Boyfriend is going on a vacation with 2 of his female friends!

He could cheat on you at home with her, if you think a vacation changes something, then you are silly. Men should have female friends. It is very bad to suggest not.

That said, I also think there is nothing going on, it is 3 people and either you trust him or not..Choose.

If you must say something, be prepared to own this as your own insecurity. Because it is. And be prepared that he still goes.

Something like: honey, I know this is really silly, but I am feeling a little uneasy about your vacation. For some reason, I feeling jealous and a little insecure. I know it is all me, but can you help?

I dont know enough details, but as a pricipal I do not find this acceptable. How long have you two been together? Are you exclusive? How long is the trip? Were you consulted about making the plans, or was it just announced to you and you had no say?
Your boyfriend should be going on vacation with you. If he does not, he better get your permission and you are owed a good explanation.
The way you handle / communicate it is another issue.

First of all, let’s be very clear on one important point. Your boyfriend is NOT really going on vacation with “two of his female friends.” Your boyfriend is going on vacation with one woman whom he has TOLD YOU MANY TIMES he considers to be “very compatible” with him and whom he would “seriously consider” if she were a different race/religion — AND he’s also going on vacation with another woman whom you’ve apparently never met (the friend of your boyfriend’s female friend) and whom your boyfriend might not have ever met himself. Just because this woman is friends with his friend doesn’t mean he knows her or has ever met her — and if he hasn’t, that makes this woman a MAJOR wild card in the equation. You might be able to trust his female friend because you know her…but that doesn’t mean you can or should trust this other woman, especially if you don’t know her (and that goes double if your boyfriend has never met her and/or doesn’t know her).

Trust is extremely important in a relationship, yes…but too much of just about any good thing, even trust, can become a bad thing. Whether you want to admit it or not, the fact that he’s in a relationship with you and not his female friend doesn’t mean as much as you want to think it does — especially since he’s told you many times that the only thing which prevented him from considering a romantic relationship with her is race or religion (which are not necessarily insurmoutable, since quite a few people do have interracial or interreligious relationships). Frankly, I think there’s a very good chance that you’re feeling uneasy for a reason — mainly because this situation involves too many opportunities for choices to be made and lines to be crossed which can’t be undone and which could have painful repercussions. I can only speak for myself but if I were in your shoes, I wouldn’t consider this situation appropriate and would be feeling very uneasy — and in the interest of honesty if nothing else, I would talk to my boyfriend about it. That being said, I’d leave the final decision whether to go or not up to him because I don’t have the power or the right to control him — I’m not his keeper.