Another conoravirus situation

How old are you? I’m just asking because you seem very young & inexperienced. And the Taylor Swift reference makes it seem like you’re pretty young.

You have to understand that things will never work out if you build up a fantasy about a guy before you even know him. You’re not “in love” with him, you’re in love with the idea of him you have in your head.

You had 4 dates in the past month. That’s not enough time to really know someone & fall in love with him. If he’s fading out, let him go. You can’t force a guy to be into you & want to contact you. A guy who wants to pursue something with you won’t leave you wondering. It’s really that simple.

Guys, when I said “in love” I put that in quotes because I don’t really mean I am definitely in love. I just have a crush on him.

I agree I get attached to people too soon. I’m Latina, they say Latinos are way too passionate, maybe it’s a cultural thing. He’s American though.

I answered to his text this morning and we had a fun chat and the conversation died.

I wanna say something funny to him (inside joke) but I don’t know if I should text him since the conversation died. If I text him that means I’ll be initiating right?

Having a crush is normal so don’t beat yourself up over it, its happened to all of us but you have to be able to compartmentalize it knowing that in most cases those feelings won’t be returned or returned in the way you hoped it was.

Its not love, its infatuation you are feeling. Love and infatuation can feel similar but love is much CALMER because you’ve developed something beyond infatuation where all those fuzzy feelings begin to dissipate and you move into a feeling of safety, security and surety knowing that you’ve segued into a real life relationship.

I don’t think he’s blowing you off, I think he’s probably spending a lot of time gaming and he’s probably not eating or sleeping well either if he’s not working. Me and my BF started laughing about this the other day where we have little to nothing to talk about because we are both in a state of boredom haha.

I would just respond to him the way you normally do to any text you receive. For now I would chill out until life gets back to normal. He could spring back and pick up where he left off, or he might not. Hopefully by then you’re crush emotions have had a chance to calm down and aren’t as infatuated with him when it does :o)