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anon
Hi,I’ve posted about my man before, as we are 3 months in and now I’m starting to worry i can’t trust him but I don’t have proof. So here is another example that happened over the wknd. He tells me his boss is asking about my height. His female boss. I asked him why the hell she wants to know and he says she said I look short. I’m 5’5. She’s 5’1.
Anyway, I saw posts where she was asking him to text her, (she was home) and other posts where he was hanging with her and his son and her daughter. I know they could just be good friends, but she gave him money the other day because he was “having a bad day,” and that coupled with her questions about my height, and the posts have me wondering. He says nothing happened between them. But how can I ever be sure? If hes the type to sleep w his boss for bonuses I would not want to be w him. friends are saying I don’t have concrete proof and I never will. He’s saying shes excited to meet me. He’s saying nothing happened. How can I be sure?
Am I just being sensitive?Kamdy
He left you hanging while you were friends. You got into a relationship with him wihout properly dating and getting to know him. Now you are feeling insecure and you can’t trust him.
He has already shown you multiple times who he is. It’s up to you to stay with him or leave him.
anon
Im sorry I’m confused. When did he leave me hanging while with friends?
tammy
you have given very limited information so based on that its difficult to say much.
Raven
I don’t recall your original post…
anon
hi raven, the original doesn’t matter. This is in no relation to the original except that it is the same guy I’m involved with.
I’m just wondering if he’s the type to sleep with his boss. And if he is then what we have I’ll have to leave. The reasons he gave for why he didn’t pursue me when we first met was because he was broken. Going through or just signed the papers of a divorce. Then he told me it’s because I was with my on again off again guy. And yes I was. He said he’s not a homewrecker.If it turns out he did sleep w his boss then all those reasons are null and void, and not only is he a liar but then he’s also not someone I want to deal with.
So i keep looking at her post where she’s hanging w a girlfriend but asking him to text her, and including the champagne emoji. And he’s not simply liking the post, he’s loving it. And yes this is before me but still. That would mean he didn’t care she was friggin married….
Some friends are saying it’s nothing, others are saying it’s before me. But it’s still his boss. Others are saying it looks fishy but what should I do? Everything else about him seems fine and honorable. This would make it all look like a lie.mama
Sounds like you polled all of your contacts and are relying on outside opinions to decide who this guy is. We, the internet strangers, have no idea if your guy is the kind that would sleep with his boss.
Personally I think you need to either trust him to have a platonic/friendly-but-professional relationship with his boss or end the relationship.
You don’t trust him, you’re looking for bad behavior. How is that healthy for either of you?
anon(too)
I found your original post. It looks like you were engaged to another man and contacting this man for support at night when you were upset at your fiancé. You are projecting what you did not do correctly (dealing with your feelings about the toxicity of your fiancé properly- should not have talked with the other guy- now your current bf) onto now your boyfriend- thinking he’s involved with his boss. Another poster on your last thread thought you should heal properly from the previous relationship- I think that needs to happen as you are appearing insecure.
Anon
I do need to heal.
I was thinking I’ll trust him and leave this be when he tells me she’s jealous of me. I decided to play along and told him my boss was jealous of HIM. He became very upset. I then asked him why he’s mad. After all I was friends w my boss before I started working w him and no posts exist where he’s asking me to text him like his boss was w him in 2020. I pointed out that maybe now he understands why I’m feeling uncomfortable w her being jealous. We got into an argument and I honestly don’t wanna see him right now. -
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