Am I taking this the wrong way?

We last spoke earlier in the week when I told him I had reserved my ticket and we talked about how we’re looking forward to it. We don’t talk daily, not my style nor his. I guess I just don’t feel great about having to reach out when it’s his plan. That’d be like if someone planned a date idea but left out important logistical information and then you had to ask about it all last minute, that’s not very considerate in my opinion.

We did say in person that we’d meet up beforehand though. It’s also starting later in the evening in a neighborhood I don’t know well so I don’t like the idea of arriving there by myself and he’s been considerate about thinking of those things on past dates before. I’m just confused because the past dates were all thoughtfully planned by him in a timely manner, so this situation is throwing me off.

If it were me and I hope you take my advice I would reach out to him and let him know that you appreciate the invite but want to leave him with his friends to have fun. And leave it at that. He already knows you are interested so don’t worry about how it comes across. It will make you more attractive.

The prior message was in response to Gaia.

@Mary,
Thank you for sharing but respectfully, I’m not going to take that advice because I do want to go to this concert and I’d love to meet his friends.

Ok – you will be showing him that the way he is being is acceptable so that is what you will likely get more of.

I agree with, Gaia. You’re over thinking it. Don’t play games.. it’s transparent and not attractive. If you have questions, ask them!

I completely disagree with Mary and Zoe here. Especially because you already bought the ticket. The guy may or may not turn out to be a flake but you still have a concert to enjoy. If you want to be with the guy and he already confirmed earlier in the week that he wanted you to go IN PERSON then you are just over thinking things. Just go with the flow.

Easy text- Hey, We seem to have forgotten logistics… where am I meeting you?

This isn’t a power play or playing games. That’s for kids who don’t know what they want.

So far, his track record seems pretty good about asking you out, dating, etc. This may just have slipped his mind since it was already pre-arranged with his friends. It’s actually good that he wants to include you. Once you meet up, observe how he behaves not only with his friends but with you… i.e. buying you drinks, merch, dancing with you, introducing you, etc.

When is this concert? Saturday or Sunday? Maybe he will let you know the day of? But I don’t understand why you don’t just ask him how are you meeting up if you want to know. You should not fear communicating this. Now if you had ask and he hadn’t responded then now we could have start to assume things.

Just ask him. He’s probably wondering why you haven’t asked and thinks you have your own way of getting there.

Thanks ladies for the responses!

I have to say I disagree with @Mary, I have not been showing needy behavior just by initiating one date after he planned a couple nice ones already. The date was a casual activity I would’ve done by myself that he had previously expressed interest in. He thanked me for coming up with a fun plan.

I asked him about the logistics and it turned out to be a case of his friends figuring things out last minute and not keeping him in the loop. We ended up all meeting up together for dinner before the concert. I was definitely overthinking things, I’ve just had some bad experiences with men who don’t plan things out and don’t communicate well. At the end of the concert he asked me out for another date next week.

Thanks to everyone who listened to my over-analyzing brain talking, sometimes need some common sense talked into me.

YAY! :)

See you just had to ask him babe! Glad it all turned out well. He is definitely a keeper to how you’re describing things. :)