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Daisy
Just wanted to get people’s thoughts on this…
I had been talking with this guy for the last 3 weeks or so. He lives about 3 hours away. We had been talking about eventually meeting up halfway. He seemed very into me. We finally had a FaceTime call last Mon, which I thought went well. We were chatting a bit the next day, and I knew he was traveling that Weds-Fri. I didn’t contact him at all while he was away and he didn’t contact me. He texted me yesterday afternoon checking in with me. All seemed to be well. I check my bumble this morning and I see that he unmatched me (though he still follows me on Instagram). I’m kind of taking this as a sign that he’s not that interested and I shouldn’t engage anymore. Thoughts?
Across the Atlantic
Perhaps he unfollowed you by accident,or Bumble unmatched you because of the algorithm? I have accidentally unfollowed people on Twitter and more than once Twitter has unfollowed me from accounts. I hope everything works out for you.😃
Maddie
Did he unmatch (conversation vanishes) or did he delete his account? If he’s still actively messaging, this may not mean anything since he has your actual contact info. I’ve had it go either way when it’s happened in the past.
Daisy
Hi Maddie- doesn’t look like he deleted account (since I’m not seeing the conversation at all). We were texting throughout the day yesterday. But haven’t heard from him since I saw he deleted me this morning. I think I’ll probably still hear from him, but it makes me think he’s not as into me anymore?
I have a feeling he wanted to update his pictures and maybe doesn’t want me to see. He went to a very scenic place last week on vacation, and he likes to include those kinds of pictures on his profile.
Liz Lemon
He may have unmatched with you since you have each other’s numbers and are communicating through text. My understanding is that sometimes people like to do that to keep their matches less cluttered. And yes maybe he wants to update his photos, that’s possible.
Keep in mind you haven’t met this guy and have only been talking for 3 weeks. You should both be talking to and dating others at this point.
If I were you, I’d just sit back and let him get in touch. See if any plans to meet materialize. Don’t overthink the unmatching thing or refuse to engage if he texts you, that’s silly. But he should be stepping up plans to meet in person, so see if he does that.
Daisy
Liz Lemon- yes, he’s totally in the right to talk to other people, since we haven’t even met, I just thought it was odd.
It looks like bumble changed it to where if someone unmatches you, they still show up as greyed out at the bottom of your conversations list, and he’s not showing up there either 🤷🏻♀️ So maybe it’s a glitch?
Ewa
it’s not a glitch, it happened to me too and you can still see the conversations , even though someone decided to unmatch you, I think if they delete the account it says account deleted.
3 weeks of talking is a long time really, what do you want from this anyway? 3h away, with the current petrol prices is not going to be an easy/cheap ‘ride’ unless you are not looking for anything serious?Daisy
Ewa- 100% you still can’t see the conversation anymore. I scrolled all the way to the bottom where I have another person who unmatched, and he’s definitely not there and he doesn’t come up as a deleted user. So maybe he blocked me? Just doesn’t make sense, since we still follow eachother on Insta and he reached back out on Sat after he got back from vacation.
As for the distance, we discussed and we both actually don’t mind it. Both of us work from home and are able to spend extended time away from our homes. Obviously we’d have to meet eachother first. I guess I’ll see what happens!
mama
I would try to remove any sort of over thinking and over analyzing in this case. Don’t let him take up so much space in your head. :)
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