Can't stop obsessing. Should I block him?


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    Eliz

    I was dating someone for two months, we were exclusive and I felt strongly for him. We moved fast and when it ended (he claimed I didn’t trust him but I found out he was on dating apps) I was devastated. I wanted to stay together. He wanted a “break” and “space” … we all know what that means. He mentioned during our relationship that he is in contact with his exes but nothing like he and I were, but I noticed none of his exes follow him on social media, though he follows them. He also said his ex-wife couldn’t leave the house fast enough, which was odd. After a few weeks, I removed him from my instagram but occasionally he or I would text something benign like an inside joke we thought of or a pic of a candy we liked. Nothing serious. One day after this I asked him “how are you?” and he ignored me for a full week and never replied. Yesterday he texted me a bunch, bringing up restaurants we went to when we were together and other memories. I sent the final text of that night and he didn’t reply. I thought nothing of it as we’d not been texting a lot anymore. To be honest, yesterday with our communication and memories I really began to miss him. I felt like I wanted to see him and hang out again. I do not know if he did that on purpose or what. Today I texted him one quick picture of this candy I suggested he try (our thing is trying new candies) and he saw the pic and ignored me. So this is two ignored texts after what I thought was communication building back up. I feel embarrassed and even ashamed for texting and getting my hopes up. I think because he called it a break and not a break up, I still had hope. Now I feel so stupid.

    Deep down in my heart, I cannot trust him. He devastated me with the breakup which was over nothing and was his doing. He ignores my texts and never once asked how I have been. He left my life quickly and continues to pop back up for a few hours. It is hard to move on. I’ve had dates with other men, but I keep coming back to this guy. I finally got some self respect and blocked him today. Should I keep him blocked or is it too harsh? I do still have feelings for him, but I don’t feel he is a safe person to trust with my emotions.

    #757341 Reply
    Raven

    Delete, then Block…

    #757352 Reply
    Newbie

    Yes keep him blocked. This guy is barely an ex since you only dated 2 months. Sounds like the typical go in fast, get out kind of guy. You didnt trust him and you were probably right about that. He didnt want to commit so he put the blame on you as an eqsy way to get out. This feelings will go away once you realize it was more of an infatuation in stead of really loving this guy

    #757355 Reply
    Liz Lemon

    Keep him blocked. He’s playing with you & using you to boost his ego. He pops up at random & you reply, & he knows he’s still got you.

    He isn”t interested in anything further with you. Guys decide within the first few months whether they want something serious with a woman so it’s common for relationships to end at 2-3 months when the guy realizes he doesn’t want it to go further, for whatever reason. You did nothing wrong so don’t feel bad about that. Just move on. Keeping him blocked will help you do that.

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