Celebrity Story – Totally Crazy

As he is a celebrity he will obviously be very busy and also it can carry stress I would imagine! I would definitely leave him be for a while and maybe contact him in a month or so and see how everything is going. How busy is he, what type of celebrity is he, what does he do? Sounds like a silly question but just trying to get an insight, obviously you don’t have to say! Hope it all works out for you :)

Rae, he is in the film industry but not an actor.

I am a rather proud woman, I already feel so hurt after two private messages he ignored… even though he somehow showed he cared, by liking my photos.

Flirting is nice and when it is a two way street its extra nice. So i guess it made you both feel good.
But in the end, it was mostly a penpal thing and although they can be intens, they don’t tend to develop into a real relationship. So you have to think this through, he lives in another country, right now isnt feeling good at all so probably not thinking about you at all. I would chalk it up to a nice adverture and stop wondering if there is a future for you too.
He doesn’t respond right now, so i would make sure ill be active socially. I’m not a fb poster, but you are, so post some stuff of that now and then. He will get back on his feet and maybe he will reach out.

Are you being serious? how old are you?

And whatever the case, do not write to him again, he is a man, celebrity or not, if he is interested, he’d act on it.

Is this real? I honestly don’t know anymore!

Another thing: I’ve actually taken my time to read advice from Eric, Sabrina and other brilliant coaches on the web.

Things like “he’ll do everything he can” (so early on? really? how old are YOU?) is a MYTH.

I have enough romantic experience. I had extremely passionate men do for me things you only see in movies, like take a plane from countries away on a very short notice just to apologise for something they did. I had many LDRs and they all did impressive stuff. Guess what… they were only doing it because they were too young, inexperienced and passionate… or because of their EGO. To prove that they CAN. They were all terrible matches to me, but we allowed passion to blind us. No, I won’t have that thing anymore. I’d rather invest in a man who’s taking things slowly. Also, my exes would do so much for me, but their life and career were a complete mess. This man is making that a priority and I perfectly understand it. Because that’s how it is when you start growing up.

Antonia I genuinely didn’t know if this was real. We do get some strange posts on here sometimes!

You have met this guy once at an event and have never spent any alone time with him. He totally ignored you for 3 months. I agree that more mature men doesn’t jump into things, but he let the contact drop to just liking things on social media. That’s pulling away and showing little interest, not taking it slowly.

It’s great he wants to meet you again, but do be careful. You say you are in love with this man but you hardly know him. You could end up getting very hurt if you feel that strongly about him having only met him once.

I’m sorry but I agree with Hannah, you’ve met this man once at an event but never made any plans to spend time together besides that? He ignored a few of your private messages but eventually replied, how do you know if you didn’t reach out again that you would hear anything.

Celebrity or not, he made NO effort at all! You feel you love him because you probably feel you know him more than you actually do due to his status.

I hoped my messages would be read thoroughly by those who took time to reply. The first posters were actually considerate and realistic.

Hannah,
we did talk enough at the event and he tried to meet me the next day when he was free, but my travel arrangements made that impossible. Also, he wanted to see me like several weeks later, but I could not be around. One of my close friends died back then. He tried to make plans with me and all I could say back then was “No, no, no, sorry”.

Yes, my story is true. When I posted it, I was desperate because I felt hurt, with all abandonment issues in my life coming back to haunt me. I KNEW he could be very busy and even depressed. Heck, I know what depression is. Even the most pleasant things become dull or a burden.

Now, when did I say he did nothing for 3 months?!
On the contrary, he sent signals on social media, signals he sends only to very few people.

He only ignored/forgot ONE message.
So how did you guys come up with those details?

When he replied to my latest message, I had to dig deep to find it, because my inbox was full. It’s full every day and I’m far from being famous. This should also cast some light on the events.

Honestly, I couldn’t care less if anyone believes my story or not. This is not a forum for show off, but for help.

Oh Vanessa, life experience isn’t enough. That can be quite bitter. What if one has had only failures? Then they will tell everyone that nothing is ever going to work out. I love Eric’s advice on this site because he is like a true psychologist, he goes at the core of everything and isn’t sugarcoating anything. Any advice giver should strive to be like that. It takes a brilliant and open mind, great attention to details and so much more. It’s annoying to ask for some insight but get those typical lines we fed when we were teenagers…

My advice…wait it out, let him come to you. No sense in worrying about what will be. If it is meant to be and if he is seriously interested in something with you, he will make it happen. Like I said, he is in the PERFECT position to pursue you, wine and dine you, fly to you, fly you to him…if he wants you he can make it happen.

Sit it out. Be cool. Continue with your fabulous life, forget about who has wronged or hurt you in the past. Don’t let past abandonment prevent you from believing things can work out in the future, but don’t let it make you cling to someone that is leaving you feeling antsy or unsure. You should only feel certainty that a man wants you.

I do not wish any more comments on this topic.

Thank you Redcurleysue, Rae and Newbie for your insights!

I really don’t understand people who post and then get offended by people’s responses they don’t like. I would take the advantage to think about what they are saying in stead of calling them haters. Yeah i misunderstand posters too sometimes or i think that responses are focussing too much on the psychology instead of the question, but if you take it in, you can take that into account.
Meanwhile i’m happy he responded if that is all you wanted, but that’s not much of a victory in my book. What do you want from this man, have you thought about that?