Anyone tempted to send new years text to ex

i don’t see anything wrong with texting him.. what do you have to lose? yeah you might feel stupid if he doesn’t reply, but what if he does reply? it could break the ice with you two again. you never know until you try.

The nostalgic holiday texts.
I’d hold off on sending that text for while longer. Two months is still rather fresh.
If things ended badly, what good friendship do you hope to get from it?
It takes a while to really be friends with an ex.

I plan on sending one to at least two of mine. we still chit chat from time to time so it won’t be out of the ordinary.
Just a simple note like what Maria said, with no alternative motive.

Send it.

You know you made a mistake.

That is how we grow to be a better person.

I think I will, I will group message him so he doesn’t just think it’s to him,A lot has gone on between us, and hopefully he’s not angry or hurt anymore.

What if he doesn’t reply, what do I do?

I’m with Happy on this one, if you’re sending with a motive to get back together, I’d re-think it. And sometimes we tell ourselves even it’s just to say _________ and in that moment we don’t think we want to reconcile, only to realize we still have feelings and do. So I’d say IF you’re really over it, send it.

I definitely don’t want to get back with him now, in time who knows? But no definitely not ready for any relationship ESP with him. I miss his friendship, and when u have that it’s hard to lose.
I will send and tell u ladies what happens, but I agree with options2 you need to experience everything even once, to be able to learn. I don’t learn from other people’s mistakes, even though it would be nice if i did.

Don’t. It will feed his narcissistic supply.

Hi did send a text to my ex to wish him an happy Bew year, but he didn’t reply. Knowing him it takes him forever to reply to text messages and i always took it personal but anyways, i was just tempted to do so because he texted me for Thanksgiving and Christmas. So i would say try, you never know.

I need everyone’s unbiased opinion on my situation. I would really really appreciate it.

Sooooooo, my boyfriend went back to Japan for this winter break to see his parents, family, and friends that he hasn’t seen in 2 years. Of course I am okay with that, because everyone has to see their loved ones. I had a talk with him before he left about my worries regarding this trip. Things that mostly included girls, because you know, I am not there with him. For a whole month. I’m not saying that I don’t trust him, but he likes to party a lot, which I don’t like. I am more on the conservative side, so hearing him going out to drink with his friends kind of worry me a bit. Especially if girls are involved. A lot of the times, guys will do what they feel like in the moment and not really think about what’s going on. He told me not to worry, but a concerned girlfriend is a concerned girlfriend.

I’m not sure what all goes on over there when we don’t contact each other, which sometimes it’s understandable that he’s busy, but I can’t seem to calm my soul. Bad scenarios are always racing through my mind. Sometimes I’m even on edge and feel as if I’m crazy.

Then New Years come. Japan gets their New Year first because they’re on the other side of the world, and so he contacts and texts me in celebration when it had hit 2016 over there for him. And we skyped that next morning. But then BOOM. I go to check up on his social media accounts (because he usually puts up videos and pictures there of his trip) and see that his EX had sent him a New Year’s message……………Like FFFFFFFF. I’m not trying to overreact, but I had the heaviest sinking feeling in my heart. It’s not that I don’t like her, but I don’t like the situation they were in before he was with me. I just don’t like relationships with Ex-girlfirends period. Makes my trust spiral. But before he was with me, he was with this girl. He had a bad reputation with her, because apparently he was only with her because he felt bad for her. He claims he felt guilty towards her. She liked him a lot, but he didn’t like her. She used to hang out with him late at night and do who know what. Which still makes my heart sink at the thought. I don’t know how to get over his past. He has lied to me before about the things that they have done, but he was extremely guilty and just didn’t want to lose me. He’s been amazing towards me, but I just can’t get over his past and this girl. They broke up after she moved back to China. I don’t know how I should take this situation right now? Should I be concerned about her? AND her message? I hate thinking of the worst things that could happen, like him actually talking to her and reminiscing. Or possibly have feelings for her. Because I just don’t know what’s true. Should I have a talk with him about this and how I can’t get over his past? I just don’t know what to do. I hate feeling like I’m not the only one. Any help would greatly be appreciated.

And I hope everyone has a healthy and happy new year!

Surprisingly I feel OK , it’s taken me a long time to get to this stage. But I believe if it’s meant to be it will be, he may phone in three months he may never, but that’s not my problem anymore. I believe I’ve put it out there that I’m not angry anymore, that’s all I can do, I won’t beg for friendship, and it may be in my best interests if he’s out of my life. So Im glad I sent that message, but I would only if I know that there’s a chance he may not reply, and that I’m ready for that

I have an ex I always adored. The relationship lasted 4 years. I was so heart broken when we split up.
I sent him many texts and email since then. Usually no reply.
Although I still care for him, I do not think he feels the same as I do, or maybe he is not interested in the same type of relationship.
It is great to keep love in your heart for all our exes.
But when a person does not reciprocate after a long time, it is best to let it go and make room for someone new: