Can’t get over him!!!

You are really desperate for attention.

Are you living off your husband that you’re cheating on?

Wow, that reminds me the saying; “some pussies are lucky than others

Ugh. I just found out he booked a skiing trip without me… That was totally going to be our trip. Does he have someone else in his life? I know his gf isn’t going… Didn’t mention it bc we talked about that other trip recently? Or is he not interested. I wish I wasn’t interested. So annoying that I still care this guy. My husband and I our planning our own vacations and I can’t seem to muster up much excitement that he’s the one coming with me…

I read an article yesterday that it’s completely normal for women to feel unfulfilled and bored in long term relationships. How is everyone else ok feeling this way?

I’m sure in the 11 pages of your thread someone has said this to you so I apologize if I’m being redundant, I couldn’t get through all the posts. You have to find happiness within yourself. No one else is responsible for your happiness. Your husband is probably a decent man, be thankful for that. You probably have children with him, be thankful for that too. Be careful to be so unhappy with your life that you cannot enjoy a vacation your husband is planning when most of the world is trying to survive and make the best of their situation.

You’re right, too, BOS. I have a LOT to be grateful for…for some reason I still have so much trouble finding happiness and feeling content. I’m seriously thinking about going back on an antidepressant.

And I’m sorry BOS for these annoying posts on my end…truly wishing you and your kids the best.

I do get annoyed with all these people who say ‘I can’t’ or ‘I’m trying not to’ about following people on social media and messaging them.

It’s so easy to not follow someone /block them and avoid torturing yourself; and anyone ‘trying not to contact’ who is texting is just lying to themselves.

Own your crap behaviour and weaknesses. In this case, admit you still want him to want you which is why you’re monitoring him. Just stop it for your own sanity.

I really doubt it was meant to encourage you. The tone of most posts is rather sarcastic. It is hard to take this thread seriously.

OP your difficulties and extreme dissatisfaction and unhappiness in your life has very little to do wth this man, he is simply the vessel you are projecting it all in the direction of. This is why it feels so acute. Therapy and unpicking why you have no real joy and happiness is your pathway, not this constant drivel you keep coming back and pouring out.

How is that fair to your husband you’d rather be with someone else? How would you feel if your husband was doing the same?

It’s not fair. There really are no excuses in this situation. It’s hard to imagine my haband doing the same. It’s just not in his character. I don’t know that I’d be that upset as there aren’t a lot of feelings there at this point.

Do you care that he has a girlfriend and how hurt she might feel about it if she found out you guys slept together?

She knows. Remember I emailed her? :/ I could say a lot but to be honest, I don’t really care that much that he has a girlfriend. If he was married with kids, that would be a different situation. It’s not great I know but that’s the truth.

Could you see him without sleeping with him or touch him?

Definitely not. That’s the best part.

Thanks for letting me vent. You’re right – a lot of this is just getting it out. I don’t think I’m going to meet up with him. It’s like I’m a bit of an addict with him but now the high isn’t as fun… I don’t know that I’d truly enjoy my time with him and know for sure that I’d catch feelings again…and have to deal with those feelings and the letdown…again. And things are better with my husband. I feel like I have something to lose now versus say even a couple months ago when I really didn’t care if we stayed together or not. Was leaning toward not. I’m going to do my best to let a sleeping dog lie. See if I can actually go NC for a couple months… It’s harder when I’ve had a couple glasses of wine to be honest but I’m going to try.

And honeypie, you’re not one to talk about dissatisfaction. No offense, but you’re one of the most negative people here. I can’t imagine you’re that happy yourself.

You’re proving my point, honeypie. Why don’t you relax and enjoy your Sunday?

You made some good points the other day along with BOS, etc. The advice I’ve received over the past few days has been the best so far because it’s actually dealing with the root of the problem – which you pointed out. And the advice has helped. My therapist/friends/fam have basically said the same thing – focus on yourself, finding your own joy and meaning. Forget about the guys and the temporary high and ego boost. I think I’m slowly coming out of the fog…

For the record, I don’t think his gf is a loser. I feel kind of bad for her in general and think she’s in denial. I mean one of the screenshots I sent her was him telling me he’s cheated on her before. She’s holding onto this dream which doesn’t coincide with who he really is or what he wants for his/their future. I’m just one out of a few… Do my actions really matter that much? It’s more his actions and lack of real commitment to their relationship IMO. As one poster put it, he’s no prize.

This whole thing is just GROSS

I’ll admit this sounds far-fetched in an already long diatribe but it’s completely true…and makes me wonder if things are ‘meant to be.’ That free flight came about when I was thinking about my ex on Friday while looking at my work email (I barely work PT) and in my junk folder was an email, Let Us Take You to (my ex’s city). Seeing the city name took me aback. Then reading the email and corresponding with the business owner…and realizing it wasn’t a scam…definitely made me think. I mean how weird is that?!? And I literally keep seeing his city’s name everywhere…although I should say it’s not like Vegas but fairly well known. And my ex’s name… I dunno if it’s just because it’s on my mind but it’s starting to almost weird me out. And by the way, I said no… I have not made plans with him… Definitely could have, but continued to decline. Does anyone believe in ‘meant to be’ scenarios?