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TamsinD
I broke up with my boyfriend nearly two weeks ago because he just stopped making effort and disregarded my feelings. . For 3 days he called me at least once a day then all of a sudden when I didn’t reply to a text he stopped and we didn’t speak for 3 days.
I got very funny and then text him saying he doesn’t care and doesn’t even want to talk to me about how much he hurt me. He just doesn’t seem to care then messages me saying “all I wanted from you is to offer me a cuddle” …. Is he crazy? He said he didn’t call me for 3 days because he was hurt I didn’t reply to a text?
I guess I want him to fight for me and I know I broke up with him but two days after he was saying how this is his wake up call and how he wants to make me happy… Is he just playing with my head again? We haven’t actually come to a conclusion about the breakup, but he isn’t trying to get me back and I haven’t exactly told him he hasn’t got a chance in hell and I’m moving on, so he knows if he try’s we could work things ok?
What should I do? Is this his way of dealing with it? Why is he telling me I should offer him a cuddle and I should call him?
Raven
How long were you together?
What are your ages?Tamsind
9 months 25 and 30
Raven
Have you two spoke face to face since your breakup?
LAgirl
I’m confused.. You broke up with him… You obviously had a reason and now you want him to chase you ?
Just call and talk with him. This is silly. Texting is a waste of time. We can’t decipher a text. Speak with him and decide if you are on or off.
Lane
Hi Tamsid.
Here’s your problem. You broke up, you then text after he stops texting, and now you want to know what to do?
First, when you break up its because the relationship was BROKEN.
Second, if you can’t communicate properly, you know discuss in a mature way what’s wrong and how to resolve it, then no amount of texting back and forth is going to FIX IT.
Third, if the break up was due to his character flaws or behaviors, you need to be aware that if you get back together its highly probable he will eventually revert back to the way he was.
Lastly, what do you want?
Talllady
Grow up. Breaking up so you can get him to fight for you? You have a broken relationship if that is the tactic you need to take. If he had been properly in the relationship, you would not have needed to do that.
Emily
He was being really distant. We had plenty of time to talk but he never approached me, I always had to. HE would respond with one word answers when we texted and didnt start the conversations. SO yesterday I broke up with him. After that I wrote him a note saying I’m sorry. I regret how i broke up with him and it was really lengthy. Telling him why I broke up with him. He put the note back into my bag. When I looked what he had written. It said:
Its Over. You know me.
Thats it.
Thanks for nothing.
Emily
He didn’t say that’s it thanks for nothing. He just said:
Its over. You know me.
April
How old are you Emily? You don’t break up with someone to get a reaction from them. You break up with them because you’ve already decided that the relationship is already broken. If you’re not happy with what they’re doing then communicate it to them.
Amanda
Only break up with someone if you mean it. A mature guy might try a little, but not very much because they will assume you are serious and will then try to move on with their life. This guy doesn’t sound too great though. Work on becoming more mature and then go find a better guy who is good at communicating.
Raven
Don’t sound like you’re losing much…
Amanda Rocks
Oh God this guy, he doesnt care enough about the relationship you did the right thing but its hard because you are still crazy about him. Know your value and forget about this one. x
Hannah
It sounds like he wasn’t that into you. That’s why you got frustrated and ended it with him. Well now he seems glad you’ve broken up. Some men are cowards. They don’t end it themselves, they treat a woman so badly hoping the woman will end it. It sounds like that’s what happened here sadly.
All you can do is accept it’s over and start to move on. I know it’s tough but you will get over it and you don’t really have another option. I’m sorry!
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