Ask Me Anything – Sunday, December 13th @ 8 PM ET

When do I give up? Is there best practice for that? I’ve been seeing this guy for a few months, we’ve only been on five dates but have been chatting for three months and everything has been going really well. We get on really well, we have a good time, we just gel. He has a new business that will open tomorrow and it’s a massive deal for him, everything. I haven’t seen him for three weeks as he’s been working on this but we’ve been texting every few days. I was initiating contact at first and then, after reading all The New Mode newsletters, pulled away, only to have him check in on me. He’s gone from texting me every day to only every few days over the last three weeks and being very tardy with replies. I called him out (in a jokey way) on a crappy one line reply a few days ago and he apologised and just said “it’s go go” then sent me a jokey “I miss you”.
After not having seen him for three weeks and the end of the year coming, is it wise just to completely forget this and walk away? I have such a good feeling about it and have plenty of other stuff going on, it isn’t everything to me, BUT I’m new to dating (after coming out of a ten-year relationship) and brand new to actually liking someone, I’m 35 so a bit older than most daters and I just don’t know what hard-and-fast rules there are? He’s 40 if you need that info? I have advice from “He’s Just Not That Into You” floating around me but it doesn’t feel like it’s right in this case. Can you help at all please?

Can a man REALLY love two women that he has been in long term relationship with?

Hello, soo I’ve been dating this guy for few months n I thought that things were going great. . Unfortunately I was wrong. … he disappeared with no explanation. .. and now months later he occasionally sends me a text but its always been sexting. … I don’t understand what is his agenda? What does it mean n why now hes doing that? How do I tell him that I want a real relationship n not just an occasional text… how do I proceed in this situation? Thanks

I met this man about a year ago, & at the time he was in a relationship. He has since become single and so have I! He has frequently expressed interest in hooking up, and we talk often enough to stay in touch over FaceTime, texts etc. We are both successful, driven, attractive people (He, an NHL player, me, a candidate for Medical school). I had texted him several days ago to congratulate him on winning his game, he responded within half an hour and our conversation lasted for the next 2 days up until his next game. Our conversation ended with him saying he would text me once his game was over, and I wished him good luck. They won this game as well, and I received a snapchat from their dressing room celebrating. I replied asking where they were planning to go, and received no response. I know given his life style he is extremely busy, and I brushed it off as being excited and wanting to have some downtime. However, I still have not heard anything, and am wondering if I should contact him again. I don’t know who else he is interested in, but I can easily assume that he is a very attractive catch to many other women. How should I approach this?

Why I always meet guys who broke my heart in the end ? Now I am so scared to fall

What does it mean when the guy who are talking to says he doesn’t want a girlfriend but he keeps coming back everytime you decide to call it quits? Could he possibly be coming around? How can I get him to come around? Please help! It’s been going on for 6 months and I feel like there has to be a reason we both can’t let it go.

My ex broke up with me. I was stressed and He was too. I didn’t know at that point of time. I was stressed and he was busy but I asked him if he still want to continue the relationship? He replied “I think I shouldn’t continue”. I was on emotion and very stressed, I quickly shut him down and agreed on that and saying things I didn’t mean like I felt we are against all odd and I don’t feel anything, I like you as friend and whole lot more. I was not myself that day. The next day I asked him if his feeling for me was duped? He said “No” and he said he felt really bad for hurting me and felt like he lost a sense of purpose after breaking up. He said he felt like a jerk. He said he got scared. A month later, I pushed him and asked him if he still wants us? If he doesn’t, I would like to close this book and never look back. I was broken hearted so I thought I could. But now, not even a day goes by I don’t think of him. I regret what I have said. Do I still have a chance to get him back? Should I contact him?

Hi Eric
It’s Beth
I don’t know what to do about the guy
We been together since March
2 weeks ago he gets mad says he need space
I didn’t call or txt for 9 days
I finally broke down –
This was the convo on sat
Me-I don’t really know what to say but I am hurt, confused, and I miss you. I don’t know if things are over but I would like to know now as this is painful. If it is over, please let me know so that we can get each other’s stuff back as you feel appropriate.
Him-Hi. I’m doing ok. I can catch up or stop by on Monday or Tuesday.
Me-Ok. Sounds good. It’ll be good to catch up. I’ll wait to hear from you about Monday or Tuesday
What do I do now

For a little over 3 years, I have been dating a guy on and off. During these 3 years he has told me that he wants to be in a relationship with me when he is emotionally ready but we have never officially been in a relationship with each other yet. He told me that he wanted to marry me during the 2nd year when the time is right and that though he will have rebellious moments he will always come back to me before the time frame we get married. Should I wait for him or not?

I have been talking to this guy for about 6 months and by now he has vanished twice with the excuse of being busy at work. The first time we had a huge fight and after a month I took the initiative of texting first. This time we haven’t been talking for about one and a half week. I am supposed to meet him during Christmas and I don’t know if I should ask him about his plans. I can’t understand why men vanish off like this every now and then.

I told the guy I’ve been talking to online (who I’ve never met in person) that I liked him after almost three months of texting back and forth. His reply was “That was very smooth, we should get sushi soon, I want to meet you even more now.” But he didn’t say he liked me back. We were trying to plan something but it was super late at night and I was too tired so I told him we can plan something more legitimate the next day, but he hasn’t texted in three days. I don’t want to seem needy because I was the one who told him how I felt so what do I do?

I dated a guy via FB etc but not in person. I knew him at school but never really chatted to him. We never met as we live in different countries & he’s married with children which was always an issue for me. I didn’t want him to leave his children & told him I’d never pressure him to do so as I too have children. We started off with very friendly chats which developed into falling for each other as we get on so incredibly well. There’s never a pause & humour is abundant in your convos. We were both scared – him more than me. He became distant over the last few months stating it wasnt a real relationship which I agree with but this has been the case which never was an issue before. I used to get upset & felt I couldn’t continue with our relationship as I wanted to hold him etc & he always persuaded me to change my mind. I haven’t heard from him for over a month but I know he still likes me. The upsetting & last thing he said to me that he didn’t understand why I wasn’t with someone as he was. I know he tried to think of reasons not to like me asking me if I had s deformity & did I smell when I said no he agreed & said he liked everything. I’m learning a language which I’m really enjoying so it’s as if fate is still keen to keep me thinking of him. My higher self (guy & little voice) tells me he’s the guy I’m going to be with. I have contacted him as I’m old fashioned – if he’s interested he’ll contact me philosophy. I’m not needy I’m independent & divorced my husband is known for 20 yrs. I guess I’m contacting you to hear what you have to say. I haven’t dated since my husband as I’m selective with guys & have no trouble in attracting one but I’m only interested if I have a special connection with deep attraction. Even the last time we spoke he said I was gorgeous but I think me saying that I wanted him (had said this before & hed say the same) didn’t go down well – he added that women are different from men (he’d said that he has someone just before – wife) but he can’t love her if he contacts me (three months 8-10 hrs daily) he said he was being realistic (that’s why he cut down days & hours) but he was always the one to contact me so why did he bother? I’m not going to contact him. I’m still friends on FB with him hence I know he still likes me & he liked one of my pics 2 weeks ago. I know it’s hard for him but it’s hard for me too & I’m getting on with my life.