Boyfriend losing interest or just getting lazy?

Ha! These are things I thought to myself but read advice online which put it into check for me….

How would you feel If it was him being ‘needy’ to you? I know you ain’t saying you are needy but in obv you want that feeling and charm etc you got at first…. But maybe it’s there now in diff ways and you need to appreciate the relationship for what it is.

This is apparently norm for guys as much as it feels frustrating and I guess although we are important to them we aren’t the centre Of the universe n same goes for them.

Don’t play it too cool tho If you want to see him say and when you do just make sure he knows what he’s got with you. Dress sexy and have fun and enjoy the times. Don’t think about the lack of texts or the fact he had to cancel etc.
No harm in showing you’re keen on him but I’d only worry if he was cold and rude etc. I guess the start was all great but Imagine yourself you’ve ran a marathon n yeah it was good running that but every time you go a run you don’t want to do the full 26 miles coz five miles is a good run too…. Get what am saying ?

Hi Rose,

You sound all wound up about this and you are giving off vibes to him I am sure. This is probably starting a vicious cycle of letting a man know that he is not making you happy – and men want to make a woman happy. I think you need to back up with this and relax to try and put things back on track. The more you show him dissatisfaction the more he will pull back.

I think it is critical that you have a happy life outside of him and share the happiness with him and let the “not meeting my needs” vibes go or this could go south. Try it and see if things don’t turn around….if they don’t in a month then review again.

Hi Rose, tell him how u feel. It is not needy to want more time and attention from ur bf. I went thru the same thing. Chances r he isn’t even aware u were feeling this way. He will try to work something outif he cares for u. Butu also need to understand he isn’t ignoring u or doing anything on purpose. Communication is the key.

Hi Rose,
I think guys don’t like to text as much as we do. Once a guy asked me “how can you text so much all the time?” … They do it very often in the beginning because they want to make sure they can get the girl, they’re in hunting mode. Once things settle down a little they relax and don’t text as much and it’s even a relief for them because they are not really as talkative as we are. Another thing is if you are starting to worry about his behavior you are probably becoming nervous around him and he can feel that and no dude wants to be around a woman that’s not enjoying herself. Just take a deep breath and enjoy when you’re with him, don’t chase him, let him come to you and he’ll pay more attention.

Hi Rose.

Here’s the thing, men have a purpose and its your job as a woman to support it. Do you even know what his purpose his? Men are GOAL orientated, not relationship orientated so although they know they do things to keep their lady happy, oftentimes they get so focused on their goals that you need to give them a nudge or two to do that and they will be thankful for that support.

What does he like to do on his time off, what are his passions, has he mentioned anything he would like to do or used to do but doesn’t? If so then INSPIRE him to do it so he can take a break from his goals for a bit and enjoy doing it with you :-) Bringing him into your world is important too, because this is how a couple really gets to know each other.

I’m not saying cater to a man’s every whim or need, but women today have allowed their emotions to cloud the reality of human relationships. Relationships are NOT HOLLYWOOD, they involve humans, challenges, highs and lows, good and bad, ups and downs…its how you manage them will determine whether or not a couple can make it or not. I get you want to be with him more often but you have to come up with some solutions before you present it to a man. Like how about finding locations in-between on a weekdays, like a pool hall where the both of you can grab a couple beers and unwind a bit through play, because guy’s love to play :-)

Also, one more point, I haven’t been exactly cheated but I was in a relationship where I wasn’t valued which happened many years ago. Post that I was in a relationship that was healthy although I used to get insecured by some women in my ex’s life but never did it become such a huge problem. This time, I don’t know how to handle tjis..Kind of struggling to keep afloat..

He’s busy at work. Would u rather he sit all day and play video games and text u job stop? He probably just thinks your too needy and have no life outside of him. Noone likes needy people. I seen it so many times the other way around. A guy approaches a girl and asks her out and she says yes. He is very happy and is thinking that texting her a lot and smothering her means he cares and likes you. The girls always thinks he has no life and is too needy. Than she stops texting him. It ends.