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December 24, 2018 at 11:34 am #733380HAPPY SINGLE
When I’m in a mad, sad, bad, depressed mood I really don’t want to be comforted or around anyone. I want to be left ALONE with some music and meditate ON MY OWN to get my head right or get over it. I really do not like being around others that are in a bad mood certainly do not like to be around others when I am dealing with whatever it is I’m going through.
I’d rather be in a good mood or happy around my guy. I think the only time I would want comfort is if I’m grieving. Even then, Jack Daniels does a pretty good job with that.
February 13, 2020 at 10:14 pm #785366LisaI find it interesting that I sense a lot of comments that are attacking you. Reading those comments make me upset. For starters, no one is right in telling what YOU should do. You know in your heart whats best for you. Mary was the only one I saw by far who didn’t attack you. Who cares if you are emotional? You cry you cry. You’re more emotional than others, what’s the issue? The issue is you learn growing up honesty is the best policy and telling others how you feel should be put into effect. Your boyfriend wasn’t showing you his support that you asked him to do. If you have anxiety and have told him, it’s nothing new and he should start doing something about it. Read about it. Yeah, he’s not your therapist but he’s your best friend. He knows you need someone there to vent to and vice versa. If you do it for them, why can’t you get that in return? A lot of these people on here are a-holes because they forget about their twenties and you’re in a gray area. Attention, not everyone can afford therapy too. No one takes that into consideration. So yeah, turning to friends, significant other and family is the best support to do. I am so sorry that you literally had people say you’re crying out for help and everything else just because they aren’t putting them in your shoes. Therapy can only help so much. They don’t really know what one has to go through. I hope all is well with you. It’s 2020 and I just read this.
February 13, 2020 at 10:45 pm #785367KathyLisa, Why do you think someone would find your response over a year later??
How do you people resurrect old posts?
February 14, 2020 at 12:08 pm #785387KarlaYou’re being codependent and all you’re doing is pushing him away. It’s not his job to fix you, you have some issues you have to fix and maybe you shouldn’t be in a relationship. You can’t expect for someone to make you happy when you’re not happy yourself. You’re playing mind games with him, you’re expecting him to do the opposite of what you’re asking him to do, be straight up with him. Get some therapy it will really help
February 14, 2020 at 9:40 pm #785433ANM StaffKeymasterMod update: Thanks for sharing your thoughts with the community, Lisa!
As Kathy pointed out, this topic started a while ago. I think a lot have things have happened for the OP in the year and a half that passed, so it’s probably doubtful that the OP is coming back and checking this topic. Nonetheless, thanks for sharing!
One of the reasons we have this archive of old topics is because people come by them while doing web searches about their issues, and they happen to arrive at a topic here in this forum. For some people, it gives them hope when they see someone was discussing a problem so similar to their own. That’s good! That helps serve the mission of this forum.
I think people are naturally drawn to responding to an old topic that feels like a familiar story. But unfortunately, resurrecting old topics doesn’t work well for seeking advice or keeping a discussion going. That’s a downside of the way we structured this forum. Someday, I can improve that, but it’ll take me time to get around to that. So for now, I’ll keep redirecting folks to start a fresh new topic if they’d like to continue a discussion.
Best wishes!
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