Blocked …… how long does it general take for them to unblock you?

did you expect him to stick around after what you did? and twice over? :-) I think you have to give him time and reconnect after few weeks. 3/4 weeks hopefully he wld have forgiven you by then. only time will tell.

Hi Gemma,

I don’t think the text row and blocking is the real issue here, I think you need to analyse a bit deeper. You say you argue over stupid things all the time. What is that all about? Is there something essential lacking in your life that you have to create dramas out of nothing?

Text is for quick hellos. making arrangements, short and sweet messages. It is not the place to express frustration or to argue. If you have a problem that you need to talk to a friend about do it in person, or at least on the phone. If you need to sort out an issue with someone, do it face to face.

The way you have handled this row sounds totally dysfunctional. Tit for tat insults, catching one another out and the sulks. And he’s right, you were very rude.

Probably best you two don’t talk while you identify what is meaningful in your life and decide whether you want to treat one another with mutual respect and stop having these ridiculous rows. Though an apology from you for your rudeness wouldn’t go amiss – try an old fashioned letter!

Jacquetta We some have codependent relationship.
Mainly from my part.
I have tried to cut contact before or Minimise our contact but when I do he always see that as problematic so he pulls me in and I do like it.
And then when I feel I am not getting full attention or he is ignoring me like yesterday I go get upset with him.

I’ve asked before if we could take 6 months no contact period and he refused by saying “I don’t want you out of my life for whole 6 months.”
So yesterday he said to me while now “you always asking for this so have a good life” he was referring to me asking for a break.

Is this even a real post?

If so you really need to grow up and learn how to communicate maturely.

Honestly, if someone I was dating spoke to me like that I would block them and never speak to them again.

This “relationship” sounds toxic, time to move on.

The disrespect is high here. I do not understand how two people who disrespect each other so very much want to keep it going…to do what? If you were to stay together and marry the kids would learn the same behaviors….really, on its face does this seem normal…is this how mom and dad taught you?

Think!

So I someone that wasn’t only a lover but a best friend to me. Short story short….we’ve known each other for years I’ve always loved him. Been there for him. But I just would never try to date him because of how bad he messed up long ago when he knew I liked him. But that was far long ago. I chose to move on from that, but I did promise myself I’d always be there for him. And I’ve kept that promise…..but then he got a girlfriend, a good one this time. The rest he’s dated I’ve never cared but this one….she seemed like a threat to my chances of ever leaping to go to him to pursue anything so I just gave up. I wanted him to be happy. But when he had sent that message saying hey yeah sorry was talking to my girlfriend idk why I just blocked him. I guess out of hurt and anger I waited until I cooled off. I unblocked him. Then I messaged him saying I think it would be good for me to let go. Detach myself from him and just move on because I want to be happy and I want him to be happy………but his response was very negative and he said some very….very hurtful things, he even said he hated me…I felt really bad. Cried a little too. I just wanted space and time to move on from him. So I don’t see him as a romantic lover. I just needed to see him as a friend only. But idk. I’m not sure if I made a mistake. And Idk what I did wrong other than blocking him for a few hours……I don’t believe in rushing relationships and I was scared wasn’t ready and I felt like I was going to lose him. And I was just accepting the loss. At least I didn’t say anything horrible. But he blocked me I haven’t heard from him in awhile. I miss him.

Hi @Gemma! It has been 2 years since your posted ur issue. Now, I’m living the same situation as urs. I fought with my best friend (my crush) becoz he didn’t want to change some behaviors. I always told him that i will leave forever but he as always held me back. You can say he was chasing me and I did like it becoz deep inside me I didn’t want to leave him. He said (you are someone important to me = no love here) tho,he has other girls that he flirt with…:( Anyway, I left him abd hurt him several times but he always tried to keep me beside him as a good friend to him. In the new year, I made a swear not to back to him so he got angry Coz I broke our prosmise of being best friends forever.. While he was texting me, I deleted my account (I was rude yes but I was angry and mad).. I even blocked him on fb. After one week, I called him on the phone but cut it off. He sent me message (yes?) Like he waited for me to apologize and back but becoz of my ego I said it was just a challange with my friend. He kept calling me. So, I unblock him from Fb to say it was just a game and here he said (Wasn’t it enough that you hurt me before and now u play game with me, I don’t believe ur reason of calling me (he knew that it wasn’t a game:() I sent him this emoji 👍🏻(I was mad and rude yes again).. I wanted to explain after my work but after 3 hs he blocked me in return.. It’s been 15 days now since he blocked me.. I know I was rude but I want to know if he might come back to me or not.. Hope i hear from you soon since we both had the same story.. Bye

Firstly, thank you for the answer! You right! My weakness is that I’m sensitive and I get angry easily when my beloved hurt me. I was so rude with him and with your reply and others opinion, I confirm that It’s imposdible for him to forgive me this time. I lost him forever how sad! Thanks again for reading my story

hello GUYS , I just wanna share my story and seek an answers from u guys,, I have this person his very close to me we have been a relationship 1 yr. and 2 months whenever I was mad at him he knows my attitude I was just easily get angry and high temper but after that I easily calm down as he knows that. one time I was so mad again, AND I start swearing because of something that he says and I disagree, after that I go out for a walk to cool of but I was shock that he block me without any words , before that happened we talk normally like everything was alright. and a lot of questions running in my head if he will come back because this is the very first time he does it to me. Also he is very patience to me but before that happened he open up to me that he had some personal problems too and he even wants to close his social media account to have some refreshments, he only block me in my one account not everywhere, like snapchat and my messenger account that we always used to talk to, I tried my best to reach him to apologize but my messages was only sent and never delivered so either he ignore me or he is offline. I was just shocked that he will block me without any words not even saying goodbye to me so I don’t know if its over or he just want to have some space , its been 10 days now he don’t still unblock me. AND IM MISSING HIM…

@liza, You should probably do some work on your anger management. Swearing at people you are in a relationship isn’t respectful or kind or loving.

I would have blocked you too!