Are his actions considered cheating?

I have been in a long distance relationship with a guy overseas I met through a dating app over 4 months ago. I wasn’t quite ready to meet him around the 2 month mark but he went ahead and booked tickets to come visit me without asking me about my availability and told me about it after the fact a few weeks later. The time he booked the tickets was right after we had reconciled after a 2 week breakup. My family and friends had their doubts about him and so did I so I ended it with him and did not tell them when I rekindled the relationship. I felt I should give him a second chance since I had not been vocal about my concerns about him and wanted to see if we could work things out.I felt there were inconsistencies in his stories and did not appreciate him mentioning other women from dating apps.

A week before he was supposed to visit me, my family suggested I talk to another guy. We come from a culture of arranged marriage so it was suggested by a family friend. I reluctantly agreed to talk to this guy and I told the other guy overseas I was simply doing this to appease my family for the timebeing and that I had no real interest in this other guy as I was already falling in love with him (guy from overseas). The plan was to inform my family that I wanted to marry him after he returned to his country after his trip. He said he was fine with it and said he was cool with “giving me a free pass” as I had only been only talking to him and was no longer using dating apps since 1 month into our relationship (and he claims he had done the same). Besides texting and 3 phone calls, nothing happened with this other guy my family suggested and I never met him either.

The guy from overseas visited and we had a great 2 weeks together. However, towards the end of the trip, he went to see his cousins and during that time, he visited a woman he used to talk to 1.5 years ago. Apparently, she reached out to him when she saw he was visiting her city and came over to his cousin and cousin’s wife’s place. From there, she invited them all over to her apartment to smoke hookah and marijuana and enjoy the city views. His two male cousins and their wives and he went over there. He was missing for 7 hours which is weird since he is the type to text me several times an hour. He told me afterwards that he had gone to see her and sent me a 20 second video of her serving him and only him an elaborate meal and describing how she made each item on his plate. It was obvious they were flirting and having a good time. He claims his cousins’ were full so they did not want to eat and chose to stay on the balcony as he feasted inside. After I expressed my displeasure, he put his cousin and his wife on the phone who vouched that they had been there and that nothing happened between him and the woman. Before he went to her place, his cousins did ask him if he was going to tell me that he was going to see her because they knew we were serious and he told them he would tell me afterwards. They later chose to give him space by leaving him inside with her while they smoked hookah on the balcony and declined her food.

The only reason I think he told me about her is because I called him since he had been MIA for 7 hours and also to tell him that my parents wanted me to slowly stop talking to this other guy and consider another guy (who I never ended up speaking to anyway). I wanted to be forthcoming with him since I did not want to entertain these other men. I think he only told me about her to get back at me and he was confident that he had done nothing wrong. But the next day, his tune had changed and he apologized for his actions. We ended up discussing this for the last 2-3 days of his trip. I told him I had doubts about his judgment since he always does things and tells me after the fact. To be honest, I have had doubts about his ability to be faithful and have not fully trusted him from the beginning. On the last day, he also told me that this woman had sent an instagram follow request and he had accepted because it “would be rude not to accept.” This also made me question if he reached out to her to meet with her instead of her seeing him in town on social media and reaching out to him.

I am thinking about ending things with him and my friends (both male and female as well as their spouses) all think he was in the wrong. He says he loves me and calls me his girlfriend and says he has a ring picked out but I am really questioning leaving my family and friends to move overseas, changing my last name, quitting my job and becoming a stepmother to his child.