Boyfriend's daughter and me staying over at his place

I agree with what Anon said above. And clearly you can see he is not invested in this relationship if, after a year and a half of dating, he downloads Tinder behind your back but continues to date you like nothing is wrong. You also admit that you have been “immature and threatened to break up with him way too many times”. None of this is a healthy relationship dynamic. Surely you can see that.

Then the fact that your communication is so awful is like the nail in the coffin. I don’t know how you managed to keep your cool and not say anything through dinner after seeing the Tinder notification! If that happened to me I would confront my bf on the spot. But you clearly repress so much of your feelings with him, about everything. And he turned it around on you and blamed you for ruining the night when you confronted him. The whole dynamic here is just so toxic.

So yes, I think this is grounds for breaking up, in my opinion. You don’t trust him and you can’t have a relationship without trust. At any rate he is already on Tinder behind your back so he obviously does not consider himself a taken man. So like Anon said, let him be single.

I dont understand why you keep trying so hard to make this work. As you have been post a few times now during the past months its become cristal clear he only likes to be half in this relationship. The promise to see you once a week when youre a year in already says this is a situationship. Its not growing. In fact, its the opposite, more hurdles come up, like him downloading tinder after you break it off two days later (if that is even true). Then there is the thing about your family not Speaking english. Yesh thats very unpleasant for him if he would be at a party for instance and him not able to understand or say a word. I wouldnt like that either. But to make it an excuse of why you and him are not fully working is just bs.
I has been clear communication is also a problem for both of you but at this point i dont see the reason to work on it. There is always one of you not into it. Why not just quit the drama and move on as a newly single

I missed the business part…
What type of business?

You’ve been with this guy for 1.5 years & you’re still trying to decide if you’ve misjudged ‘Mr. Bad to Worse?’

I dont know what to say to you. I get its hard but you are creating your own unhappiness and block ways to go on a different path. If you are happy with one day a week and him deleting tinder again, then go for it. To me this all sounds like hard work, for him as well and not a lot of love created. But maybe thats fine for you for now

I don’t know what else you need to hear from us. This thread is 3 pages long already. As someone else has commented, you keep coming back to post here, which suggests you are unhappy. It definitely shows there are long standing problems that have been dragging on for months. But ultimately you have to make the decision to end it, if that’s what you want, we can’t make that decision for you.

This man has violated your trust in a major way. You understandably feel that you cannot trust him again (I would feel the same way if I were in your shoes). This is on top of all the longstanding communication issues you have been having with him. Like Newbie said, I don’t understand why you are trying so hard to make this work, when it’s clearly not working.

Thank you all! I appreciate all your inputs.