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Sylvia
That’s the least of my problems but I’m a wine lover and I’m fortunate enough to have bottles of overpriced but prestigious wines – from 1500 to my most expensive one around 4000$ a bottle.
Drinking window is perfect for some of them but they’re worth more that most of the things I’m giving/possessing so it’s not like it’s not a big deal for me.
The problem is – can I bring such a wine to a date, boyfriend or drink it myself? (like with friends it’s icky as well).
I’m scared of embarrassing someone and appearing of trying too hard.Peggy
Hi Sylvia. It is your wine, so you can do whatever you want with it. I am guessing most people will not have a clue what the wine costs. So, the answer here is simple-just give the wine or serve it etc. and just do not mention anything about price. If someone compliments the wine, just say, it is good isn’t it and change the subject. I am married to a wine guy so I understand a little about this.
Lane
I personally don’t like wine although I did have a new neighbor who had collected lots of wine while stationed in Germany bring a red one over from Italy to introduce herself and it was pretty good! I would have no clue what it cost, nor did that even enter my mind, because that wasn’t the reason for drinking it with her, it was to get to know my new neighbor. I would use it for the same purpose if you decide to pop the cork with someone else, whether it be a date, friend, neighbor…choice is yours.
Liz Lemon
I agree with the gist of what Peggy is saying. Most people aren’t going to be able to taste $2000 in a glass of wine. I like wine but my palate is not sophisticated enough to know what really expensive wine tastes like.
I find this a strange question, to be honest. It’s your wine, do what you want with it. Although I would not consider sharing a bottle of wine that cost thousands of dollars with someone who was not very close to me (in which case talking about the price would not be awkward).
Is it important to you that the person know the wine is expensive? In that case I would share it with someone that you’re close with. A close friend, family member, established boyfriend. It might come off as bragging and probably off-putting if you tell someone you don’t know well that the wine you’re drinking cost thousands of dollars. So if you want to share with someone who’s an acquaintance, or that you’re not close to, I wouldn’t mention the price. On the other hand, if I had a SUPER expensive bottle of wine, I’d be excited to share it with my boyfriend and/or best friend to see if we could taste the difference :-)
mama
This doesn’t seem like a dating question unless you are talking about a specific romantic interest.
Socially it’s probably too much if you don’t know a person well. If you know them well — whether or not you’re close — then they probably already know you’re an avid wine collector and would not take it the wrong way. (Maybe find a social etiquette forum to ask?)
If it’s regarding a romantic interest I think it depends on if your romantic prospect is interested in wines — maybe it will give you something to talk about and share as a hobby, who knows.
Honestly though you “can” do whatever you want. You can always just present it as a way to show your own interest and that you only want to share it with the person you brought it to. You could also just not say anything about it’s value and drink it with them as if it were a regular bottle. :) It’s really all in how you present it. Just my two cents.
Sylvia
Thank you guys. For me it’s not a big deal at all and don’t want them to know. I just didn’t want to drink by myself :) You’re so understanding :)
LnJ
Sylvia, I agree with the others. I do want to bring up one thing though.
Before I bring it up, I want to make it clear: I hope he enjoys sharing it with you and that everything turns out fine. He’s very fortunate that you’re willing to share it with him!
But there’s a possibility that he could say something negative. For example, he could react to it by saying “oh this isn’t my thing”. Or he might love it but compare it to a really cheap wine. “Oh! This has got to be Barefoot Moscato [which is $10], I love it!”
Of course, even if the wine weren’t $2000, I would understand if you felt slighted or disappointed if he reacted that way. But in this case, would you feel MORE slighted or disappointed? If you would feel MORE strongly because it’s expensive, then maybe you should give this more consideration.
But if you really do feel like your reaction would be exactly the same, regardless of price – then, sure, enjoy!
Sylvia
LnJ yeah, you’re right. I’d be slightly sad that someone didn’t appreciate the wine but feel relief as well that I’m not trying too much.
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