Boyfriend on apps looking to meet people as friends

Really, he’s in his 50’s?!
He sounds 13…

He clashes with your sons, is controlling & manipulative…
What do you see in him?

Where to start… he’s complained to his friends about you and they don’t approve of your 3 days with your kids and he brought that up… and he complained about a board game you didn’t play with him but you played with your kids.

Forgive me, but I don’t know who is worse – him for this childish behavior or you for tolerating it. He can’t handle you being away for three nights, with your children no less, without whining and try to guilt and manipulate you by getting on dating apps and telling you about it to make you jealous. Not trying to be funny, but also have no idea how it is you’re in your 50s and it isn’t dead obvious this man needs to be kicked to the curb, yesterday. No idea why you’re still referring to him as your boyfriend.

And please tell me you know that no one joins a dating app looking for “friends only”…

– update

I let him now that I wasn’t happy with the conversation this morning and that I felt that it was a bit unfair and hurtful.

He responded by sending me a text to say that it’s not working for either of us and that he is blocking me. Which he did before I could respond. I’ve never been blocked before.

I’m laying here feeling odd. On one hand I feel relief that I will never again be grilled about my past relationships or who that text was from. But I feel this weird ache of sadness.

It is sad when something falls apart quickly. Just allow the sadness to be and love up on you.

So there’s more to your story… He is jealous too!

Feeling off is ok…
You know you did the right thing.

Next time, don’t lower your standards & when those ugly red flags start waving- wave your goodbye.

T im lost on why women keep accepting bad treatment. I disagree with you, being without a spouse/bf/partner doesnt mean youre without love. In many cases you can surround yourself with lots of love, from children, family and friends. I know you have kids, op has kids. That alone should be enough to fullfill your purpose. I dont have kids, but spend the holidays with my bro and his family and it was a blast.
So no i seriously dont understand why you post numerous serious issues about a guy and just keep it going. Really. Look for the love you have already and forget about the fairytale for a minute. Plus tons of singles are happy being singles. Well i just wish people dont settle in 2021 pretending for love while its in lots of other places

@newbie. I’m super confused at your post. I never said being without a bf or partner I was without love. I talked about my own self love and how all women would be more peaceful if they find it. And I have talked on about multiple posts how the past few years (mostly single) have been some of the happiest of my life. But I wholeheartedly disagree that having kids makes me feel I’ve ‘fulfilled a purpose’. I am very unconventional in that I never wanted children, they happened and I adore them, but I don’t believe kids or even family members can completely fulfill a single person. It’s our biology as a species to want to partner with someone. It’s natural. And it’s usually partnered people telling single people how they should feel like what they have is ‘good enough’. That’s like saying to the OP – well you were in a relationship – that should be good enough. There are plusses and minuses to every situation. I am extremely content at loving myself so much I won’t be in a relationship without amazing treatment. But I DO get lonely. I have a high libido and no option of even casual sex because of covid SUCKS.

My general overall point is – happiness is not a constant – it can be moments in time. But contentment and peace much more steady. And just because a woman is content and peaceful getting love from their family and friends (I have no family within a 10 hours drive from me btw) doesn’t mean they don’t get sad or lonely or horny. BUT despite feeling all those things can choose to choose themselves every day by not putting up with bad treatment.

Yeah i can see how my post was confusing. It was not directed against anyone but to try out a different perspective on love. I wrote another one that turned out equally confusing lol, so i deleted that and leave it at this. And say: happy holidays and a fantastic 2021

@anon2

He has online friends Facebook groups etc but is lacking in IRL friendships. He has a couple but I think he wants more people to do things with. He doesn’t work or have children so he has endless amounts of time. He had enough money to get by but not large mounts.

He blocked me but then started contacting nd and apparently he thought that even though he broke things off with me because I wasn’t available enough I was meant to fight for the relationship. I said I wasn’t interested in continuing as we were a poor fit due to different needs.

He sent me a text this morning saying that he is going straight back into dating abd just wanted to let me know.

Am I wrong in thinking that he broke things off so I would fight for the relationship, ( hard when you have been blocked I would think, I didn’t contact him at all and He that that was strange and cold ) so he can push my boundaries ? It makes. I sense to me to tell me it’s over and then expect me to fight his decision. I don’t get it.

@tallspicy we have broken up and I haven’t communicated since I sent the email to say no I’m not interested.

I guess I’m just perplexed as to what game is he playing. I don’t block people I just ignore.

I’m more than happy to have this finished. I think feeling feeling relieved after he ended it is a clear sign that I should have pulled the pin earlier … I was just perplexed about the carry on after that is all. All good and happy here …