of the stuff to me the very next day. Interesting comment on the texting! I will keep that in mind. Yes, I was glad that he finally texted but it was only a “just got to my hotel”, which gives me nothing to respond to. He’s just being different. Since I’ve known him, he’s traveled twice for work, and the first time, he texted me right before he took off, right when he landed, and all throughout the entire day. So. Yeah, something is different.

    #785069 Reply
    Liz Lemon

    There are a couple things here I want to comment on….so he has a daughter. A young daughter I presume? I really question why a man with a young child would have a woman he barely knows over to his home with his daughter there. Even if she’s asleep, that’s not the point. My boyfriend and I both have children (I have a teenager, and my bf’s child is in elementary school). We did not meet each other’s kids until we had been dating exclusively for 9 months. I did not sleep over at my bf’s with his child there until we had been dating exclusively for over a year. People dating with children need to be extra careful about who they expose their kids to! It’s not good for the kids to see a revolving door of dates in and out of their parents’ lives. You only bring the kids into the relationship when you’re certain that it’s solid and serious. You do NOT plan to bring someone that you met off a dating app a week ago around your child, no matter how great the person may seem. So I really question his judgement (even more than I already was).

    You mention that he was really laying it on thick until you made it clear you would not get physical with him: “after I told him I wasn’t ready to be physical, the compliments stopped and things got a little weird. It’s almost like he was saying/doing all that stuff to work towards a goal.” And now his texting behavior is different and weird. You should listen to your instinct here! And him going out of his way to tell you “sex isn’t important” and he just wants to get to know you…uh huh. That’s a very strange thing to say to someone you’ve known a week. Of course sex is important in a relationship, in due time- not after a week!

    #785070 Reply
    Lala

    Agree completely with Liz here regarding having you to his house after his daughter is in bed. I dated a man very seriously for 6 months and never met his kids bc he wasn’t ready to bring a new woman into their life. I met everyone else in his life, and him in mine, but we both realized the magnitude of that. Prior to that relationship I had a man I was seeing for a short time suggest I come over when his young daughter was asleep and it was a huge turnoff that a man that barely knew me would compromise his daughters well-being for the company of a woman he barely knew, and I know I am a sane, respectable woman!

    I have an anxious attachment as well, so I get the anxiety you are feeling but this mans behavior is not normal or becoming. I also don’t believe the line that women have used him for sex. In my opinion he is a player at best and knows what to say to get what he wants and then disappears once he’s lost interest and potentially more off If he is really talking about rings and a future after a week.

    I don’t think his limited communication at this point is weird, he is on a work trip. You have no idea what that entails for him. Just because he was texting you from a trip one time doesn’t mean he will always be able to. I’d also urge you not to start expecting things based on his past behaviors because it has only been a week; patterns are not formed in a week! Only when things are consistent over time should you get comfortable. At this point he has texted you 1 time consistently on a work trip and 1 time he hasn’t, so you now have as much evidence that he doesn’t text on trips as you do that he does.

    As I’ve said before I think you need to relax. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing at this point, it’s been a week! Back off your texting and your expectations for him while he’s gone and see what he does when he’s back, but I’d also suggest you evaluate his overall behavior bc I don’t necessarily trust it, just my 2 cents though, for whatever that’s worth!

    #785075 Reply
    Lil

    Anxious attachment is difficult.. keep working on it….

    What I did think from your initial post though was the bumble message and the intensity was maybe just maybe a manipulative tactic to get things going in the bedroom.

    If you want to set your mind at rest over the bumble thing I would set up a fake account with a cat photo or something just for the purpose of seeing if he pops up… I had a guy pull this dating app thing on me and I just had a nagging feeling that he was lying to me. I was right he was still active on the site. It was ok Cupid and what was worse he was online when I found him. I didn’t confront him though just told him that I was no longer feeling it. I had my answer.

    Also please don’t apologise for maybe leading him on. You don’t need to ever apologise that you didn’t want to do something. Though clear communication between you and your partner is helpful.

    #785084 Reply
    anon

    The pacing is off. You’ve been dating for a week, and he spent the week basically obsessed with you. The airline miles, dates, mountain trip. And the whole Bumble message thing is also weird and honestly, I bet you are not the only woman to get that text. Also the whole “women use me for my body and just hook up” is BS. Very few women seek one night stands. There are some women who may not want relationships, but most do not want one time sex. He’s either that bad in bed or full of BS.

    I don’t think there is anything nefarious, but it sounds like he locks onto a woman and gets obsessed, and probably quickly loses interest.

    Your job is to treat him as an option for the next couple of months. You may not be actively dating other men, but do not buy his attention as “love”. Most healthy relationships start slowly.

    #785085 Reply
    ALH

    Thanks, Liz. Yes, his daughter is 3. He said she goes to bed at a certain time and doesn’t ever wake up in the night. He only lets me come over after she is asleep when he has her because he’s never introduced her to a girl he’s seeing. He said he’s very cautious about that. Regarding the sex thing, he said, “I’ll wait a million years to have sex with someone like you.” So yes. It does seem a little strange (maybe A LOT strange to everyone else on here.)

    Lala, thanks for your response. I find it interesting that you were turned off by a man letting you come over when his daughter was asleep, when that is exactly what this guy does. I will definitely being re-thinking all of it today. He totally might be a player. But would a player go and tell his dad, sister, and two best friends about me?
    He did make an interesting comment before he left for his work trip. He said, “yeah, usually women get all worried when I travel to CA for work just because there’s so many girls there but I want you especially to understand that when I travel for work, I work constantly. I get it done, then I come back as soon as I can.” Then he proceeded to say, “my last girlfriend lived in South Dakota (we live in CO) because I met here there on a work trip.” This is AFTER telling me that when he’s on business trips, trying to meet a girl is NOT something he does.

    Thanks, Lil. I agree. He even made the comment on the way back from the comedy show (where he ordered me 3 shots of whiskey on ice, which is NOT my drink of choice, EVER…but it definitely would have gotten me drunk if I drank it), “let’s see if Walgreens is open and we can get some condoms.” Even though I had told him I didn’t want to have sex yet.
    It would be awful to find out someone was not only active on a dating app they said they were off of, but online at the same time! Guys can be extremely challenging to trust. But yes, I did make a new account on Bumble but then realized since he’s traveling, his location will be in CA. So it won’t even show up on my end until he’s back in CO. Too bad I don’t know anybody in CA on Bumble so they could check for me ;) Hahaha, but that’s a joke! I wouldn’t do that.

    Sooo, after he texted me and said he got to his hotel, I said, “Good. So you just want me to come over Friday after 9pm? I’m not traveling home anymore so I’m trying to plan out my week here.” We’re both planners so it’s not uncommon for either of us to send a text such as that one. Anyway, no response. 6 hours later, I sent him a link to a hotel that I thought he had told me about and asked if it was the one he said he wanted to take me to here in a few weeks. Again, NO RESPONSE. I was talking to a friend about it and she said, “well if he’s comfortable enough to talk about rings, after A DAY, you shouldn’t feel bad for wanting to text him while he’s traveling for work.”
    I’ll be disappointed if I don’t hear from him today…he literally said to me, “i’m never going to leave you.” Which is…weird…I know. And I actually told him not to say it.

    What does everyone think? As of Monday morning, we had plans to hang out Friday evening when he returns. Should I just assume it isn’t going to happen due to his lack of communication? I get that he’s traveling for work, and you’re right, Lala, I have no idea what that entails, but when you’ve been communicating daily for 6 solid days, sending a good night text at the very least, should not be a challenge.

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