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I have recently been talking to some guys (dating world sucks) and one guy has caught my eye. We have the most natural, flirtatious and outgoing connection. However we do live in different states and due to covid we cant meet yet. This guy that caught my eye was the first person to actually speak his mind and what he liked in a women instead of hearing the actual standard line “small to average, good bum and boobs” he continued throughout talking to me over the weeks that he cant believe im real and how he wants to meet me soon and hates that covid is ruining our chance of meeting. We also have a very intense sexual connection as well. He is sweet but i also think he is charming in like a Fboy way. However i have been noticing a pattern now and i realised he will talk maybe half the day and then go radio silence on me. I just wanted to clarify something with him and he totally bypassed the question so i asked him again and now he has been a total 3 days radio silence hasnt seen or opened the message and hasnt been on the app we met on. AM i imagining things here or is he ghosting me ? am i that gullible to listen to his words and take hope in what he said to me because apparently he is really attracted to me. Where do i go from here now i sent him a message to see if he will reply and yet to receive anything from him. Am i just wasting my breath or just over thinking this .. what the hell do i do?
NewbieAre you that gullible? Well yeah 100%. You have never met the guy and believe there is an intense sexual attraction and overflattering you while you cant verify even one thing about him/her. Its not uncommon though especially now in covid times.
So what to do, i suggest nothing. He has been radio silent. In these type if situations you really have to date. A guy telling you youre to good to be true without ever meeting is always too good to be true. Its called catfishingSsWell it does depend on what you felt you needed to “clarify” like if it was something a bit intense for the initial stage you are at you may well have put him off because you are too intense and invested or put him off because you’ve asked a pertinent question that has “rumbled” him if he is a fboy future faking type.
I used to get drawn in by this “oh you are so different, I can’t believe I’ve found you” stuff but then I realised it is absolute flannel when a stranger says these things- they do not know you and you don’t know them. Those that burn hot so quickly tend to burn out equally as quickly!
Chill, see what happens but don’t pursue him and don’t get over invested
SsWell it does depend on what you felt you needed to “clarify” like if it was something a bit intense for the initial stage you are at you may well have put him off because you are too intense and invested or put him off because you’ve asked a pertinent question that has “rumbled” him if he is a fboy future faking type.
I used to get drawn in by this “oh you are so different, I can’t believe I’ve found you” stuff but then I realised it is absolute flannel when a stranger says these things- they do not know you and you don’t know them. Those that burn hot so quickly tend to burn out equally as quickly!
Chill, see what happens but don’t pursue him and don’t get over invested
TallspicyAre you serious? I am going to be very harsh here so you understand. This is not a man you know, this is not a man you are dating and this is not a man who is real to you in any way other than your projected fantasy onto him. You have no connection romantic or otherwise. And the fact that you mention sexual when you have not even met this man means you have very weak boundaries because my guess is you were sending photos and words that were way more sexual than a man you have never met deserves.
Unless you are spending time with someone in real life, you have nothing. Period.
He is not ghosting you because you are not in a relationship, you are not even dating.
What do you do? You get your head on straight. Put on some lipstick and love up on yourself. You lose this mans number and do the inner work so this does not happen again.
Most likely whatever you asked him was too much, because you should not be asking strangers for clarification about anything. This man was not anything other than a stranger. Because you never met him.
RavenYou posted this before…
You haven’t met, he lives in another state…
He’s probably married & is spending the Holidays with his family… -
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