Back On Tind and Someone Actually Made Me Feel Something

if you are in need then feel free, but he told you he doesn’t want anything serious so it would be a one night, maybe two

So basically this guy talked dirty to you and you had to go mast*rbate… he wants to hook up which is what you say you are not looking for but you’re “curious” and want our permission to go out with him? What you know he’s just going to hit it and quit it? LOL. Oh yes you are thinking you can make him want a relationship. If your “no kids, no casual” spiel was for real you wouldn’t have even bothered to talk to this guy much less consider going out with him and you sure wouldn’t be posting about this.

If you wanna get laid, go for it. Just don’t expect to hear from him again and come here complaining that he ghosted you.

You aren’t ready for online dating to get into a real relationship. You’re going to get into trouble because what you say and what you do are two completely different things and your “diary” entries here will quickly get boring and painful to read because you’re going to get hurt and then wonder why.

Sorry to wallop you that hard, but you’re being foolish and at some level you know it. That’s all I have to say, I’ll ignore any future posts – good luck.

I married someone I met online. He was looking for something serious right in his profile. The other guys I met online who said they were looking for casual (the ones upfront about it at least), guess what, they were looking for casual.

A good rule for online dating is if you’re already having sexy talk before you even meet, the guy is only looking for sex / FB, and it won’t go beyond that.

You don’t need anyone’s permission to do what you want to do, but you should date with intent. And be honest with yourself about what that is. If your intent is get laid a few times and you won’t get wrecked by it if the guy doesn’t want more, then casual is the way to go and kids don’t matter. If you want potential for an actual relationship (like you said you do), you’re wasting your time meeting someone who isn’t on the same page or life stage, and if you get involved it will lead to emotional distress and lost time that could have been used to stay open for a more compatible match. Take your own life goals into consideration here, and set your profile filters to be for what you’re actually looking for.

Also remember that attraction you feel about someone before you meet may not carry over in person at all. There’s a fantasy component when you don’t yet know someone and you get all caught up in photos and a phone call. I learned that on my very first online app in-person date, and there wasn’t any sexy talk involved, but the guy didn’t look like his photos. Other dates, guys looked like their photos but our texting or phone chemistry didn’t translate in person at all and those were very awkward dates. Or it did but they immediately flaked after a promising date 1. So don’t get too far ahead of yourself before meeting.

There is a reason why no one should or wants to read others dictionaries.