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Kara
1. He already knows
2. She told him
3. He isn’t telling you because he can still get what he wants from you
4. She probably either doesn’t care or knew all along
5. She might be allowed to go outside the relationship as well and they share storiesRegardless of the actual scenario rest assured the only person outside in the cold is you
And your nonexistent husbandLucy
It’s concerns me that there are people llle Aimee in this world.
Lucy
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anon
“She could have forwarded my husband the email… if she could track down his address.”
Maybe she didn’t because she has some integrity and is not interested in doing wrong to others? You shouldn’t measure other people by one’s own yard-stick.
I see that you like playing the victim. You turn everything you touch into shi* and still it is you that is afraid of the bunny boiler. Hilarious. You are either seriously disturbed and have no contact with the reality or you are just plain stupid. Hard to figure out. You are a mystery, haha.
Aimee
She’s not a sh*t stirrer – obviously. No, she hasn’t told him. No, they’re not swingers. Lol Yes, she loves him and is looking the other way.
Still hard to believe I’m married? You’d never think anything close to what you’re thinking if you met me in real life. Lol I get that I’m nice all the time. My ex trusts me based off of how I act (not what I think or what he doesn’t know I’ve done.) My husband used to trust me but is struggling with that now for good reason. My soul is black but I rarely show that in public. Or I’m just damaged and lost. Take your pick.
Kiki
Well, psychopaths/sociopaths are usually really good at being charming.
I think that all the things you write here is a scream for help. I don’t know, maybe you don’t have anyone to help you in real life, so you come here and post all of those rather sad things.
Good luck, I wish you well and hope that you will find your way eventually. However, somethings tell me that it won’t happen, because you don’t want to change. Otherwise you wouldn’t be rationalizing your rather ugly deeds. From what you write I get an impression that you are proud of yourself, because for some twisted reason you feel superior to everyone else.
Newbie
Why dont you spend the day im doing one selfless good deed for someone else? Clean your closets and donate the clothes, go to a community center to serve coffee. Anything. All this energy used to destroy and harm is painful to read. And so useless. I dont think you have limerence, you sound more like a narcissist or borderliner to me. If that makes sense to you, work on that. You live one life on this planet with zillions of options. Think about what will male you happy instead of creating drama here and in your life
Aimee
I tend to think there’s a little bit more wrong too but every shrink I’ve ever been to just says I have low grade depression. I think I’m spoiled, entitled and lack emotional strength. Nothing really as extreme as most of these posters suggest.
I actually do charitable work on a daily basis. Am a good daughter and call my parents regularly. Make dinner for my husband and tell him I love him. And then I’ll also run off and have these weekends with other men. And feel unhappy enough in my own marriage and life that I tell the ex. A lot of focus has been on my ex and his gf. My ex gave me a bit of fun. Dealing with marital problems is not fun and something I keep actively avoiding. Something which my friends and family keep calling me out on. The ex and his gf are just avoidance. I post on this site to talk about things that I’d never share in real life… My friends know about my flings. They do not know about some of the other stuff.
Fill
The reason I know you are not married is because you contemplated and acted on getting involved in an active vengeance with the ex. That is the action of a girl with nothing to lose. That is the action of a desperate person craving the attention. That is the action of a desperate person who has nothing else to think about and no one else to be concerned with.
Aimee
If you’re using that logic, than I also would have never cheated on him. What could be happening is that I’m unhappy in my marriage and don’t give a F anymore. We’ve been off and on for a year now including being separated for a period of two months in the fall although neither of us actually moved out of the house. I will say this, it’s amazing how many men have no qualms with sleeping with a married woman. My ex included. That doesn’t mean they’ll date you or blow up their own relationship to be with you, but they have no problem sleeping with you.
Padmini
In response to Fill, if you find it hard to believe that a married woman would be behaving in this manner with a paramour, I would like to direct you towards the newsflash of a decade ago of the married astronaut stalking the girlfriend of her paramour, while wearing adult diapers. Another post on this forum also alludes to that newsflash.
Aimee, it would also be a good idea for you to reflect on that newsflash as an example of a person, whom you do not want to end up like. It would be wise to curb your irrational and illogical behavior before you commit irreparable actions.
Anna
Stop writing to this Aimee character this post should be done and over enough Is enough. There are other people who actually need help not attention
Aimee
Even I’m amused by this thread sometimes. LOL I will do my best, Padmini. Anonymous emails… the gateway behavior to wearing adult diapers while stalking your paramour’s gf.
I know a lot of you find me self-indulgent at best, but I reiterate my thanks for listening and responding. It’s been helpful just to get some of these self-destructive musings out – even if it’s to strangers online. I doubt I’m very different from some of you during a down time. Perhaps a little depressed, in unhappy marriages, thinking things which you’d never actually do (ok maybe I did a couple of them.)
But you have helped. I am trying to re-engage with my husband. We have our issues but he’s a good man and maybe with some hard work, we can get to a better spot. I have not spoken to my ex recently or contacted his gf. Even on some good days I wish them the best. I have been asked out/ approached by two men in the last week and turned them both down.
I’m now going to get off the iPad and take the dog for a walk on the beach per Newbie. Try to find some happiness.
So thanks to all of those who have wished me well or tried to offer guidance. It has helped and is appreciated.
anon
First of all, there are some bits of the information you provide that are contradictory. Hence, it is abvious that you lie.
Second, I would like to congratulate you on your fantastic logic: ‘I scre w other men but I cook my husband dinner and tell him I love him, so he has nothing to complain’.
I somehow knew that you would comment that you do charity. As someone already said, from the beginning of this thread you adjust your story depending on what other people comment.
You have to be a really lonely person. There are many harsh things being said about you and you still come back for more. That makes me think that you crave the attention, even if negative, because noone gives a damn about you in real life. I wonder why.
I also doubt you are seeing a therapist.
Aimee
You’re free to believe anything you’d like, babe. You wanna continue the SWF, bunny-boiler narrative, go for it.
I haven’t been faithful and my husband knows it so I wouldn’t exactly say he has nothing to complain about. Said he understands, not that he’s pleased.
I come on this site for the same reasons anyone else does. It’s something to do and it’s entertaining. Most of the comments I’ve received on this thread are whatever but there have been some nuggets of wisdom and words of encouragement. I’m grateful for both.
Question for you – after my previous comment, why do you feel the need to write negative comments? Perhaps you’ve got your own work to do.
Beach was nice by the way. Don’t kill my vibe.
anon
yes, I definitely have my own work to do! That is why I am so attracted to you. Like attracts like!
Seriously, this is a forum, people come here to write responses. And it is really hard to write anything nice to you. And as I am as miserable as you are, I find the pleasure in being nasty to you.
Oh, I won’t kill your vibe, I feel that throwing you off balance could end badly for some boyfriends or husbands in the neighbourhood!
Aimee
Oh yeah, you’re attracted to me? Maybe you should get in the action. I was just talking about having an open marriage. Lol
Danita
This thread reminds me of a sandpit, where children throw mud at and pull each others hair.
Hard to tell what the purpose of all of this is, but I see many are well entertained, haha.
Shoshannah
hi Aimee, What you’re going through is extremely complicated and difficulut AND I STRONGLY ENCOURAGE YOU TO LEAVE THIS FORUM. I love this forum, I come here evrey now and then when I had a glass of wine or when I’m bored. but you have a real problem. strangers online will only bring you down. I feel for your story! I’m so sorry for you!
you need serious support, family, friends or therapy, not a bunch of petty strangers with all their hatred. don’t let them bring you down.
Aimee
I’m heeding your advice, Shoshannah, but did just want to say thank you for your concern and guidance. You’ve got a good heart. 💕
Aimee
We’re talking about doing a trip next month to a warmer locale instead of skiing. And he wants to do a threesome… I’m thinking about it. Anyone ever taken a dip in that pond?
Honeypie
😂😂omg that made me laugh so much. You are either drunk or in desperate need of attention as it’s a dry week.
Yeah a threesome… why not? You’ve done everything else 😂can’t wait for the up dates- ‘I’ve told the long term partner of the woman/man we had the threesome with that they are with a cheating loser! They are ignoring me! I can’t do ignored so I’m thinking of takin an ad out in the paper to announce it to the world. Thoughts? ‘
Dear OP, whilst your life is amusing, it sure isn’t enviable
O.M.G.
On the 7th you posted you haven’t spoken to your ex-bf or his gf for awhile.
8 days later you post you’re talking about a warmer climate vacation with him and a ménage à trois!
Why dip in the pond? Wouldn’t two men be more fun? Maybe your husband could be the third.
Or if you do dip would it be with the gf?
I’ll give you one thing. Your preposterous posts are pretty hysterical.
Aimee
I don’t think I can, or want to, do it. Meet with him or do what he’s suggesting. Things are actually improving with my husband. We had a really nice Valentine’s Day and even had good sex a few times this week. I feel like my emotional and physical needs are being met. No longer need my ex to fill in the gaps. The guilt is starting to get to me too. I don’t want to lose what I have and find my actions hard to believe when I actually give it space in my mind.
Honeypie
Wow I think I speak collectively here when I say we are all so thrilled and relieved 🙄
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