Boyfriend and texting..feeling off and need advice?

Sorry but you’re being ridiculous. Your relationship sounds PERFECTLY FINE and you’re complaining because he said “love ya” instead of “love you” and didn’t say “xoxo” as much? Get a grip. There are women on here who would KILL to be in your situation. Stop complaining and making problems out of nothing. Enjoy your relationship as it is.

Also, you seem to have a lot of free time on your hands to sit around and conjure up imaginary problems. Perhaps you need to pick up a hobby or something else to fill your time. You seem to fixated on this man/relationship. It’s not healthy.

Ivy…thank you. I can be insecure sometimes. I know this. I’m not like this all the time, he knows I worry about some things but doesn’t know I get anxious about these things, because I don’t tell him. I don’t see a point. Thank you for being blunt. I honestly needed that. You’re right. I guess I’m just over emotional right now and looked too much into it. I frustrate myself sometimes because I do this, I just don’t know how to tell that part of my brain to shut the hell up and stop.

First of all, calm down and breathe. it’s good you know that you tend to over-analyze things. I think that’s what going on here. You’re looking way too into this. Texting is nice and we girls really enjoy it and we use it as a way to determine a man’s interest level, but I don’t think men think twice about it! I think to a lot of men it’s just another communication tool they have to bother with while they are busy doing other things.

You know this man is into you- he spends time with you, he texts you even though he doesn’t like texting, he’s into you. He’ll get back to you today. Be patient and he’ll call you!

Lol no I would never tell him. This is just what goes on in my head sometimes lol. I honestly had my gym membership on freeze for the summer. Which actually ended yesterday. So I’m looking forward to going back to the gym. I’ve missed it. Maybe that is what I need.

Wow. Read up on that and it pretty much explained my life. Just need to work on that I guess. It’s physically and emotionally draining, always worrying that one thing means something else, or thinking that one little thing means the end, that something must go wrong because everything has been going so right.

I can relate to all of this. I have been seeing this man for 6 months. We met online a year ago, met, had a great date, text a few months and then one day he told me not to text him again because he had started seeing someone else. I was crused. I did get over it and 7 months later we connected again. So here we are today, 6 months later. We are long distance, 2 hours, so its not that bad and I have always been the willing one to travel and made it clear the distance was not a problem. Things were wonderful in the beginning. I get good morning beautiful and goon night georgous every night and he is always kind and very sweet. He is very laid back and doesnt get excited or mad about anything. I have met his family and he even brought his two girls to were I live to meet me. When I am with him and his friends call he always tells them I am visiting, so they know who I am. Now recently it feels like things are different. He does work alot, get his kids every other weekend and is building a house by his self so I know he is busy. It just seems lately that there isnt any time for me. Ive tried to make plans and they never pan out. I will text him a few times during the day and he never texts back and I would totally understand it is because he is busy except that he ALWAYS on Facebook. I feel like if he has time to be on there he could reply to a text. I have told him that I am able to see him anytime he wants, i have plenty of time i can take off from work, and he never asks me to come see him. I dont know if he is losing interest, too comfortable knowing I want him and will do what I can to see him or he is seeing someone else. I dont know. I feel like I am being clingy and needy because I want time and to hear his voice and that maybe my texts are too much. I text him Monday and said that he and his daughters could meet me halfwy Friday for dinner and he said that was great. Tuesday he still didnt see a problem with it and today I told him I thought about taking the day off Friday and comng to see him, he is on call, and he said he wasnt sure if he would have to work or not. He then said he had to get his daughters after school. I reminded him he was suppose to bring them with him to dinner. He didnt reply, and was on Facebook, so I just told him we could reschedule. He finally said “Ok. Thanks.” I feel like I have ruined it and its caused from the clingeness.

I dont know what to think. Any suggestions?

This sounds like my life as well. Always stressing out why he doesn’t text me back but can his friends. But since I’ve been reading the forums I’ve been less insecure worried. I know he likes me and cares about me. Known him since May 2013 he had gone thru a break up in February with a girl he was with for 11 yrs. was trying to get back with her last summer and didn’t work out. We still kept in contact and I would still see him on occasion. But since I got my divorce a year ago last month we had starting going out. Movies. Then December he said he told his doctor he was seeing a younger girl. “Seeing”. I was happy. Then things started moving along after Christmas since then we have been inseparatable. Stay at his place 4-5 nights a week. Go out to dinner with friends mutual friends parties. Etc. I did tell him I loved him in August and he said “that’s a big word”. I told him I know and to please not let it change anything. He was with me all spring as my mom had a stroke in January and passed away in April. He would meet me at the hospital every week and he would song and talk to her. That’s when I fell inlove with this man. A true genuine caring man. He then took me to Florida to get away all expenses paid and we stayed with his mom she then passed away in July. I was there for him as he was there for me. Right now I’m just letting things happen. I don’t want to lose him as he is everything I have ever wanted… But his texts have dropped off some. And I’m learning to let him contact me next after I text him or call him. I know I was being needy and I have backed off on that after reading it on here. Just to know do you all think I’m fine? No need to be paranoid?? And I have seen a # text him. 2 actually. Same girl figured out it was a girl he had seen when he was with his ex gf. But I have not said anything to him and they haven’t been anything in sexual nature… Maybe just friends… I shldnt worry right???

Sherri

Thanks. I know I need to wake up and quit thinking this man is the one. I know it’s a very one sided relationship. I have decided since that day to just stop all efforts. He did call that night and acted like all was good and said he did end up having to work so I just let it go. I haven’t text him like I always do and he has text a few times. I just give him short replies. The rest of the weekend, well, from now on I’m just gonna to stay self absorbed and let him do the 90%. If he doesn’t I know there isn’t anything I can do anyway.

You would think we are kids the way all this sounds. It’s a shame to be a grown woman and still have to deal with these issues. I don’t how I let him get to me the way he has. I’ve actually let good men go because I hoped this one would work out.

Anyway. Thanks for your advice.