BF gone MIA on a vacation!

No, you are NOT overreacting. This is total BS to disappear like that after a year of a relationship. In your shoes I would be reluctant to take him back at all and if he does ask I would make him work very hard for that.

Maybe I missed it in your post, but long since you last heard from him? Have you tried reaching out with no response from him?

I understand the worry you feel. When you are used to regular contact and they break the routine. I went through it last night. My BF normally calls me after he gets off work but last night he didn’t. I started freaking out and overanalyzing but this morning I got my normal “good morning” text as usual.

It could be reason to freak out if he ignores you, but if it hasn’t been a long time since you last communicated, he is probably just busy with his friend.

You mentioned you didn’t discuss communication before he left, so he may not know what your expectations are. I know I have a tendency to jump to the worst and overanalyze, but unless it’s been a long time since he reached out and he ignores you when you reach out, best to give him the benefit of the doubt.

He’s on vacation exploring. Yes, you’re overreacting. Get busy while he’s out of town. And if he ignores you, er, doesn’t reply it’s because he’s busy! Like Kaye suggested, send him a quick text ir that will make you feel better but keep it brief and don’t ask questions where he feels like he has to get right back to you. Keep it upbeat. Men are one track minded. He’s concentrating on one thing at a time not even imagining that his gf is back home freaking out instead or living her life. The part about worrying about whether or not he’s coming back to you is just silly.

Thanks a lot everyone, esp. Kaye, for snapping me back to my senses. Yes, my freak-out does sound ridiculous now that I read what I wrote. I know my bf is the kind of a guy to sometimes get carried away with his other activities but he does always live up to his promises to me and I do trust him. Well, apparently not today but generally yes :D I was just being needy today…

Whoever asked, it’s been 3 days. I’m actually blushing now thinking how stupid I was!

I agree 110% with kaye+Vanessa.

I’m a seasoned traveller, and as a FEMALE (I’m chatty, I can multitask etc) it drives me completely freaking NUTSSSSSSSSS when I activate my email vacation responder, announce on FB or whatever that I’ll have sporadic access to inet/not have mobile service/international roaming as I’m travelling etc, and people get al up in my face about not keeping in touch!!

I make A POINT OF letting my loved ones know I arrived safely out of consideration/share my tentative itinerary, but other than that I’m:

1) jet lagged/tired and overwhelmed (emotions/senses/mentally), so grab any opportunity to rest
2) distracted/occupied/busy/always on the go, see above
3) immersing myself in my surroundings (ie break from “reality/everyday life”, absorbed)
4) not necessarily connected (wi fi, mobile network, power etc) and staring at a screen is the last thing you want to do if there’s 1000000 sites out there to explore
5) meeting people/socialising with locals and other travellers, which can be draining and doesn’t really leave me wanting to chat some more in the evenings/if I have downtime

That being said, I wouldn’t go more than a week without giving my loved ones a shout out – there’s always that one “admin catch up day”.

Point is, seems like you guys are doing great, do what someone else suggested and catch up on some girl(friend) time, get your hair/nails done (looking super hot when he gets back, WIN) etc

I can understand why this could be triggering and, because you didnt discuss communication before he left, you need to calm down (as it seems you have). It’s easy to.worry and panic when youre back home with your regular life and he’s off on an adventure.

Just take care of you and, as other have said, do lots of girly stuff :) next time, you can plan some if these activities in.advance and have an agreement on how often you’ll communicate, as long as phones or internet access is.available. In some parts of.Asia, the internet can ne patchy or censored

Oh, when I read it I thought this was posted by me in my dream….

Well, almost exactly same thing happened to me one month earlier. He went to Asia and US for three weeks vacation. He agreed to at least send me some pics during the trip, he texted me on first two days, sent me photos, telling me the internet was shit, then Poof! He disappeared! For three weeks no reply of my message ( of course I only sent one after he dropped off) and I stop texting coz according to everyone on internet, he was having fun with friends, deserved a time off from everything back home blabla which I do believe and feel the same.
Besides, deeply in my heart I knew he would show up as he is not that kind of guy who would just ghost on me, but I also knew this is gonna end very soon. For three weeks in cities with Internet access everywhere( I happen to have visited these places this year myself so I know how easily one can get wifi there), and he did not think of contacting me even for once, just a short message to tell me that he is doing good nothing bad has happened could really spare me some “overthinking” ( last time he went to Asia he got injured by accident, so I was worried) Just to mention that I was pretty busy the whole time. I went on a business trip and a prescheduled long road trip with friends, during the trip he contacted me, that was the day he came home. He also brought me a gift. How sweet of him!!

And yes, the whole thing changed, he pulled the busy/fade act after I came back, so we ended it.

So OP, all I want to say is, they are right about “you need to get busy with your life etc”, but you may not be overthinking. It all depends on your situation. And getting busy with your life is the only option you are left with now. You should also use this time apart to think about this relationship. Thinking about this relationship is not overthinking, it is called “facing the reality”. One of my dude friend said that there are three possible reasons why a bf goes MIA for the vacation without telling you in advance: 1He has technical issue: phone stolen, no access to internet, sick or dead etc, 2 He met someone else, 3 He took some time to think about your relationship and decided this is not going anywhere in long run. In my case, I think it’s 3, and I think it totally makes sense because it applies to everyone not just guys. I’ve done the thinking myself and realised how incompatible we were. Although before the trip everything went seemingly well, text everyday, goodnight x every night, meet up every weekend, we were even talking about his future plan on our last date before he left. But I know this was not working in the long run, even from my end. Even if he had not gone on that vacation we would’ve ended it in another way.

I hope your BF is just having fun and being carried away, but I also what to remind you that you have every right to miss him and to think about you two. Don’t think about his reaction or decision, think about your choice and focus on yourself.

Oh, another thing, next time you travel apart, remember to set the communication rules~