BF doesn't like my friend

Is your BF of 3 months controlling in other areas?

I personally can’t stand jealous BF’s, a total turn off, whereas if they can’t trust me to talk or hang out with guy friends from time to time, that always takes place in a social setting, such as the local pub/bar for a quick bite and catch up, then I drop them.

However, in the beginning you have to be a little sensitive about it because men believe all men think a like, want to jump your bones, so you have to be able to allow them the ability to scope the guy out before they can feel OK or comfortable with them. Men have an innate ability to spot good or bad men. My dad was really good at telling me which guy was good or a scoundrel, and he was always right lol.

I would try to do an introduction. Have a BBQ (do a guy thing) buy some beer and let him see how the two of you interact so he can be more at ease about it. My BF has no qualms about me hanging out with my guy friends because he’s met them, however there are some he doesn’t care for as he knows they want more than a friendship with me, and can tell by his demeanor towards them which one’s they are lol. Good thing he trusts me and not the jealous type or we would not be together because I gel better with men than I do females lol.

A lot depends on what his acual issue with the friend is. Has yourfriend L ever hinted at wanting more? Has he ever made things uncomfortable or been kinda flirty? This isn’t about how you feel about him, it’s also genuinely about the vibes he gives.

Also, has your boyfriend met your friends, or are these just anonymous names? It helps to introduce people – he may be worried these friends are exes or friendzoned and that by taking you out to the movies and dinner, your friend may want more. But if he sees the friend and you interact and realises it’s not like that, a sensible person would reflect on their insecurities and move on. Lane is right – peopel are often insecure at the beginning because they want to feel like they are a part of your life, and want to know that your friends are treating you well and not trying to jump your bones.

occasional twinges of low level jealousy once in a while can be normal until people find their footing in each other’s lives. We all get insecure sometimes. However, if he brought it up, he may be mroe than a little jealous sometimes, and that’s a problem. You do not want to be with a man or woman who is jealous of all your friends and posessive of you. There are also partners who would never be satisfied – if you cut contact with one friend, they’d have issues with another. Because in those cases it isnt that there’s a particular friend crossing a boundary, they are just ragingly jealous about everybody. And that’s not healthy. So if you start to feel your BF is controlling or always jealous, that’s a red flag.

Andrea, that’s harsh. People are allowed to go out with friends. But it’d probably make the boyfriend more secure if he was invited along once in a while. Because it it really is a platonic meetup, it’d be OK to bring people along.