Biggest Mind F*** Ever Known to Woman. He Sat Me Down and Said This

Hmm. That’s ringing alarm bells for me. It’s all about him and his feelings. Is he a narcissit possibly?

I always like to give people the benefit of the doubt. He may have spent time over thinking the email. My response would be “well it seems like you have a lot to think about! Let me know if your ever feel brave enough to take that risk and we’ll see how I feel then”.

If and I mean a big if you want to be with him, I suggest that you tell him that you’re willing to be with him and that if something like this happens again, it will be over. Period. And that you want him to go to therapy to deal with his issues because they are too big for him to deal with on his own in a way that is healthy. Those are your terms. You will not be with someone who tells you to be something else in order for them to love you. You will not be with someone who ends it with you when they get scared and does not have the skills to deal with that. And you won’t do this again ever except for once. I bet he won’t agree to therapy, which is the thing that he needs to deal with this. But it’s worth a try. I also suggest that you do not have this conversation by email or text you do app iphone

As far as your eating habits. Try to eat a little at a time. I broke up with my first love (still think about him to this day) and I didn’t eat for two days. You have to take care of yourself, as much as I know it pains you to probably even THINK about meeting someone new, think about it this way…God moves the obstacles, to make way for miracles. Your miracle is on its way girl. Don’t you worry.
If you need to cry, then cry! Don’t hold it in. It’s okay. I would, shoot! If you can’t eat a full meal, eat fruit, yogurt, crackers, soup, a small sandwich, drink water, and I know you have a child, but hey a glass a wine curves my nerves when a man has me in my feelings. Also, most of all surround yourself with people that love you. It’s the best remedy. Don’t shut people out, and don’t be around those that are harsh and say FORGET HIM, because we both know as women if it were that easy there would be no forum like this. Surround yourself with people that remind you that there is life after heartbreak. If you have to you can come here. I love helping others, I know heartbreak. I had it once and I still know the pain very well and that was over 5 years ago, another thing that helped me was I said out loud to myself every day in the mirror “I didn’t do anything! It was him. Not me. I was good to him, and any man would be blessed to have me.” You say it everyday and outloud (no cheating) im serious, trust me it will sink in and you will have that “His loss” attitude.

First off – You are one hell of a writer to have so deeply connected with all these new friends online. You are amazing, Laura!

I was in a relationship for two years – then broken for another two – by a somewhat similar “narcissistic prick”. I was twice your age, then. Be smarter than me. I agree with Ashley – He is an emotionally unstable lunatic – and your life is too full and wonderful to have anything more to do with such lunatics. Move on and don’t look back. Just remember the sex techniques that turned you on!

that “apology” of his is a bunch of disingenuous nonsense. it sounds like the biggest crock of s**t ever. he is such a narcissist. the only reason he “apologized” is because he doesn’t want to lose control – it’s all about him – not about you. he doesn’t REALLY care about you because he’s a narcissist. let that lunatic go combust in a corner :)

I agree with Ashley and all the other posters who wanted to throw up when they read his email. It is not genuine…it is not true feelings…it is without merit of any kind…full of sound and fury signifying nothing.

I felt like I was chewing cardboard. And he expects you or anyone to swallow this prose?

Well, I guess he does since he put it out there. Just as I suspected – he has deep deep emotional problems…holy cow. He is so far removed from “real” feelings you can drive a truck through it….a semi to boot.

I am really warning you here…very much warning…this is not a person…he is a shadow of a “real” person. I am so sorry. But this proves my point…this is not at all about you – your looks – your personality – your dog or cat – your self. Truly it is all about him and his distortions.

Get away from this specter of a human being…he is not real…he does not do real…to be honest he creeps me out. And I would not want such a “person” anywhere near my child.

His email made my stomach clench up. Sounded very disingenuous (although well written), and reminded me of an ex of mine who was a narcissist. If he told you he suffered from narcissism, i would run the other way and not look back. you are young, you are beautiful, you are smart. why would you settle for this? you have your whole life ahead of you. xo

and NO, he doesn’t “talk about how hot Scar Jo is around me”, I am not pathetic enough to sit around and listen to that. He brought it up in the context of the weight talk we had right before he left, and as soon as those words regarding my weight left his mouth I was done anyways. Not because I had it figured all out…not because I was devoid of hope he would backpedal, apologize and “change”….I knew he would. Logically I wanted to sort it out. But at that moment I really didn’t think I could ever let him on top of me again. I was disgusted and turned off by his ego and all of this, this whole self-serving process of his, is NOT the man I got to know over the past 2 years. So, yes, I am done.

Thanks so much Hannah. I still feel broken but I have no patience for it. I couldn’t agree with you more…I think he just couldn’t keep up the act any longer and he cracked under pressure. Thank god he had a moment of honesty