Ask Me Anything – Sunday, December 13th @ 8 PM ET

My boyfriend lives in another state and recently went back home from being here on vacation. I sent him a text asking him if he had settled back in at home and if he forgot me. Its been 5 days and i havent heard from him. Is this soething that could upset a guy after we shared a wonderful time together ?

In case it wasn’t posted the first time: been dating a guy for 3 years. Never officially been in relationships. Keeps telling me he wants to be in relationship with me one day when he is emotionally ready. We have discussed marriage twice. He started the conversations. Should I wait for him or not?

Hey Eric!

So my bf of 2 1/2 years broke up with me over a month ago, after someone who was near to him died and I didn’t notice him being so sad and so we fought over something ridiculous and he broke up with me, saying I am selfish and it’s better for us.

2 weeks later I called him and we met to talk, we talked for hours and he said he still loves me a lot but he thinks we maybe don’t fit and we’re too young and he has commitment issues and that he thinks it could work in the future. That he would love to be able to tell me he just needs time but that he doesn’t know how much time he needs and he doesn’t want me to wait for him.

So we had some issues but they were minor, it was mostly small fights that we discussed the same day and were okay afterwards. I think he doesn’t know how to deal with the death and he needs space.

Now I’ve gone NC for almost a month, I have been doing research on how to improve myself and have been doing good mostly. I know what I need to improve and have been working on it, for myself and not for him. He hasn’t contacted me either although he said he wants to stay friends and that he is always there for me and that it’s not the end, that he still has hopes that it could work in the future, because if it’s mend to be, it will happen.

So for next week I was invited to a party by one of his friends, that would be a day after a month NC.

My question is, should I go? I want to get him back and I want to fight for it, so at least I can say I tried even if I fail. But I don’t know if a party is a good start or if I should just start texting him and maybe start meeting him again.
What is your advise?

Thank you!

how to distinguish if a guy treats me so nicely and seemed sincere when we are together really likes me or actually has other intention?

i met this guy a few months ago when we were both traveling in asia. we spent two days together. it was fun and he was so nice. took my to good restaurants, we went shopping, so gentle and considerate when we were together. sex was amazing though i did not fancy him.
in the past four months after the trip, we only messaged once on his birthday because i thought friends would send bd wishes. i tried to be nice because i felt that he was nicer to me than I did.

last month, he suddenly messaged me that he is visiting my country in December for two weeks, asking me if I’d be around and asking me for trip advice. i was busy and i tried to avoid spending too much time with him so i only set up two days for him at the end of his stay.
we had dinner and drinks together, was nice to catch up. he kept saying he came to see me, he’s upset i couldnt spend more time with him, he will take me to good places if i go visit him; he could connect me with some job opportunities and he wants to help me because i’m really special and he believes that i’ll be so successful; he invited me to a trip in Dec and a trip next Feb, saying i don’t need to worry about any expense.
he was so nice and seemed very sincere i felt like he likes me but also felt skeptical at the same time.
he wanted to take me home but i didn’t want to. we’ve talked for like 2 hours i told him how things are different after half a year and i thought we’ve reached consensus that we could be friends.
on his leaving day i was nearby his hotel so i went say goodbye we had lunch(he thought i went to have sex with him…) so i made it clear again i don’t want to do it. then we had pretty good conversation in the afternoon then he decided to changed his flight to spend more time with me.
the trip ended up with no sex just talking. i thought we could be friends and he did send a friendly message before he got aboard. however after a few messages he stopped messaging. just a few days ago i shared with him an article related to our conversation but he hasn’t replied yet.

is it normal when a guy show up after a few months no contact being so nice to me just because he likes me?
did i do anything wrong to mislead him or hurt his men pride because i didn’t believe him he just wants to be nice to me?
should i try to message again even if he doesn’t text back? (i really want to be friends with him)

hey guys
so I’ve been dating my bf over 14 months and from the start it’s been rocky but it’s got really bad the last few months. I live with my parents and I’m in grad school. so we don’t have a normal relationship (we’re both in our 30s and my situation isn’t the best for a relationship) but we both want a future with each other we just are so stubborn. we fight about just everything mostly small issues we never make it to big issues, but no matter how big the fight we still text everyday. I know it’s not easy for him, and I tend to fall hard and I really want him. I think he’s pretty close to giving up (he’s less affectionate and he doesn’t reply to my flirty texts and is now taking longer and longer to reply to texts). I’m not nuts I don’t send a million msgs and wait all day for his reply with nothing else going on but it does upset me what happening and how neither of us is getting what we want. we both love each other and I’d like to know if situations like this have any hope of standing the rest of time?

I’ve been seeing a guy friend from 20 plus years ago privately. I’m divorced with 2 children should and he has never been married. I know he loves me and I love him too. I am very busy with my children and they are always with me. I hardly ever have anytime without them right now so we don’t go out and he just comes to see me at night after my children are in bed. They have not met him yet a nd He has said he is concerned about how they will handle the situation. He never texts or calls me, but wants me to be the one to contact him whenever I can see him since he knows I have priorities with my children. Anytime I ask he always makes the time to see me. He is very affectionate so I think this is very important to him in a relationship. Is this common for some men to wait for a woman to contact them knowing they have priorities, such as taking care of children? In some ways I wish he would make more initial contact and take more of a lead, but in another way it makes me feel comfortable that he isn’t putting any pressure on me like other men have since I’ve been divorced. What do you think?

Myself and my lover he made plans for us to be together as a couple FINALY after 7 years of back and forth and hardship tough relationship then a woman came in between us again am so done but he keeps holding on and so do I. The love is powerful but am so tired do I throw in the towel. I don’t know what to do at this point he told me things will get better and he is working on himself. Thank you for all the points and suggestions. I did every excerise and practice all your Points and they work. Thank you once again.

Please, help!
Met this guy online and have been talking for a couple weeks. But never wants to meet me anywhere. He is trying to reset up his business that burned and has two kids that he shares custody. He says he is tired and that he is stressed out and I believe him cause he has sent me pictures of all as proof. We don’t talk or text a whole lot but he does text me good morning everyday and text on his way home and a couple times at night.

How do I take this. We flirt but and keep trying to meet but he doesn’t follow through what should I make of the whole thing?

My feb said that im his boo and he loves me but he needs to get his life together. A week before that he told me his ex wife was trying to get back with him. Now he is acting really distant. Wont answer my texts or calls but will still contact me occasionally saying good.morning beautiful, ect. Should I cut contact and just move forward till he figures his stuff out or what. I dont understand what is going on or what to do….. Help please

When and how do we find your reply to the questions we sent in?

I was seeing someone for about a year and a half when he suddenly broke it off out of nowhere. We never had a first fight. He said he fell out of love with me 9 months before the break up (which would have been less than 2 months after he said I love you). He admitted he saw himself marrying me, wanting to have kids with me, etc. I heard from other people he broke it off because I talked about heartache from a previous ex a lot in the beginning. I’m not exactly sure why we broke up because none of those reasons feel like the truth. All I know is 7 months have went by and he is maintaining no contact with me. I still love him and want him back more than anything. Is there anything I can do? OR is it at the point that it’s safe to say he isn’t coming back? I don’t know why I can’t let go of these feelings for him but I’m completely miserable without him.

Hey Are you or Sabrina going to answer all of these posts?