Broke up with my boyfriend because of long distance. Did I dodge a bullet?

My boyfriend (now ex) and I have been a couple for a couple of months, and have been dating for like a year and a half. (In person, I didn’t meet him online, I met him at uni)

He went to an exchange program in February, and he isn’t returning until August. When he left I told him that if he wanted we could make video calls, and we could talk and agree on how often to video call. But he didn’t say anything and he told me he wanted to take a break.

I agreed and said “We can keep texting”. And he agreed so we texted every now and then.

The thing is, he started posting stories partying and hugging other women. Strangers that I didn’t know, girls he met there. It really hurt my feelings, so I expressed that to him. He told me “If you want, I can hide my stories from you, or I can take you off from the ‘best friends’ list”. I mean, he didn’t even try to compromise. And I told him “There is no need to hide your stories from me.” But guess what he did, he hid them from me.

I was really upset and I asked him why he did this, and I also asked him “when you asked for a break, were you actually breaking up with me? It’s confusing for me”. And he was like “I’m sorry you’re right I’m sorry I hurt you. But the next day I posted a similar photo [hugging the same woman I guess] and I didn’t want you to get mad so I hid the stories. I forgot to add you again, sorry. And I think it may be best for us if we break up I think”. I told him “only ONCE you posted a photo hugging me while we were together. But now you post all these photos hugging women you met there, so soon?”. And also I told him “You made me waste all this time, when you actually wanted to break up? What is wrong with you?”

We started arguing and I told him “I really think you don’t care about me, at all”. And he was like “I do care about you, it’s that my priorities right now are other things”. And I told him “If you really cared about me you would’ve made time for me and for video calls. But you don’t care, that’s why you don’t make time for me. I hope some day you learn how to treat people right, the good way, and respectfully. I think it’s good that we are breaking up”

And after arguing a lot, i told him “You are telling me you can’t make time for me because that’ll ruin your priorities? I think your priorities are going to be fine if you dedicate a little bit of time for me” and he was like “I disagree”. And I was like “you are telling me you can’t give me time? Even a little bit, I don’t know, make a little bit of time for me?” And he replied “I can’t give time, energy, willingness. I don’t have the desire”.

That really hurt my feelings and I told him “You should’ve saved that for yourself. I don’t need to know that you don’t care at all. That is just rude. I’m tired.” And he replied “Yes I’m sorry. I shouldn’t have said that”.

And he was like “I already knew long distance wouldn’t work. That’s why my brother breaks up with his girlfriend before leaving. I don’t want to do something I don’t want to do. [meaning putting effort in the relationship]. I don’t want to do that, and I told you this. This is how much I am willing to give, and it’s your choice what to do with this”. And I told him “I got the message. Perfect. You broke up with me when you asked for a break. YOU asked for this.”

We kept on talking and I told him “As you said, it is best if we just break up. I wish you the best in everything and happiness”. And he wished the same for me too, and he told me “whatever you need I’m here”. I didn’t reply

This sucks, he showed me how cold and mean he is. What do you think? If he comes back to me once he comes back from the exchange program what should I say? I really love him and it’s really hard.