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Michelle
So my Boyfriend (who I live with and have been with for 6 years), has gone on a two week holiday to see his family over East, I couldn’t go as I can’t get time off of work.
He has been away for almost a week now and the ONLY time I hear from him is if I ring him or text him, then I am lucky to get more than one word responses. I have only rang him twice and he has not even bothered to even ask how my time at home is going ( I have been keeping very busy, catching up with mates each night). I know he has been texting his own mates often about his trip (I know this, because they are also my mates).
All I would like is just a text every now and to ask how I am…..or God forbid…..an actual phone call!!!
Why are men like this? Why can they be so damn inconsiderate. He is off on a lovely two week holiday in QLD (Australia) and I am at home having to work.
I am going to make a stand and not call him or txt him now until he shows the initiative. Or is the being immature?
Thanks all!
Jules
It sounds like you’re more upset that he’s having a good time while you’re stuck at work.
It’s only two weeks and one is already over. I say just let him enjoy the rest of his trip.
If you don’t feel like you guys have much to talk about while he’s gone then I would say its fine not to message him but I wouldn’t do it as some kind of punishment. Honestly he probably wouldn’t even get it if you did try that and then you’ll be even more pissed off and hurt.
Let him enjoy his family and he will be back home with you in no time.
Paige
Grow up. No guy wants to be constantly nagged by a woman while he’s trying to relax on a vacation. Quit obsessing over him. He’ll be back soon.
Michelle
Thanks heaps ladies, massive slap in the face which I needed!!
I guess I just miss him, it’s always nice to know that the love of your life is also missing you as well. It’s nice to be told, that when they are away as well. But I am sure his days are full so he hasn’t even had the chance to even think about it.
But he isn’t really the romantic, sensitive guy at home, so not sure why I expect him to to change when he goes on holidays!!
On the flip side, I have been enjoying having the remote to myself and cooking whatever I like for dinner!! Ha ha :-)
Paige
I know how frustrating it is to have a boyfriend who doesn’t text or like to text. Mine doesn’t and I’ve just had to learn to accept it. I still have trouble sometimes but I just keep it to myself now.
kaye
Sorry, but I have to disagree with the others on this one! It would be one thing if he was just a bad texter and this is how he normally is but the fact that he’s texting his other friends often and not you leads me to believe there is more to this. And to not even call once in a week to check in and see how you are doing is rather rude if you ask me. My boyfriend and I don’t ever go a day without calling or texting each other.
Have you been having issues or problems before he left? Does he see this as maybe an opportunity to get away from you for awhile? Why have you been together for 6 years and living together but never married?
Maria
I disagree, this is not ok for a BF not to call at all. I can understand not calling every day, but a couple times per week is absolutely to be expected in a stable relationship. And one word responses? it takes not take much longer to type a sentence than it does to type one word.
I’d be attentive to his behaviour after he comes back. You’ve been together for 6 years and no commitment? no engagement? Why do women do that? Allow men to have all the benefits of a marriage with no responsibilities. If he decides to walk away on you, you would have effectively lost 6 years.
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