Boyfriend [M,22] ghosted me [F,24] after 4 months and 4 vague texts.


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    exhaustedandconfused

    Don’t really know where to start. I haven’t left my bed in 3 days. My boyfriend of 4 months ghosted me after being together and going on vacation together. I have been tested for Covid and am negative. My boyfriend dropped me off 2 Saturday’s ago from vacation, gave me a kiss goodbye and the plan was for me to come over to his house later that evening. Little did I know this would be the last time I saw him. On vacation we had a conversation after something bothered me. He didn’t tell me “thank you” or show much appreciation after I spent close to $400 on him in a single day. After 10 minutes of conversation and us separating ourselves from each other, we both apologized and moved on. I thought things were fine and normal.

    Since we got home, he’s been very weird to me. Basically ghosting me actually. I overslept the Saturday I was supposed to go over there. He went to a friends house which is fine. I asked if I could come over afterwards. He avoided me. He didn’t talk to me all day which never happens, I stated that things have felt a little weird since being on vacation. He responded 10 hours later with, “yeah they have been a little off.”

    I asked, “are we okay?”
    5 hours later him, “been trying to get past that [the conversation about a thank you I think] but I don’t think I can.”
    I asked if he could call me or tell me what’s going on. He ignored me. I decided to swing by his house (not my best move I know, I feel guilty of this). His truck was there.

    I asked, “could you come downstairs and talk to me please?” No reply. I left. I’m not sure if he was home or was asleep as he is a semi truck driver. I get a text the next day that says, “did you go to my house last night?” I didn’t reply.

    Waited a week and a half to talk to him so we could both cool off. Thursday night he blocked me on Snapchat and Instagram randomly. If I wasn’t confused before I was confused now.

    I texted him and said, “Hey, I wasn’t purposely ignoring you, I was giving you space and time to think things out. I’m sorry if this hurt you. I just didn’t want to badger you or cause you trouble. I still care about you.”
    Him: “It’s okay just figured that was it.”

    And this text confuses me a lot. A lot. A lot. I don’t really understand the text he sent. I don’t know if it’s a “you didn’t talk to me so I figured that was it” text or a “yeah I knew you were giving me space” text.

    I responded, “No [boyfriend], I didn’t want to go our separate ways I was just scared you were mad at me and didn’t want anything to do with me. I just wanted to give you some space to breathe and do your thing. I was planning to talk, just was waiting for the right time I guess.”

    He never replied. Still hasn’t replied. I am so hurt. Beyond hurt. I don’t know what to do.

    Any advice anyone could offer would be super appreciated. Thank you.

    #835049 Reply
    Tallspicy

    You already posted on this before. It sounds like he is done. There is nothing more to do, but find your own closure. I am sorry it happened this way.

    #835059 Reply
    Liz Lemon

    You posted about this under the name “sunnydaze” last week. I responded to your other thread. You got some good advice there, there’s not much else anyone can say. Like Tallspicy said, it sounds like he’s done. It’s sh!tty of him to ghost you & not end things with a mature conversation, I’m sorry about that.

    #835104 Reply
    Anon

    It’s hard to say what has happened if the communication is via text. You tried to talk in person and he is avoiding a conversation. When a guy is not into you that much, he will not put forth effort to resolve a conflict thereby avoiding a conversation. You’ve offered to try to work things out and he isn’t responding. You need to stop reaching out to preserve your dignity because if you continue to pursue you will appear crazy or out of control. It’s very painful at first but each day it gets a little bit better once you let go.

    #835369 Reply
    Lola

    Move on. Its HARD but think about what YOU want from somebody you’ve invested in. If this isn’t it, move on. I have learnt the hard way. Give yourself a day or two to cry/process it and then pull yourself together. He’ll either come crawling back when you’ve ignored him and he’s realized the error of his ways or he won’t. No amount of begging or texting or showing up at his house will help.

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