Can someone realize they love you after they leave?

Yes, a person can realize love after a breakup. But, I would not hold my breath…it is rare.

For my ex… it took him 3 months and I was already with someone great. They always realize when either you have moved on or you no longer have feelings for them. It is kind of like they get to know that you aren’t needy anymore. Why would you want to be with such a person who said to you that he has lost his feelings for you. You aren’t a piece of meat that has been sitting outside for too long and hence you don’t feel like eating. Get some self respect and move on. How do you know when he comes back he wouldn’t lose those feelings again later on?

It is hard to do but everyone has gone though it and you can do it too.

Yes, it can happen. Like another poster said, it’s rare. But of course, finding true love is rare too.

I know of several married couples that had a significant breakup. The best story I have is of a former coworker. He moved about two hours away and they tried to keep the relationship going but it soon fizzled. One year after they broke up he showed up at her house out of the blue and told her he loved her. She said it was like in the movies, they started kissing and everything. He told her that he thought it would go two ways…she’d either throw him out, or be ecstatic, but he had to know. They’ve been married for nine years now and have two kids.

My best friend’s brother broke up with his now wife for six months when they were dating as well. I don’t think spending some time apart is all that uncommon…particularly if a guy is younger (twenties) he may need some time to explore what else the world has to offer in terms of companionship to truly appreciate someone.

You can’t predict whether or not someone will come back, though. You could be pining for someone for years who is gone and that is it, wasting all that time. So you need to cry your tears, heal, get back out there, and just have faith that things will work out the way they should…whether that means your ex coming back or finding someone better suited to you.

It’s possible. I am going through the same thing. He broke up with me a couple of months ago. Shredded my heart. I know I pushed him away with my own insecurities. It was pretty brutal at first. A couple of weeks ago we started talking again. Then his flirty texts came. I started dating again. I sent him a text that let him know I am still into him. It opened the floodgates. He told me in front of his non English speaking co-worker he loved me. Those words slipped out. I don’t think he meant to verbalize out loud. I heard it but said nothing. Next thing I know he is planning a weekend away, just the two of us. This is something he never did before. Saturday he had me over to his place (another first) took me out to dinner and I watched me across from me. His eyes said it all. We had an amazing night together. I realize with him I need to give him the space he needs. He was frustrated Monday and called me as said we both need to quit our jobs and pack up is 5th wheel and travel the country together. It’s comments like that which tell me he sees a future with me in it. I don’t know where we are headed but I am willing to find out.