Bf makes comments about other women to me

Wrote him? Tell him, in person …

It is normal for both sexes to look and appreciate others of the opposite sex.

But what your BF is doing is obnoxious. It’s one thing to say someone is attractive, it’s another to say “so damn hot”.

Many men in their 20’s (and even beyond) are so emotionally immature. This may only be that, or he may be a pig. Or he could be one of those baby-men that are insecure, and feel better about themselves by making their GF’s jealous. Yuck!

I never had an issue if my ex BF told me if he found a woman attractive, because he made sure to make me feel (and tell me) I was the “most” attractive to him. I would never be with a man who purposely tried to make me feel insecure.

If he was salivating over and calling other woman “so damn hot” in my presence, I would be completely turned off. That is so disrespectful.

I find other men attractive too, but I would never do or say anything to a man I care about to make him feel inferior. Your significant other should feel they are the one you are most attracted to: mind, body, and soul.

At the very least, I think you BF has a lot of growing up to do.

You handled it well. Yes, saying it to his face when he says something is better but I’m glad you said what you said. You can’t stop him from looking at other women but it’s only 6 mths and he’s doing this? Stop it now. If he does it again, stop him right then and there and say it again. “Keep it to yourself or tell your friends”.

I totally agree with Phillygirl! To be quite honest my bf does the same exact thing to me, just not with anyone we see in person. Every time we are together he either shows me a video of a woman with a beautiful voice and says things like, “oh if you were to have a voice like this than I’d stay with you forever, or “oh look at how beautiful she is” ect. ect. Or he passes jokes about his ex’s. I 99% of the time remained calm and laughed it off even though it somehow made me feel uncomfortable. One day I just lost it, I suppose all my patience wore thin. He mentioned something about his ex not looking her age and how good looking she was, again. I remained quiet until a week later, he stated a stupid joke about her and I lost it. Which pretty must resulted in a break up just 2 days ago actually. My advice is, don’t stay quiet about anything. I know you don’t want to seem annoying but talk to him about it in person and tell him it makes you uncomfortable and it isnt respectful. If he continues then you know what to do. In my situation, I remained cool about it, even though he knew I didn’t like it bc I’ve spoken to him about it once before but he continued. I honestly would never sit there and tell my man how attractive an ex of mine was or videos of men that I find attractive. It’s fucking pathetic. Not only would he mention other women’s looks but he’d also pass comments on how intelligent they are, how funny, ect. I mean this was on a daily basis and it started to get really annoying. I’m not a jealous person but I must say his behavior has made me feel very insecure at times. Be careful.

That’s very disrespectful. I wonder how he would feel if you made comments about a guys six pack or how hot his arms are.

Janet hit the nail on the head. I would actually paraphrase it and say ” go ahead with the silver, mate”